How to Make Friends?
May 12th 2008 | 11:35 pm
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May 13th 2008 | 1:26 am
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behave the two of you!I remember ( I think 
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I am working really long hours for the Trading post for the next 4 weeks - at least, I do however have a window on Friday if you can make that?
I am already meeting Katsmagic at Starbucks 10:30am if anyone else wants to come along. I have no idea when I will be able to make another one. 
Home James
)I am working really long hours for the Trading post for the next 4 weeks - at least, I do however have a window on Friday if you can make that?
I am already meeting Katsmagic at Starbucks 10:30am if anyone else wants to come along. I have no idea when I will be able to make another one. Home James
May 13th 2008 | 12:27 pm
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Google and you shall discover
http://maps.google.com.au/maps?hl=en...39734557477372
How come you will come in to meet Wendy for coffee and not me
May 13th 2008 | 1:59 pm
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Google and you shall discover
http://maps.google.com.au/maps?hl=en...39734557477372
How come you will come in to meet Wendy for coffee and not me
http://maps.google.com.au/maps?hl=en...39734557477372
How come you will come in to meet Wendy for coffee and not me
I'm special
May 13th 2008 | 6:26 pm
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I've been in Adelaide since August having moved here from London. My husban d has work colleagues but I work from home and I'm desperately lonely, missing my social life. Everyone in Adelaide seems to have been born here, married someone they went to school then settled in the suburbs to watch Australian Idol.
There must be intelligent, witty, 30 somethings somewhere in this town, but how do I meet them? Those with children seem to have no time and not much interest in making new friends. I've tried voluntary work of various sorts and everyone is over 65, I've also tried lots of activities (I go to three different sports clubs a week), but everyone is younger than me there and while friendly enough no-one seems to want to go for a drink afterwards when I've suggested it.
What has worked for other people? I'm 34 and more into going to the theatre then out to the pub.
All suggestions gratefully received!
There must be intelligent, witty, 30 somethings somewhere in this town, but how do I meet them? Those with children seem to have no time and not much interest in making new friends. I've tried voluntary work of various sorts and everyone is over 65, I've also tried lots of activities (I go to three different sports clubs a week), but everyone is younger than me there and while friendly enough no-one seems to want to go for a drink afterwards when I've suggested it.
What has worked for other people? I'm 34 and more into going to the theatre then out to the pub.
All suggestions gratefully received!
Sounds like you're coming for coffee on Friday (hopefully?) but here's my twopence worth anyway
When we got here, we said that for at least the first 6 months we wouldn't say no to any invitation, however strange it appeared or how out of our comfort zone we thought we might be. Seems to have worked as we now have quite a few people we consider good friends. And some nutters we can't get rid of but they're fairly harmless
Like Tiggs says, can't promise witty or intelligent but I can promise we don't watch Australian Idol so hopefully that's a good enough start
Hope to meet you Friday anyway.
May 13th 2008 | 6:48 pm
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must be walking around with my eyes closed to have missed it then
ahhh bless
This is excellent advice - and it has certainly worked for me ... although maybe it is working too well this week as i seem to have more invites than i have days to fit them into 
lol to the Oz idol
ahhh bless
Hi AiA
Sounds like you're coming for coffee on Friday (hopefully?) but here's my twopence worth anyway
When we got here, we said that for at least the first 6 months we wouldn't say no to any invitation, however strange it appeared or how out of our comfort zone we thought we might be. Seems to have worked as we now have quite a few people we consider good friends. And some nutters we can't get rid of but they're fairly harmless
Like Tiggs says, can't promise witty or intelligent but I can promise we don't watch Australian Idol so hopefully that's a good enough start
Hope to meet you Friday anyway.
Sounds like you're coming for coffee on Friday (hopefully?) but here's my twopence worth anyway
When we got here, we said that for at least the first 6 months we wouldn't say no to any invitation, however strange it appeared or how out of our comfort zone we thought we might be. Seems to have worked as we now have quite a few people we consider good friends. And some nutters we can't get rid of but they're fairly harmless
Like Tiggs says, can't promise witty or intelligent but I can promise we don't watch Australian Idol so hopefully that's a good enough start
Hope to meet you Friday anyway.
lol to the Oz idol
May 13th 2008 | 6:57 pm
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May 13th 2008 | 7:02 pm
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Hi AiA
Sounds like you're coming for coffee on Friday (hopefully?) but here's my twopence worth anyway
When we got here, we said that for at least the first 6 months we wouldn't say no to any invitation, however strange it appeared or how out of our comfort zone we thought we might be. Seems to have worked as we now have quite a few people we consider good friends. And some nutters we can't get rid of but they're fairly harmless
Like Tiggs says, can't promise witty or intelligent but I can promise we don't watch Australian Idol so hopefully that's a good enough start
Hope to meet you Friday anyway.
