Getting the call!
#1
Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
#2
Re: Getting the call!
OH Pony I am so sorry for your loss.
I wish I had words of wisdom for you. Just my sympathies and thoughts for you and your family Xx
I wish I had words of wisdom for you. Just my sympathies and thoughts for you and your family Xx
#3
Re: Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
So very very sorry for your loss........
#4
Re: Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
You get through it one day at a time. And trust me, in time it will get easier. For now though take care of yourself as much as you can.
#5
Re: Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
#6
Re: Getting the call!
So sorry for your loss Ponyrama, no words of wisdom here either except grieve (don't keep it in) and time will lessen the pain, you'll remember the good times.
Therese x
Therese x
#7
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Re: Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
Sending hugs for you, and wishing you the strength to cope.
xx
#8
Re: Getting the call!
I am very sorry for your unexpected loss.
I think that's the hardest thing to deal with, when it comes unexpectedly.
I hope you might find consolation in the fact that his passing was not drawn out and he passed away peacefully.
I believe he will always be there for you in spirit... and share your happy memories. x
I think that's the hardest thing to deal with, when it comes unexpectedly.
I hope you might find consolation in the fact that his passing was not drawn out and he passed away peacefully.
I believe he will always be there for you in spirit... and share your happy memories. x
#9
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Thanks everyone for your kind words. I have never appreciated before how much a few words do actually mean at a time like this. Bless you all for taking the time. xox
#10
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It does lessen over time but remembering happy memories and funny stories always helps me.
Like Polly said, I speak to Mum quite frequently and I know she is looking down on us......
Take care..xx
#12
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(((hugs))) so sorry for your loss, my sympathies to you and your family. I dont know that anything is going to make it "better" except time and perhaps being with people who know what you are going through.
#13
Re: Getting the call!
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).
I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.
How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
Sorry to hear your news. Big hugs for you xx
#14
Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 23,400
Re: Getting the call!
Take one day at a time, deal with each moment and emotion as it arises, be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.
I am so very very sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through, wish there was something I could say that would help.
I am so very very sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through, wish there was something I could say that would help.
#15
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Re: Getting the call!
your going to help everyone else through this.
worked for me
sorry to hear of your loss
that dreaded phone call, when you really do feel at the other side of the world.