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I just went over there and read the thread, and I have to agree with Rete.

Many of us can probably empathise with Ruby. However, it is important to note that there are two people in a marriage, and two sides to everything. Offering support while she comes to her own conclusions what to do is as far as we can go. Being so brutally honest on a public forum about your marital problems takes courage. But it is only one side. I bet if Ruby's husband were to post his side of things, it would look totally different. It seems too many people take sides and then slam someone who is just offering their point of view. Which was asked for. Too much stuff was thrown out there, including how people expect fathers to show love to their children. There's no rule book.

Good luck Ruby, whatever you decide to do. Just hope the kids get through unscathed by all the turmoil.

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Rete

i read the thread and actually re-read it again before i commented to ruby ;)
Like another poster has advised to put this topic on open forum was brave, we only hear her side of stuff and i am not here to tell her what to do or what to say to her OH....
she advises that she has people helping her with the depression and that is who she needs to listen too, not people on a open forum.
How one person acts towards a child is different to how another acts, no one should say there way is right, there is no rule book for bringing children up in this life and for some reason when they made child, they didnt invent a haynes manual :eek:

what people have wrote is what they think, if ruby doesnt like it, then walk from the thread or back off for a few days, i know i have over time when things go wrong in your life.
i sent ruby the peom to help her in her state

Ruby has to sit alone and decide what she wants from life and go for it, be it right or wrong, she is the one that must make her life work ;)

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Super mods canvas all of BE rather than just one forum. In addition to myself, there is NC Penguin, Mitzyboy, Pollyana, etc. You can check out who is who and who covers which forums at the start of the forum index at the bottom.

I don't mind your asking. It is public knowledge.

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I know and that sucks. I'm a woman who was divorced at age 27 when my kids were 7 and 4 years old. My husband was abusive emotionally and verbally due to being a manic depressive who refused to take his meds.

Ruby is a strong and very capable woman and she will make her life work for her and her sons. She is in the worse position because it is not just her life that she is making or has made decisions about in the past, but those of her innocent children. I just hope that the good results come quickly for them all and that the pain subsides even faster.

My comments about Cricket1's post has nothing to do with my empathy for Ruby nor was it intended to be construed as such. As a person who has been there and done, I can sympathize because I have walked in those shoes rather than just empathize. But as one who has been there and done that, I can also see where Cricket was coming from.

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Now that statement could be read in at least two ways......either as a sympathetic nod to the situation and a genuine wish that the kids will be okay, or a sarcastic reflection on how the kids are suffering at the hands of their parents. See how easy it is for a short sentence to be misinterpreted? ;)

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Thank you for that......but you haven't answered my question about what makes you a Super Moderator. What are the criteria for such a role?

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Being daft enough to accept it I suspect. Honestly, who needs this kind of examination every time you make a judgment call!

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Thank you for sharing that Rete....it helps to see the "human" side behind the Super Moderator title :) It's success stories like yours that I gain strength from, of women who have suffered hard times in their relationships and made it through to the other end.

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Politicians, law enforcers and anyone else legally carrying a gun.

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I'm interested, that's all...if you don't ask, you don't know!
I genuinely want to know.......I'm not in the habit of just accepting something "because I told you so".....there has to be a reason, and there should be no fear in explaining it..even to someone like me.
:)

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Gun toting mods, thats all we need:ohmy:

This aint no democracy folks, its a website. The owner makes the rules, and VOLUNTEERS enforce them as best they can.

Just be glad the volunteers we have do a decent job most of the time, otherwise this would quickly turn into usenet!!!

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Asked what makes me a Super Mod .. and I told you. That is the difference between a Mod and a Super Mod.

If you are asking what were the qualifications and/or criteria for being asked to assume this position by Administration, you will have to ask Administration as I didn't apply for the position. It was bestowed upon me several centuries ago ;-)

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A short sentence that stands alone can be misinterpreted from the meaning that the author attached to it.

However, a sentence that is part of a paragraph is harder to misconstrue or misinterprete because the meaning is held within the paragraph itself.

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No I asked you what the role of a super Mod is...then I asked you about the criteria. Thank you.

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Well now you have both answers. You must know what the role of a moderator is. You appear to have been here quite a while and are probably very familiar with the role of moderators on BE and other forums. If you still have questions, by all means, ask away.