Originally Posted by iaink

You are aware that that makes you sound a lot like a troll?

Yep, I love the little buggers

A miraculous conception then

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

I have deliberately been contentious to provoke interesting debate which is brilliant sitting here typing a few words in and then almost feeling everyone tapping on their keyboards in anger!!!

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I love being controversial its so much more interesting............."I can hear you all tapping away again!!""

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

I thank you very much for your comments because without debate we never learn anything and I love being controversial its so much more interesting............."I can hear you all tapping away again!!""

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

My husband missed the birth of our first child and only saw her when she was 2 months old and was posted in the Falklands when I was pregnant with our son and came back for the birth for one week and then left again till he was 3 months old. We have only lived together for 2 years when he got a posting near to where our family home is. But in these two years he spent night times studying for his degree from home and I worked nights to help pay for it. He is on detachment In Iraq and in the summer Afghanistan but mainly lives 3 hours away from us when in UK manages to get home for most weekends. I work as a legal secretary and our two children are at full time school. I suppose my life experiences have made me very independent and hard nosed. We've had to work for absolutely everything we have including the RAF pension (which is available to anyone who wishes to sign their life and liberty away for 25 years!!). So I really do know what its like to be homesick, wondering what your missing out on back in the UK, getting used to foreign foods, languages, people, knowing that when you walk down the street you won't bump into anyone you know. But these are perfectly acceptable and understandable feelings that everyone will feel at least once.

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

My husband is a Squadron Leader in the RAF and we have put our papers in for skilled work pr visa Feb 05. Obviously not heard anything yet but I have spent hours reading through this forum and to my astonishment am amazed at the lack of preparation done and investigative work done when people apply to live in another Country. My husband has degrees and qualifications up to the ying yang but doesn't expect to walk into a job. I don't expect warm, welcome arms at the school gates either. We have costed exactly how much taxes are, tumble dryers cost, insurance, flights home, houses, cars and children's clothes cost. My husband is experienced in telecoms and would be looking for a job in this area but being the professional he is we are paying for him to take Canadian qualifications that can be recognised and he will volunteer to work free of charge for a Canadian company before he expects a full time job interview. Why do British people think everything should be handed on a plate without hard work and homework being done. It looks to me that people fill in these forms and apply for visas in Countries they know very little about (either politically or geographically) and then wonder whats gone wrong when it all goes belly up. How on earth you can make such a rash decision within the first 6 months as well, oh please. Everywhere is rubbish when its new in the first 12 months and then things start getting easier. Have I read it wrong or do people not ask enough questions first about life changing decisions? Please feel free to correct me or add to the debate....

Originally Posted by britishvixen21

I appreciate your need or want to cause controversy, however when time comes that your sitting in Canada feeling very homesick or wanting some advice on your area, members here will probably tell you they thought you knew it all from your immaculate preperation. Its always good to keep potentially resourceful people on your side and promote yourself as someone they will want to help in the future.

Just a tip for the future.

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

My husband is a Squadron Leader in the RAF and we have put our papers in for skilled work pr visa Feb 05. Obviously not heard anything yet but I have spent hours reading through this forum and to my astonishment am amazed at the lack of preparation done and investigative work done when people apply to live in another Country. My husband has degrees and qualifications up to the ying yang but doesn't expect to walk into a job. I don't expect warm, welcome arms at the school gates either. We have costed exactly how much taxes are, tumble dryers cost, insurance, flights home, houses, cars and children's clothes cost. My husband is experienced in telecoms and would be looking for a job in this area but being the professional he is we are paying for him to take Canadian qualifications that can be recognised and he will volunteer to work free of charge for a Canadian company before he expects a full time job interview. Why do British people think everything should be handed on a plate without hard work and homework being done. It looks to me that people fill in these forms and apply for visas in Countries they know very little about (either politically or geographically) and then wonder whats gone wrong when it all goes belly up. How on earth you can make such a rash decision within the first 6 months as well, oh please. Everywhere is rubbish when its new in the first 12 months and then things start getting easier. Have I read it wrong or do people not ask enough questions first about life changing decisions? Please feel free to correct me or add to the debate....

Originally Posted by givemeabreak

My husband is a Squadron Leader in the RAF and we have put our papers in for skilled work pr visa Feb 05. Obviously not heard anything yet but I have spent hours reading through this forum and to my astonishment am amazed at the lack of preparation done and investigative work done when people apply to live in another Country. My husband has degrees and qualifications up to the ying yang but doesn't expect to walk into a job. I don't expect warm, welcome arms at the school gates either. We have costed exactly how much taxes are, tumble dryers cost, insurance, flights home, houses, cars and children's clothes cost. My husband is experienced in telecoms and would be looking for a job in this area but being the professional he is we are paying for him to take Canadian qualifications that can be recognised and he will volunteer to work free of charge for a Canadian company before he expects a full time job interview. Why do British people think everything should be handed on a plate without hard work and homework being done. It looks to me that people fill in these forms and apply for visas in Countries they know very little about (either politically or geographically) and then wonder whats gone wrong when it all goes belly up. How on earth you can make such a rash decision within the first 6 months as well, oh please. Everywhere is rubbish when its new in the first 12 months and then things start getting easier. Have I read it wrong or do people not ask enough questions first about life changing decisions? Please feel free to correct me or add to the debate....

Originally Posted by Judy in Calgary

The Ignore button is a great anger management tool.

Originally Posted by iaink

Wise words, as I have come to expect

Originally Posted by Hangman

With the above in mind remember that your husband is not always going to be the Squadron Leader and in civilian life people will not always defer to you.

In fact they are just as likely to tell you where to get off.

Best regards
Steve

Originally Posted by britishvixen21

I appreciate your need or want to cause controversy, however when time comes that your sitting in Canada feeling very homesick or wanting some advice on your area, members here will probably tell you they thought you knew it all from your immaculate preperation. Its always good to keep potentially resourceful people on your side and promote yourself as someone they will want to help in the future.

Just a tip for the future.

Originally Posted by R2D2

Over-confidence can be a dangerous thing.
And just to reitterate what others have said.....................all the preparation in the world is not the same as finding out what 'real life' is really like in a country that is unfamiliar to you. For us, the unfamiliarity, is the biggest factor that has affected us, and time, time, time is whats needed to overcome that.
We researched, we visited on a number of occasions, husband came over for interviews and worked very hard to secure a job for us to have on landing. In short we did everything within our abilities and finances to try and prepare us for this huge change in our lives, and fortunately luck has been on our side and all has gone smoothly (touch wood)...................BUT........and its a big but, the way you FEEL, you cannot prepare for. Thats why some people head 'home' after a relatively short period of time. Your personality does come into play a lot, in terms of how you adjust.

Originally Posted by Grah

LOL you will be really funny to watch,
If I'm are reading it right
Married 13 years - hubby rarely home
You're very independent and hard nosed.
Your moving to a new culture and new life where Hubby is going to be home all the time, and he'll be used to getting things done a certain way.



Good luck as many a miltary marriage has had more than it's share of stressors once hubby comes home for good. Every night and everyday is a sharing experience of how to do things.

Think about who decides what happens in your household and why, Hubby or you? After all who is home ALL the time.