Hi Fluffball, I agree with a lot of what has been said, but as someone who counsels couples and individuals for a living, I do think that there is a distinction between, "nasty rows" and verbal abuse. Its understandable that you want to give your partner the benefit of the doubt at this time, but you don't have to put up with abuse of any kind. Please feel free to message me if I can be of any help
all the best
Jackie

Hi Fluffball, How awful for you. Your boyfriend really needs someone to point out to him what he's doing. He's obviously not seeing things clearly and it's breaking down your health and confidence.

I hesitate to mention my own experiences because it was hugely traumatic and we were not able to resolve things. We came out to Sydney in 2001 with our two children, and things went wrong from the start. My husband of 14 years ended up leaving us for someone else within three months of us arriving. Eventually I was forced to take the children home again. Looking back on it now though, I think it would have happened sooner or later anyway. The breakup I mean, not going back as we all loved it there.

There is a happy ending though, because I am now with the most lovely man, and living back out here in Queensland.

Chin up! You are not alone and all will be well eventually! X