Sounds like you're coming for coffee on Friday (hopefully?) but here's my twopence worth anyway
When we got here, we said that for at least the first 6 months we wouldn't say no to any invitation, however strange it appeared or how out of our comfort zone we thought we might be. Seems to have worked as we now have quite a few people we consider good friends. And some nutters we can't get rid of but they're fairly harmless
Like Tiggs says, can't promise witty or intelligent but I can promise we don't watch Australian Idol so hopefully that's a good enough start
Hope to meet you Friday anyway.
Really looking forward to meeting you on Friday; I am very excited about the Starbucks outing, I know what muffin I'm going to have and everything.
C x
May 13th 2008 | 8:02 pm
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Cheeky
Is it a surprise or can you tell us now? About the muffin that is? See I tend to make judgments about whether I like a person based on their choice of muffin - is it fruit based or predominantly chocolate? If it's fruit based, I might be busy Friday morning......
Very good advice! I have been doing my best to get out as much as possible but while everyone is friendly enough there have been huge ages gaps and no one we seem to have 'clicked' with, but I'll keep trying.
Really looking forward to meeting you on Friday; I am very excited about the Starbucks outing, I know what muffin I'm going to have and everything.
C x
Really looking forward to meeting you on Friday; I am very excited about the Starbucks outing, I know what muffin I'm going to have and everything.
C x
May 14th 2008 | 3:13 pm
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Mines a chocolate one thanks.
May 14th 2008 | 5:03 pm
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Very good advice! I have been doing my best to get out as much as possible but while everyone is friendly enough there have been huge ages gaps and no one we seem to have 'clicked' with, but I'll keep trying.
Really looking forward to meeting you on Friday; I am very excited about the Starbucks outing, I know what muffin I'm going to have and everything.
C x
Really looking forward to meeting you on Friday; I am very excited about the Starbucks outing, I know what muffin I'm going to have and everything.
C x
I am in Melbourne but can relate to your situation. I'm also 34, other half is 40 and we have no kids. I really enjoy going out to gigs, pub, sporting events, theatre - anything and everything, really - but being this age is really hard to make friends.
Young, child-less people often seem too young (early 20s) and people around our age tend to have kids or not really be into going out
It's a tricky age for meeting friends.
And my two best friends here recently left to go over overseas
Keep your chin up though ... you will meet people, and I'm sure the nice people off this board will be a good starting point
May 14th 2008 | 5:09 pm
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Hey Dianne
I'm sure you already know this but there are meets for people without kids (or more accurately for people who still want to or can go out without them) in Melbourne, Mr Anderson arranges them and they seem to be really well attended, plus I had a conversation with him offline and he seems really nice
We're similar age and situation, there must be plenty of us out there!!
I'm sure you already know this but there are meets for people without kids (or more accurately for people who still want to or can go out without them) in Melbourne, Mr Anderson arranges them and they seem to be really well attended, plus I had a conversation with him offline and he seems really nice
We're similar age and situation, there must be plenty of us out there!!
May 14th 2008 | 5:30 pm
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Hey Dianne
I'm sure you already know this but there are meets for people without kids (or more accurately for people who still want to or can go out without them) in Melbourne, Mr Anderson arranges them and they seem to be really well attended, plus I had a conversation with him offline and he seems really nice
We're similar age and situation, there must be plenty of us out there!!
I'm sure you already know this but there are meets for people without kids (or more accurately for people who still want to or can go out without them) in Melbourne, Mr Anderson arranges them and they seem to be really well attended, plus I had a conversation with him offline and he seems really nice
We're similar age and situation, there must be plenty of us out there!!
It's more meeting Aussies that I find the problem - have you noticed how a lot of Aussie girls tend to settle down really young? I know loads of people in their early 20s who have bought houses/got married/had kids and live quiet lives out in the far away burbs. I frequently even hear some of them at work discussing recipes
And as for finding people who might actually want to have a drink on, shock horror, a week night
I've even resorted to doing exercise some evenings now to give myself something to do
