Getting the call!

Old Apr 1st 2012, 8:26 am
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I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
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Old Apr 1st 2012, 8:42 am
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OH Pony I am so sorry for your loss.

I wish I had words of wisdom for you. Just my sympathies and thoughts for you and your family Xx
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
I have no idea how other people cope... I dont cope... I try to put on a front and carry on.... And the periods of overwhelming grief become less frequent....and eventually after a long time ...I just remember the good times....

So very very sorry for your loss........
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Old Apr 1st 2012, 8:46 am
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
Very very sorry for your loss. It's never an easy call for anyone.

You get through it one day at a time. And trust me, in time it will get easier. For now though take care of yourself as much as you can.
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Old Apr 1st 2012, 9:05 am
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
Oh no, thats awful. I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with your family x
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Old Apr 1st 2012, 9:07 am
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So sorry for your loss Ponyrama, no words of wisdom here either except grieve (don't keep it in) and time will lessen the pain, you'll remember the good times.

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I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
A way to come to terms with it? You find time for yourself, somewhere peaceful and then you talk to his spirit. I still do it, several years later, and he still speaks to me, sometimes when I least expect it - I hear his voice on the wind.

Sending hugs for you, and wishing you the strength to cope.

xx
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I am very sorry for your unexpected loss.

I think that's the hardest thing to deal with, when it comes unexpectedly.

I hope you might find consolation in the fact that his passing was not drawn out and he passed away peacefully.

I believe he will always be there for you in spirit... and share your happy memories. x
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Old Apr 1st 2012, 11:50 am
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Thanks everyone for your kind words. I have never appreciated before how much a few words do actually mean at a time like this. Bless you all for taking the time. xox
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I have never appreciated before how much a few words do actually mean at a time like this. Bless you all for taking the time. xox
I am so sorry for your loss. I think people have said what I would say. Don't be afraid to let your grief out. And expect it to appear at odd times. Just go with it and be gentle on yourself.

It does lessen over time but remembering happy memories and funny stories always helps me.

Like Polly said, I speak to Mum quite frequently and I know she is looking down on us......

Take care..xx
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((((()))))

I'm sorry.
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(((hugs))) so sorry for your loss, my sympathies to you and your family. I dont know that anything is going to make it "better" except time and perhaps being with people who know what you are going through.
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post
I got the call. Last wednesday 5.00am.

My lovely Dad had gone into day surgery for a routine procedure and he didn't wake up. I had to get dressed and drive round to my sisters to tell her - probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

We both flew home on Thursday and we are now having to deal with organising everything, funeral will be on Maundy Thursday (there was an autopsy which has delayed things).

I hadn't spoken to my Dad for a few weeks before this happened, too busy out doing my own thing and always meaning to call back but not getting round to it.

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx

Sorry to hear your news. Big hugs for you xx
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Take one day at a time, deal with each moment and emotion as it arises, be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.

I am so very very sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through, wish there was something I could say that would help.
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Originally Posted by ponyrama View Post

How do you deal with it? I know lots of you have had to do this - how do you get through? xxx
pretend your the strong one!
your going to help everyone else through this.
worked for me

sorry to hear of your loss

that dreaded phone call, when you really do feel at the other side of the world.
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