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Re: Depression / anxiety
Been feeling a little bit down this week.... Hopefully not sliding back... But the constant pain and the impact that has on my life is getting to me....
ThIs injury has robbed me of so much... It's just so ****ing unfair...:( Being forced into taking a low paid job (ok, so I love it, and it's really keeping me going) just to retain my sanity (such as it is) and beginning to realize that I may never be able to do what I have all this education and knowledge and years of experience for...... Because I was injured by some one in the course of my duties? It's not fair and I'm feeling very sorry for myself... Also feeling the pressure of Christmas... This is the first time ever that I haven't been able to do overtime/extra to pay for stuff ..... Like HE says, we will just have to do what thousands of other families do... Tighten our belts and get on with it.... Only I can't get on with it... Perhaps It's the loss of control over my life? I've always believed that I was in charge and responsible for my family's welfare and future... Always worked so bloody hard for it... And now we are pretty much screwed. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Big hugs Eddie. ((((((((((( hugs))))))))))
It is so unfair that you are lumbered with pain from an injury that has stripped you of so much. My sympathies- it is hard not being able to do what you want- I probably won't be able to work in childcare again due to the MS, so although my pain has gone, I can empathise with what you are feeling. Christmas is the worst time of year, as you want everything to be perfect, and it is much harder to bear when it isn't how you envisaged. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 10411803)
Been feeling a little bit down this week.... Hopefully not sliding back... But the constant pain and the impact that has on my life is getting to me....
ThIs injury has robbed me of so much... It's just so ****ing unfair...:( Being forced into taking a low paid job (ok, so I love it, and it's really keeping me going) just to retain my sanity (such as it is) and beginning to realize that I may never be able to do what I have all this education and knowledge and years of experience for...... Because I was injured by some one in the course of my duties? It's not fair and I'm feeling very sorry for myself... Also feeling the pressure of Christmas... This is the first time ever that I haven't been able to do overtime/extra to pay for stuff ..... Like HE says, we will just have to do what thousands of other families do... Tighten our belts and get on with it.... Only I can't get on with it... Perhaps It's the loss of control over my life? I've always believed that I was in charge and responsible for my family's welfare and future... Always worked so bloody hard for it... And now we are pretty much screwed. I learned some years ago about the danger of giving/receiving sympathy. Avoid it if you can as it will make you feel victimised or just inferior. Here is a simple analogy that might help. If you are a footballer about to take a penalty. The goalkeeper may seem to be enormous and covering much of the goal. You'd move your attention to the gaps created by him, rather than the goalkeeper himself and relieve some of the pressure and obstacle. I don't know your circumstance but, we all have some ability in us that can be put to use in the way we want. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by knockoff nige
(Post 10412583)
I think you need to focus on what you can do, rather than what you can't. You seem to be a well read person. Perhaps your next journey will involve sharing your experience/knowledge in a different form.
I learned some years ago about the danger of giving/receiving sympathy. Avoid it if you can as it will make you feel victimised or just inferior. Here is a simple analogy that might help. If you are a footballer about to take a penalty. The goalkeeper may seem to be enormous and covering much of the goal. You'd move your attention to the gaps created by him, rather than the goalkeeper himself and relieve some of the pressure and obstacle. I don't know your circumstance but, we all have some ability in us that can be put to use in the way we want. I COULD start to reclaim lost pay ground IF I undertake a higher degree.... And then was lucky enough to get abteaching post....Unfortunately the costs are prohibitive..... Enquiries are in hand though.... |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Crying atm. Could be the 2 glasses of wine, or the fact that I can't stand the face pulling and constant repression of any thing I have to say, feel worthless.
Got to stay strong for DD in her last year at school, but after that, who knows. Too much stress, and I don't deal well with it. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by eddie007
(Post 10411803)
Like HE says, we will just have to do what thousands of other families do... Tighten our belts and get on with it....
Only I can't get on with it... Perhaps It's the loss of control over my life? I've always believed that I was in charge and responsible for my family's welfare and future... Always worked so bloody hard for it... And now we are pretty much screwed. We don't go for it in a big way. Loss of control...know what you mean, feeling in control can be a luxury - or - you don't miss it until it's gone (I'd imagine). |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by carolinephillips
(Post 10420884)
Crying atm. Could be the 2 glasses of wine, or the fact that I can't stand the face pulling and constant repression of any thing I have to say, feel worthless.
