Selfless acts.
Dec 20th 2009, 10:31 pm
#31
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Re: Selfless acts.
Reading this thread made me realise how selfish I was some years ago, when I thought I was being helpful.
I did 3 months full time volunteer work for the Blind Society, but left them when they offered me a paid position as the accountant.
I now realise that I did it for my own satisfaction, and I ditched them when they decided to change the rules on me, by offering me money for what I was doing.
I did 3 months full time volunteer work for the Blind Society, but left them when they offered me a paid position as the accountant.
I now realise that I did it for my own satisfaction, and I ditched them when they decided to change the rules on me, by offering me money for what I was doing.
Dec 20th 2009, 10:59 pm
#32
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Re: Selfless acts.
Seriously, I am in awe of the camaraderie and bravery that makes people do this but surely you have to have something missing in your make-up? Is it the intensity of the bond in training or some misguided notion of honour?
I am not putting down the brave men who go to fight, my father fought in WW2, I just can't comprehend.....
I am not putting down the brave men who go to fight, my father fought in WW2, I just can't comprehend.....
Dec 21st 2009, 3:53 am
#33
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Re: Selfless acts.
I didn't do it to be thanked, or to make myself feel good- even if no one had thanked me I still would have done it.
Dec 21st 2009, 4:14 am
#34
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Re: Selfless acts.
Dec 21st 2009, 5:05 am
#35
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Re: Selfless acts.
Your thirst for knowledge is, it seems, unquenchable grasshopper?
Dec 21st 2009, 6:06 am
#36
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Re: Selfless acts.
Things like opening doors, handing in lost stuff I don't class as selfless acts. More like good manners really.
Dec 21st 2009, 10:49 am
#37
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Re: Selfless acts.
Reading this thread made me realise how selfish I was some years ago, when I thought I was being helpful.
I did 3 months full time volunteer work for the Blind Society, but left them when they offered me a paid position as the accountant.
I now realise that I did it for my own satisfaction, and I ditched them when they decided to change the rules on me, by offering me money for what I was doing.
I did 3 months full time volunteer work for the Blind Society, but left them when they offered me a paid position as the accountant.
I now realise that I did it for my own satisfaction, and I ditched them when they decided to change the rules on me, by offering me money for what I was doing.
You're not the first. Some studies have shown that people give far more when they are not being paid. As soon as you offer a small sum of money it changes the nature of the transaction and far less people would do it. One example was lawyers doing pro-bono work. When offered some pay they dropped out of the program in large numbers.Maybe the small amount of money removes the payback of feeling good?
Don't "they" also say that volunteers are consistently the happiest people in society - though maybe more people who are already content in the first place volunteer?
One person who I think does selfless acts is my wife. She is just a good person who thinks about others and really does not seem to do it to get payback for herself....bless her....she makes me sick
Dec 21st 2009, 7:15 pm
#38
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Re: Selfless acts.
When I was about 6 I found a wad of notes, and handed them into the police. They said I'd get a reward, but I never did. Didn't change my behaviour.
