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Don't worry about that. It's just the uncomfortable feeling people get everytime they venture out of their comfort zone. Think of it like you're expanding your comfort zone. Don't think of it as going to a place that's foreign to you, soon that foreign place will be just as comfortable as being in England. You're broadening your horizons so to speak.

People that go on their own, I've been wondering this; How do you plan to live? Do you think you'll be able to get a job and earn enough to support yourself when you get there? I ask because I will probably have to go on my own and these questions have been messing with me lately.

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Thanks for that. Makes me feel a bit better! I suppose you're right, it's out of my comfort zone, and by thinking about just staying here, I will be staying inside the zone. I need to man up lol. :thumbsup:

Regarding your question, you make it sound as though us single people are going to try and attempt the impossible lol. :D How do I plan to live? I plan to arrive, and stay with my Aunt or Cousin and start looking for a place to rent and a job. Innitially, I will live of the small amount of savings I take with me, which will be about my years salary in the UK, so I should be ok for 6-8 months before I get low. I'm also happy to get a temp job too, like bar work etc, which will also help me meet new people. That's my life plan so far lol. :p

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good luck with the assesment! if i can help just ask :)

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lol, only how I'm meant to have my photos certified. Do I write with an extremly small pen? :rofl:

I've emailed them, hopefully they'll get back to me before I go to the solicitors tomorrow.

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Im in exaxtly the same boat, sent of my tradeassess forms today I just think if i dont do it now i never will, been trying to persuade her to give it a go for over 2 years now and not made any ground.

If it doesnt work out at least ill know i ve tried and not spend my life wondering what could of been :unsure:

Nathan

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Bit quiet in here today!

Hey Nathan, same as me, I have tried, and she's undecided. I thought about how I would feel if we broke up a year or so down the line, and I would then kick myself for staying just for her. It's a cruel thought, but could very much come true.

I also was sending my skillsassess of today but need to wait till Monday due to needing to be paid lol.

Does the 1983 refer to year born? Me too! Where you heading out of interest?

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Yes it does 26 now so time to make the decision, hopefully heading to the Gold coast, what about yourself?

What do you do for work?

I think if i didnt try it i would maybe end up blaming her for it and that i would end up without her and not having tried it

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If you were born in 1983, how can you be 26 lol. :rofl: I was born in '83 and I'm 24, 25 this year!

I'm an Architectural Technician, off to Adelaide as I have family out there and they are sponsoring me. So will stay there for the first 2 years anyway.

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hey Nathan, good luck with everything and definately just go for it. I have a story to tell but i'll keep it brief!

in mid 2006 i received a job offer from a company in sydney. lived in newcastle uk at the time. they weren't too sure about sponsoring me, but i knew i could work the visa out. At the time i had just started seeing this great girl, and i decided that i would stay because of how i felt. I wanted to go, believe me. But decided to stay for her. Anyway, suffice to say she never accepted that i stayed for her, and she didn't want to go to aus long run and i still did, and it made a mess of things, and we are no longer together. Now, 2 years later, i am finally going. I try to remain philosophical about it because i loved her and loved being with her, and learnt a lot. Wouldn't change it. But on the other hand you sometimes think that you are 2 years older and have wasted the time.

anyway i think you see what i am saying. Unless you can say "i actually DON'T want to go to aus" then you should go. This is for all you guys! I know it's not that simple really, but it kind of is. Life will go on and you will meet someone else.

Also.. i have noticed it is us GUYS that are getting emotional and stressing out about our relationships! The girls are coping just fine. What's up with us?! God we've been feminised. Get me to aussie quick so i can chug a cold one and slap a bladdy sheilas arse! :thumbsup:

right xzibit, you are going for it, right?

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I'm going for it. I keep getting all these thoughts about why I'm wanting to leave etc, and think "no stay", but then I remember all the good times I had in oz when I've been there, the great people, the great way of life, and I can't wait to get there.

If my g/f don't want to go, then we're not meant to be, and we will have to split. I will meet someone else and enjoy my life. She does get upset when I mention going, and she says "you're not really going are you?", so it'll come as a shock when my visa app goes in!!

Coming this far and spending this much time thinking about the move, I can't just decide not to go, I've come too far. I must try it, even if I come back after a year, I've given it a go I I'll have no regrets.

So yes, pacey, I'm going for it. Monday is application day for vetassess and booking my IELTS!! Once I've done them, that's the hardest parts done.

:thumbsup:

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meant to say 25 lol :confused_smile:

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Thanks alot mate, and it is so true what you say, still doesnt make it easy though. lmao about it being the blokes that seem to be struggling and yet we re supposed to be the emotionally retarded ones (well so i keep getting told anyway) :lol:

xzibit i really would like to think the when the application goes in she would change her mind but i know she wont. I feel exactly the same and if i come back i come back ill know i tried at least. ill give it longer than 2 weeks though. A friend of a friend of mine went over with his wife, sold the house everything and were back inside 2 weeks
:ohmy:

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all the best xzibit, i dont think you will regret it

life is to short, you can always return if you dont like it but knowing you tried is something you wont forget.

good on you for going for it. see you out there :D

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Yeah deffo, all us "loners" will have to have a meet up once over there!

Nathan, I'm treating it as the year out I never had. The only difference is, it costs alot more than a WHV, but after a year, I can just stay there if I like, if not I can come on home and carry on.

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substitute "loners" for "lonely males", i think weve scared off the ladies!!:ohmy::ohmy:

anyway hope to see you all out there

where shall we meet? sydney? shall we act like gentlemen or perth where the men get raped!!! up to you guys. i know where im going!!:thumbsup::thumbsup:

doc a roo