Got to stay strong for DD in her last year at school, but after that, who knows. Too much stress, and I don't deal well with it. Later, write down what you're feeling and take it with you when you see the doc treating your depression again. Writing down what you're feeling slows down your brain a bit and helps control those runaway thoughts. :) |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by carolinephillips
(Post 10420884)
Crying atm. Could be the 2 glasses of wine, or the fact that I can't stand the face pulling and constant repression of any thing I have to say, feel worthless.
Got to stay strong for DD in her last year at school, but after that, who knows. Too much stress, and I don't deal well with it. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by lesleys
(Post 10420972)
Caroline, please don't drink any more wine. It won't help you. Much better to just go and have a nap, or try to lose yourself in a book and ignore your surroundings for an hour or two.
Later, write down what you're feeling and take it with you when you see the doc treating your depression again. Writing down what you're feeling slows down your brain a bit and helps control those runaway thoughts. :) |
Re: Depression / anxiety
I'm currently reading this book about niacin (vitamin B3) - a wonder vitamin that relieves and in many cases cures depression and anxiety. It's also good for arthritis and several other aging-related ailments. I'm currently using the non-flushing kind - 2000mg per day. Amazing stuff! :thumbsup:
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Re: Depression / anxiety
'Just seen the first episode of "Making Australia Happy" on the ABC IViewer. It's well worth watching :cool:
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Re: Depression / anxiety
DD' latest - I'm so ugly.
Poor kid has bad acne, is not tall and slim like a lot of her friends, and has a goofy smile. She won't wear braces, won't take the pill or use her creams properly, and eats too much, although she isn't overweight,( just solid in comparison to her fellow swimmers and BF in the UK who has just posted a very glam pic of her in a sparkly prom dress) but she feels bad. Today she thinks she has thrush, poor kid, so we went to get cream, but she hasn't been able to use it as her period started in between going to the chemist's and coming home. She is a lovely person, but is so stressed atm with y12 school that the slightest remark sets her off. I remember feeling ugly, being overweight, and at her age tried to commit suicide because I felt I wasn't good enough. I don't want her going down that route. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by carolinephillips
(Post 10533819)
DD' latest - I'm so ugly.
Poor kid has bad acne, is not tall and slim like a lot of her friends, and has a goofy smile. She won't wear braces, won't take the pill or use her creams properly, and eats too much, although she isn't overweight,( just solid in comparison to her fellow swimmers and BF in the UK who has just posted a very glam pic of her in a sparkly prom dress) but she feels bad. Today she thinks she has thrush, poor kid, so we went to get cream, but she hasn't been able to use it as her period started in between going to the chemist's and coming home. She is a lovely person, but is so stressed atm with y12 school that the slightest remark sets her off. I remember feeling ugly, being overweight, and at her age tried to commit suicide because I felt I wasn't good enough. I don't want her going down that route. If you think your daughter might be contemplating suicide then you must get her to some help http://www.livingisforeveryone.com.a...sheet%2021.pdf |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by paulry
(Post 10533848)
There was another teen suicide here in Canberra last week. :( The 18 year old son of the lady that one of my workmates lodges with. So sad, what a waste :(
If you think your daughter might be contemplating suicide then you must get her to some help http://www.livingisforeveryone.com.a...sheet%2021.pdf There are many youth suicides in Canberra unfortunately Paulry. Some more overt than others. |
Re: Depression / anxiety
Originally Posted by carolinephillips
(Post 10533819)
DD' latest - I'm so ugly.
Poor kid has bad acne, is not tall and slim like a lot of her friends, and has a goofy smile. She won't wear braces, won't take the pill or use her creams properly, and eats too much, although she isn't overweight,( just solid in comparison to her fellow swimmers and BF in the UK who has just posted a very glam pic of her in a sparkly prom dress) but she feels bad. Today she thinks she has thrush, poor kid, so we went to get cream, but she hasn't been able to use it as her period started in between going to the chemist's and coming home. She is a lovely person, but is so stressed atm with y12 school that the slightest remark sets her off. I remember feeling ugly, being overweight, and at her age tried to commit suicide because I felt I wasn't good enough. I don't want her going down that route. |
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