LOL..nothing that exciting Anya...

My daughter came online earlier to tell me she has tracked down a very old family friend that i have been searching for a long long time... i scoured Sydney for ages but got nowhere, so i am very excited about it...she means a lot to me and is well into her 80s now and i wanted to get to see her before its too late to thank her for all she did for me as a child

I'm sure that's *much* much better than a pair of cheap Jimmy Choos! Glad you found your friend & am sure it will be great for you to be in touch!

We managed to track down Mr Anya's long-lost Aunt last week (she's in Melbourne, where we're going) , emailed her & it turns out she has *no* wish to meet us or correspond with us - had a rather rude message back. Yikes! Mr Anya's Mom is VERY upset....

Anya.

It's not so much about someone else taking credit for ideas as a perception that the need to be heard and think out loud doesn't lend itself to considered decisions. This is especially true if the extrovert is someone that others respect and listen to. What some introverts never get is that sitting thinking doesn't always get a better answer, and it's much harder to "grease the wheels" and bring people over to your point of view if all the "complexities" of what you're thinking about don't get heard by others - they just hear your thought or proposal in isolation.

ahhh but you see that's an extroverted viewpoint. an introvert still communicates but just takes longer to think about what they're going to say - to an extrovert that seems as if they're being unresponsive, but to an introvert they have to do that to formulate their thoughts.

I wouldn't get too bogged down in these examples, but another one: say an extrovert as idea - often they would tell as many people as possible and bounce ideas around and get feedback etc etc - outward communication is how they think. an introvert would probably go away with the idea, analyse it, formulate it, mull on it some more, break it down and anaylse some more, and then tell someone about it. that's how introverts tend to think...

(my understanding of it anyway..)

I don't know if introverts mistrust extroverts - some probably do - but it's more that introverts by and large can't understand the way extroverts are and vice versa....

yes - culture and society by it's very nature reward extroversion - thus introverts have to adopt some extroverted techniques to get ahead (and to get a sometimes better & faster result), and sometime extroverts have to realise that introverts need time and space to think.

Brilliant analysis..........with my work I am extrovert, in life I play extrovert, truely I am introvert totally I am possibly up my own a$%^

But I really enjoyed and related to your reponse

Cheers

I even edited my own posting cause I was worried about spelling!

So are you saying Sandra that you take on an extrovert exterior in public, but feel naturally introvert?

Maybe we need to get some definitions of what people perceive is extrovert and introvert. I often feel the need to withdraw and be on my own, but i still dont see that as predominantly introvert.

Good grief!

Has some 'introvert' on this forum said they distrust 'extroverts'? Where did the idea come that introverts don't like extroverts? Is this just a generally feeling amongst extroverts?

I thought this thread was (perhaps) a light-hearted deviation from some of the testosterone-fuelled debates on other threads. Away from the them and us situation.

Those still awake down under should go to bed - I've got more important things to do - the school run.

janjuk gave the textbook definition of introvert versus extrovert and put it far better than I did. An introvert spends a lot more time inside their head and may or may not be a true good and useful person. The issue is that no-one else gets to see their mental processes.

An extrovert is the opposite, everyone knows what they are thinking and can feed into it or be persuaded or amused by it. They can also be bored or annoyed by it.

If we had a world of telepaths, everyone would have equal opportunity. As we don't, extroverts have a distinct edge over introverts.

In "real life" Im an extrovert - talk non-stop, talk to complete strangers, open my mouth before my brain is in gear can be a bit loud at times especially after a few vinos Im very cheeky according to my friends and family - in a nice way! obviously.

However on expats Im a bit of an introvert as I havent yet got the hang of "speaking" by posting things on the forum. This is the first forum I have ever joined = however I am also on go matilda as well and find it strange to post things and join in the chats - I think cos it happens so slowly in that by the time I have typed a response and about to post it my brain has actually got into gear and decided its better if I dont respond!!

I prefer being an extrovert to being an introvert as I get to say things I shouldnt cos Im not sensible - my mottos in life are "see it, like it, buy it" or "if you dont ask you dont get" and "life's to short" - please note how all apply to shopping!! and my other favourite is "glass is half full - its about time you topped it up"

LOL..i dont want to go to bed!!... i dont have those important things to do..i done my time, they all grown up!!

I honestly didnt mean to say you thought that way Servant24kids.
I just wanted to explore and debate the subject, but was finding it hard to get a response from the introverts....

I'm different from my wife because she is female, has green eyes and a photographic memory. I can do most of what she can. She can do most of what I can. We love each other very much (kinda like Teletubbies!)

I don't hate extroverts, but I'm rarely the star at a meeting.

So on expats we are waiting for your extrovert side to begin?

Usually happens after some of the percieved "lively" people leave. My claim to intovert, is I am still here on this site 2 plus yrs after joining. Still trying to make a point? :scared:

Cheers

That's EXACTLY how I feel in meetings!

I presume that someone who is a lot brighter than me would find something that IS interesting to say. The difference between me and a dim extrovert that is I don't fill the room with the arguments and ideas I dismiss!

A smart extrovert and a smart introvert may have the same great idea, but the smart extrovert will get the idea commisioned!

Sandra...why do you feel the need for "lively" people to leave before you can make a point?