Talking Myself out of Emigrating
Nov 24th 2007 | 12:36 pm
#16
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From: South Wales to New South Wales!
Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
cant really be positive for you..
if your hearts not in it, dont do it.. as going back to uk, with all your stuff, is gonna be soo expensive.
You have to be 100% positive in my mind to do it,
You need to be 100% pig headed
You need to be 100% selfish
If your not, your possibly fooling yourself, and it will never work.. you seem to be crying out for reassurance, but still I think you should perhaps sit on your visa for a while, and see how things pan out...
if your hearts not in it, dont do it.. as going back to uk, with all your stuff, is gonna be soo expensive.
You have to be 100% positive in my mind to do it,
You need to be 100% pig headed
You need to be 100% selfish
If your not, your possibly fooling yourself, and it will never work.. you seem to be crying out for reassurance, but still I think you should perhaps sit on your visa for a while, and see how things pan out...
Nov 24th 2007 | 12:39 pm
#17
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From: South Wales to New South Wales!
Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
Thats not whingin, its your more realistic reaction to a country you have now seen, maybe your image before was a bit more glam. Give yourself some time to think now you know more about it, weigh up the pros and cons and see if its really worth upsetting the family applecart for.
Nov 25th 2007 | 10:15 am
#18
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Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
I think it's cold feet, and exactly the reason why I always said I wouldnt do a validation trip.
If you can afford it I think come over and give it a go. Kids, well how often have we heard or read the tale of teenagers who dont want to move, then give them 6 months to a year and they love it? Kids are kids, a lot of them dont want to eat their greens but they get made to, maybe I'm old fashioned and maybe once mine reach that age I'll think differently, but I really dont think you should let your kids run your life.
JMHO
If you can afford it I think come over and give it a go. Kids, well how often have we heard or read the tale of teenagers who dont want to move, then give them 6 months to a year and they love it? Kids are kids, a lot of them dont want to eat their greens but they get made to, maybe I'm old fashioned and maybe once mine reach that age I'll think differently, but I really dont think you should let your kids run your life.
JMHO
Nov 25th 2007 | 10:20 pm
#19
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From: France
Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
Hi,
I agree with the last post. Do what is in your heart and only you know that. Children leave us all eventually and don't even think of us it's life! My daughter is only 8 and already is saying that when she is old enough she is going to return to live in France without me! She hasn't even been to Oz yet!!
I'm sure your dad wouldn't want you to put your life on hold for him, as much as it hurts you to leave him. We are only here once in the flesh, make a go of it and if it doesn't work then you will have no regrets. No one is saying that you have to live forever in Oz and no one will slate you for it either way.
Good luck hope it works out for you.
I agree with the last post. Do what is in your heart and only you know that. Children leave us all eventually and don't even think of us it's life! My daughter is only 8 and already is saying that when she is old enough she is going to return to live in France without me! She hasn't even been to Oz yet!!
I'm sure your dad wouldn't want you to put your life on hold for him, as much as it hurts you to leave him. We are only here once in the flesh, make a go of it and if it doesn't work then you will have no regrets. No one is saying that you have to live forever in Oz and no one will slate you for it either way.
Good luck hope it works out for you.
Nov 26th 2007 | 12:59 am
#20
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Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
Another option for you Debs would be to wait in the UK until your daughter finishes school, whether that be at age 16 or 18 and then go and study in Australia. You have 5 yrs from visa validation so you're in no rush. I can understand it being the wrong time for your daughter to move, with her GCSEs next year and her important circle of friends around her. If you waited until she was 18 she could take a gap year to travel Australia, during which time you could relocate.
I wish you luck!
I wish you luck!
Nov 26th 2007 | 7:01 am
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Re: Talking Myself out of Emigrating
Another option for you Debs would be to wait in the UK until your daughter finishes school, whether that be at age 16 or 18 and then go and study in Australia. You have 5 yrs from visa validation so you're in no rush. I can understand it being the wrong time for your daughter to move, with her GCSEs next year and her important circle of friends around her. If you waited until she was 18 she could take a gap year to travel Australia, during which time you could relocate.
I wish you luck!
I wish you luck!
