LisaT

Thank you.

Parents have now gone and I feel like absolute crap. Struggling to get with normal life right now. But hoping it will ease soon.

chrisandvee

Hey Hun
Things will definatley ease.
Before we moved over here we lived in Spain for a couple of years and there were tears everytime we had to say goodbye at visits.
But remember all the reasons why you came
We are down in Margaret River at the minute and we feel totally isolated and feel down
So we are moving back upto Perth and I feel good about this as its a decision we have made.
I did feel trapped but now I dont.
Remember life is about choices and if you don't like where your at, you can always move on.
cheer up and keep smiling

quoll

If you can come up with a plan and put a time frame on it before your next decision point then it does make coping a whole lot easier. If you agree that getting citizenship is your first goal then work towards that date as your next decision point and in the meantime think of this as being a life adventure, not necessarily the rest of your life. I think being trapped and seeing no end in sight is the thing that makes it harder to live with. If you believe that you can make a choice by a defined time then it is easier. Hope it all picks up for you!

asprilla

Hi LisaT, for what its worth, I don't think that your 3yr old and 1yr old will be affected at all.....kids from every nation around the world go through this kind of thing all the time.

Think about it - even if you do stick it out for 4yrs, they will be 7 and 5 when you go back to the UK. Do you really, really think that they will somehow have suffered ? I reckon they are far too young for this to be a concern.

The people that would really suffer, by the sounds of things, are you, your sister and your parents.... Trust me, the kids will cope !

best of luck whatever you decide.
Mark

Iwannabethere

Hey, Lisa! It's Adi.

Sorry to hear you are feeling so down! Not over there yet so haven't experienced this but just try to focus on one day at a time. Yes, you will be upset when your sister goes but why not try working on something like a memory book with the cousins, just a scrap book with photos, tickets, lolly wrappers etc so that they have something to take back to the UK to remember their trip etc? You could do a montage of photos for your sister (or a DVD).

And on the really crap days come on here or send me a pm - I've got broad shoulders!!!


Adi

LisaT

Hello stranger

How are you? Any move on things for you?
I'm feeling a bit better after a couple of glasses of wine but don't think that's a long term remedy.

Dorothy

I don't want to seem like I'm having a go at you, but what did you honestly think would be "better" about Australia? There is crime here, as there is in any country. YOU and your family are now immigrants. Healthcare here is nowhere near perfect.

I have to also wonder why people who are very close to their families made the decision to move thousands of miles away from them. Did you not realise that you would miss them? Have you ever lived any real distance from them? Maybe a move to somewhere else in UK would have been more in order than across the world.

If you are truly unhappy here then probably the best thing would be for you to make a plan to return. Another thing I can't understand is people who are really unhappy sticking out an unhappy existance so they can get citizenship. If you don't intend to live here then why is citizenship so important that you would live here 4 years unhappily?

nephilim

hello there if it is any consolation I have been here over 2 and half years just moved interstate to qld and still get little pangs for home I have no contact with family back home as I never saw them when I lived there they dont even know Im in oz so what is it that makes me sometimes think about home,I am sure if you are close to your family that must have an effect but for people to say how could you indeed move to the other side of the world,as if you never thought it about is just unbeliveble,alot of people move who probably even closer to their family than you and still manage,but that is because everyone is different and so no matter how much you try you will still get little pangs for home,which isnt a bad thing,why do you have to block out however many years you lived there,you did have a life before oz.take care z

Iwannabethere

Things are moving slowly! Trying to get someone to replace 3 wooden windows is my biggest headache at the moment! That and trying to declutter a 4-bed house! Hopefully get more done over the summer holidays, even if I have to put Rebecca into nursery for an extra day a week. Now looking at October probably as unlikely to be before end Sept. Still got to sort out a job for Alex too.

As for the wine, maybe not a long term solution. Now chocolate..........

Chin up!

Adi

lauralollipop

I have to say I agree with Dorothy too, as for the health care - I now relise that NHS is bloody great - after having to deal with the system in Aus, the Health care in the UK is a lot better and free!!!!

As for visitors from family - we are always sad to see them leave when we take them to the airport etc.... but we love it too, getting our house back to ourselves and getting back into our normal lives........without having to do all the entertaining 24/7 while you have to still work, cook and clean.....

PS Dorothy were are you? I have a golden retriever too!!!

verystormy

Ok, we are new to Oz - only 2 weeks in, but we have lived in countries around the globe from China to Chile. The things we have noticed about Oz in this short term:
People are friendly
Crime is a LOT lower - we were burgled 3 times in last year year in UK, he was caught and given a suspended and guess what, yep, he did us again and was given another suspended just before we left
Weather is better
Anyone who thinks the NHS is decent needs to be sectioned - i have had treatment in third world countries that puts it to shame
Education - dont have a laugh

From our experience, any country is what you make of it.

Nick11

It's natural. My sis came out in January for 3 weeks. First 2 weeks were fab,but I spent the last week crying myself to sleep at the thought of her leaving.
When she'd gone it felt almost like a bereavement! Silly to say I know!!
Kept thinking we'd made a huge mistake.
6 months on - things are back to normal!!!
It takes time - they've been in your life 24/7 for x amount of time - it's only natural you'll feel this way.
Nick
x

nightnurse2

We've been over here 3 years and my mum has visited 3 times. The first time she left was a shock to my system - I love it here, don't feel homesick etc but was really really down when she left. The second time was quite bad but the last time was better.
It takes me a couple of months to get back on track. I tend to put weight on when they've gone ( but half of that is I've been dieting before she came and just want a blow out!).

Cheetah7

Oh my god, hello stranger!

It doesnt seem that long ago when you told me you had been offered the sponsorship and we hadnt even applied for our visa.

We have been here over two months now, Jesus time flies.

Hows it going?

Dorothy

We're in Clarkson. We got him from a really great breeder down in Southern River. He's such a good boy - well, not really good, but he loves his mummy, so that's ok. He's just going through the dumb puppy stage now. Where are you?