Whats with the obsession with making friends
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Whats with the obsession with making friends
I am totally addicted to this forum, and been reading an awful lot over the weekend. What is standing out is peoples obsession with making friends when they arrive in Australia. I am currently in the UK and have very few friends through choice. I have my work and my four kids, my mum lives an hour away and my sister 5 minutes around the corner, probably see her once a month.
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
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Good for you. However, I, and probably most other people, are not like you. I want/need friends for many reasons - that doesn't mean that I am not independent and can't get along with my own company.
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I do understand your point. When I moved from the north to the south I gradually built up a new network of friends, but my now ex wife just couldnt do it and constantly pined for her old friends.... ironically now we are divorced she never moved back and still has no friends!
I think its more of a social progression thing, friends open doors etc...
I think its more of a social progression thing, friends open doors etc...
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I think the key to what you have said, is having 4 kids
I am a rather social creature and had so many friends at home that I often found it hard to diarise them. I came here and was SO glad of the break. Now with kids, I cant be bothered much and like my own space. In the last 7 years I have gone more solo and it really suits me.
You do pick more up though unintentionally along the way!
I am a rather social creature and had so many friends at home that I often found it hard to diarise them. I came here and was SO glad of the break. Now with kids, I cant be bothered much and like my own space. In the last 7 years I have gone more solo and it really suits me.
You do pick more up though unintentionally along the way!
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Re: Whats with the obsession with making friends
I am totally addicted to this forum, and been reading an awful lot over the weekend. What is standing out is peoples obsession with making friends when they arrive in Australia. I am currently in the UK and have very few friends through choice. I have my work and my four kids, my mum lives an hour away and my sister 5 minutes around the corner, probably see her once a month.
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
Everyone is different but to me, friends are a priority right near the top. A decent house or job is actually fairly easy to find, finding a decent friend involves luck, effort and the full application of your instinct.
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At some point you may hit hard times(I hope not though!)then you will realise the importance of friends.
Everyone is different but to me, friends are a priority right near the top. A decent house or job is actually fairly easy to find, finding a decent friend involves luck, effort and the full application of your instinct.
Everyone is different but to me, friends are a priority right near the top. A decent house or job is actually fairly easy to find, finding a decent friend involves luck, effort and the full application of your instinct.
Are you starting to see why I dont have many friends
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I think friends are important for a few reasons.
One we all need an outlet even so we can talk about our friends with our partners. Or vice versa.
Sometimes you just need people it can be very dis-heartening when you are stuck at work, your wife needs a hand and you have no-one you can call.
One we all need an outlet even so we can talk about our friends with our partners. Or vice versa.
Sometimes you just need people it can be very dis-heartening when you are stuck at work, your wife needs a hand and you have no-one you can call.
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A lot of Poms arrive in Australia and complain after two years that they don't have as many friends as they did in the UK. (This is usually blamed on Australians, for some strange reason).
What they seem to forget is that you can't replace several decades of friendships within the space of a few short years in a new country. After all, they didn't accumulate all their UK friends in two or three years, so why would Australia be any different?
What they seem to forget is that you can't replace several decades of friendships within the space of a few short years in a new country. After all, they didn't accumulate all their UK friends in two or three years, so why would Australia be any different?
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I agree with your point to a point lol. I have hard times here in the UK, however I just get on with it and sort it out. I hate asking anyone for help, just a personality trait I guess. I wouldnt dream of asking the few friends that I do have to help me in anyway, like lending me money etc. I do enjoy a good natter with a mate, but can function just as easily without it.
Are you starting to see why I dont have many friends
Are you starting to see why I dont have many friends
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Re: Whats with the obsession with making friends
I am totally addicted to this forum, and been reading an awful lot over the weekend. What is standing out is peoples obsession with making friends when they arrive in Australia. I am currently in the UK and have very few friends through choice. I have my work and my four kids, my mum lives an hour away and my sister 5 minutes around the corner, probably see her once a month.
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
Making friends would be way down on my list of priorities, more important for my kids to make friends etc. My only worry if I ever did emigrate is having nobody to meet me at the airport, but I am a fly by the seat of your pants kind of woman, so would just get a taxi to the rental or something.
Claire x
I'm like you. I like having friends (especially drinking and exercise buddies) but I can function quite easily without them. Thus making friends wasn't a top priority and is just something I let happen. My wife is the opposite.