View Poll Results: Would you be impressed?
Yes, thats ok with me
3
6.25%
No, I wouldnt be overjoyed
16
33.33%
When does she leave?
29
60.42%
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What would your reaction be???
Jan 8th 2012, 9:12 am
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What would your reaction be???
OK..
Hyperthetically speaking....
If some one staying with you for lets say 6 Weeks.... Chipped in a couple of hundred dollars to help towards their food, transport, holiday with family and ferry fares....
Then demanded that we all go out for a family meal....
helped Rack up a bill of $400
Then sat back whilst you paid for it out of that couple of hundred and a couple of hundred of your own.....
Would you be Very impressed????
Your options
A,Yes I would be ok with that
B, No I wouldnt be overjoyed
C, When does she leave?????
Hyperthetically speaking....
If some one staying with you for lets say 6 Weeks.... Chipped in a couple of hundred dollars to help towards their food, transport, holiday with family and ferry fares....
Then demanded that we all go out for a family meal....
helped Rack up a bill of $400
Then sat back whilst you paid for it out of that couple of hundred and a couple of hundred of your own.....
Would you be Very impressed????
Your options
A,Yes I would be ok with that
B, No I wouldnt be overjoyed
C, When does she leave?????
Last edited by eddie007; Jan 8th 2012 at 9:15 am.
Jan 8th 2012, 9:14 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Sorry, RE action.... Mistyped the title... I am a LITTLE bit stressed right now
Jan 8th 2012, 9:19 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Mind you, I have two 20 something year olds doing the same to me! Been here 10 months and haven't paid board for 4 months.
Jan 8th 2012, 9:23 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Talk about manipulation... there is NO WAY we can afford to be spending $200 bucks just after christmas right before a weeks holiday on a meal out....
Why does she think I cook at home?????
She INSISTS, she books the table at the restaurant of her choice... Then she sits back whilst we pay....
Jan 8th 2012, 9:27 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Hmmmm.... Tough love Wendy... Like I'm being tough...
Talk about manipulation... there is NO WAY we can afford to be spending $200 bucks just after christmas right before a weeks holiday on a meal out....
Why does she think I cook at home?????
She INSISTS, she books the table at the restaurant of her choice... Then she sits back whilst we pay....
Talk about manipulation... there is NO WAY we can afford to be spending $200 bucks just after christmas right before a weeks holiday on a meal out....
Why does she think I cook at home?????
She INSISTS, she books the table at the restaurant of her choice... Then she sits back whilst we pay....
I hope you manage to be tougher than I am hun. If she gets away with it now, then she'll carry on doing it.
Jan 8th 2012, 9:31 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Is she aware of the financial situation? I know it's hard with family, but you really need be honest with her, or at the very least your fella does.
Just point out to her now that for the next x number of weeks, you can't do this that or the other (such as use the air con;-)) because you have to pay for the meal
Or 'forget' to take cards/cash with you so she has no option but to pay
Just point out to her now that for the next x number of weeks, you can't do this that or the other (such as use the air con;-)) because you have to pay for the meal
Or 'forget' to take cards/cash with you so she has no option but to pay
Jan 8th 2012, 9:34 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Hmmmm.... Tough love Wendy... Like I'm being tough...
Talk about manipulation... there is NO WAY we can afford to be spending $200 bucks just after christmas right before a weeks holiday on a meal out....
Why does she think I cook at home?????
She INSISTS, she books the table at the restaurant of her choice... Then she sits back whilst we pay....
Talk about manipulation... there is NO WAY we can afford to be spending $200 bucks just after christmas right before a weeks holiday on a meal out....
Why does she think I cook at home?????
She INSISTS, she books the table at the restaurant of her choice... Then she sits back whilst we pay....
Last edited by ozzieeagle; Jan 8th 2012 at 9:37 am.
Jan 8th 2012, 9:35 am
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Re: What would your action be???
Is she aware of the financial situation? I know it's hard with family, but you really need be honest with her, or at the very least your fella does.
Just point out to her now that for the next x number of weeks, you can't do this that or the other (such as use the air con;-)) because you have to pay for the meal
Or 'forget' to take cards/cash with you so she has no option but to pay
Just point out to her now that for the next x number of weeks, you can't do this that or the other (such as use the air con;-)) because you have to pay for the meal
Or 'forget' to take cards/cash with you so she has no option but to pay
And pointed out that I've been casual since I quit my job and dont always get all the shifts I need...
And suggested we head to the beach for fish n chips so we can save some money.... But its "no, I've booked a table now, and we'll want a drink with our meal"
Am thinking my card is goung to get declined
HE needs to do something... And quickly
Jan 8th 2012, 9:36 am
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Re: What would your reaction be???
I wouldn't be expecting anyone to pay money (nor would i take it when offered)who stays with us but do expect guests to pick up their share of the bill when eating out and to buy some wine for home. I think this is little to expect. Not the same with my family though as they have no money and I am more than happy to provide for them
Jan 8th 2012, 9:37 am
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Re: What would your action be???
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks its a no no for a DIL to mention it... Feel like a gutless wonder right now...
Jan 8th 2012, 9:39 am
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Re: What would your reaction be???
I wouldn't be expecting anyone to pay money (nor would i take it when offered)who stays with us but do expect guests to pick up their share of the bill when eating out and to buy some wine for home. I think this is little to expect. Not the same with my family though as they have no money and I am more than happy to provide for them
Jan 8th 2012, 9:40 am
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Re: What would your reaction be???
I wouldn't be expecting anyone to pay money (nor would i take it when offered)who stays with us but do expect guests to pick up their share of the bill when eating out and to buy some wine for home. I think this is little to expect. Not the same with my family though as they have no money and I am more than happy to provide for them
Jan 8th 2012, 9:41 am
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Re: What would your action be???
You dont handle all the finances do you ? If so then the parameter of the meal out should have been anticipated before hand and you should have told him you were not going. This is more your and your husbands issue IMO.
Damn I'm going against personal BBS rules to myself now.
Thats just my own personal way and everone is different... so its up to you.
Jan 8th 2012, 9:44 am
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Re: What would your reaction be???
I wouldn't be expecting anyone to pay money (nor would i take it when offered)who stays with us but do expect guests to pick up their share of the bill when eating out and to buy some wine for home. I think this is little to expect. Not the same with my family though as they have no money and I am more than happy to provide for them
We have taken her out and about AND provided her with everything... With no expectations... Feels like what we were doing wasnt good enough...
$200 does not a millionaire make of us....
I feel sick