do we get married?

Closed Thread Subscribe

Thread Tools

Mar 13th 2004, 11:58 pm

bonza69

Forum Regular

Thread Starter

Joined: Dec 2003

Location: ocean reef

Posts: 164

do we get married?

Last edited by bonza69; Mar 14th 2004 at 8:05 am.

Mar 14th 2004, 12:10 am

Phoenixuk2oz

Guest

Posts: n/a

Re: do we get married?

Quote:

[i]please help What do i do <A)wait 4 a few more years,and have everyone there or B)do it as me and my partener and 2 children and be a complete family b 4 i goNatasha

:scared:

Individual choice bonza69. Depends on who you value most in terms of the people who will be present & what you want for yourself, other half & kids. Maybe put scores out of 10 against the options and chose on scoring basis. There's no right or wrong!

Enjoy the day whichever you chose. Good luck

Phoenixuk2oz

Mar 14th 2004, 12:11 am

bondipom

Joined: Aug 2003

Posts: 11,149

bondipom is an unknown quantity at this point

How close are you to your friends and family in Perth? I had a similiar dilemma years ago and decided to wait. Seeing the looks on the mothers faces was a priceless moment. It was an unforgettable day.

Mar 14th 2004, 12:25 am

bonza69

Forum Regular

Thread Starter

Joined: Dec 2003

Location: ocean reef

Posts: 164

Quote:

Originally posted by bondipom
How close are you to your friends and family in Perth? I had a similiar dilemma years ago and decided to wait. Seeing the looks on the mothers faces was a priceless moment. It was an unforgettable day.

Thank u 4 ur replys,but i must stress,that my family as much as i love them do have there own lives,1 brother is in the army and going to IraQ at the end of March,my dad has re-married and has 2 children since i left home ,my mum left me when i was 10,(we get on ok,but not mum n daughter by ant means)my friends as much as what i love them do have there own lives,and i know that a couple of them with out a doubt would be present .we,ll c how it goes.

Last edited by bonza69; Mar 14th 2004 at 8:07 am.

Mar 14th 2004, 12:27 am

michaela

Forum Regular

Joined: Feb 2004

Posts: 49

michaela is an unknown quantity at this point

Do it in gretna and start your new life together in Perth as man and wife. Have fun and good luck

Mar 14th 2004, 12:32 am

Elaine M

Joined: Jun 2003

Location: Adelaide

Posts: 597

Hi Natasha,

As you say, whatever you do there will be someone who'll wish you'd done it differently.

Be "selfish" and go for what you want. You mentioned you wanted to start your new life in Perth as a completed family. If that means getting married before you go then so be it.

It's your and your partner's day not anyone else's.

Good luck and have a great life in Perth!

Elaine M

Mar 14th 2004, 12:34 am

Phoenixuk2oz

Guest

Posts: n/a

Quote:

Originally posted by bonza69
All i want to do is be his wife,and start a new life as a completed family ,am im selfish,or do i wait a few years and get married with everyone here,?

If what you want is the above then do it........it's not selfish.......it's your day and no one elses.......do what you want to do on your big day

Mar 14th 2004, 12:47 am

bonza69

Forum Regular

Thread Starter

Joined: Dec 2003

Location: ocean reef

Posts: 164

Quote:

Originally posted by Phoenixuk2oz
If what you want is the above then do it........it's not selfish.......it's your day and no one elses.......do what you want to do on your big day

,my family are my number one ive always wanted a big wedding in mexico,but i see it as a omen,

Its a good idea to do it here and then maybe a ceremony over there

Last edited by bonza69; Mar 14th 2004 at 8:09 am.

Mar 14th 2004, 12:49 am

Elaine M

Joined: Jun 2003

Location: Adelaide

Posts: 597

Quote:

Originally posted by bonza69
Do u know what ,i think we will do it,,my family are my number one ive always wanted a big wedding in mexico,but i see it as a omen,

in 3 weeks im gonna marry,my family are my 2 children and husband to be and at the end of the day they are my life rite?rite ?Illl keep u posted ,thank u sooooooo much,sometimes u need an open opinion to relise whats what ,cheers u guys,
natasha

Good for you; go for it, if it's what you want!

Have a fantastic day,

Elaine M

Mar 14th 2004, 12:51 am

#10

Phoenixuk2oz

Guest

Posts: n/a

Good for you Nats.........go for it girl. It's your life and at the end of the day it's gotta be your day.Enjoy it with your new hubby & kids...............then go start a new and exciting life in Oz!

Good luck 2 U & Your family xx

Mar 14th 2004, 1:07 am

#11

ABCDiamond

Guest

Posts: n/a

Here is one option:

Get married now. Then, if you want another bigger wedding celebration later, you can always do just that.

These days it is not uncommon to have two celebrations, often in different countries, to satisfy everyone involved.

Good luck.

Mar 14th 2004, 2:11 am

#12

Pollster

Kiwified member

Joined: Oct 2003

Location: New Plymouth, NZ

Posts: 1,647

Quote:

Originally posted by ABCDiamond
Here is one option:

Get married now. Then, if you want another bigger wedding celebration later, you can always do just that.

These days it is not uncommon to have two celebrations, often in different countries, to satisfy everyone involved.

Good luck.

Almost exactly what I was going to say - get married in Gretna and then have a blessing ceremony and a do in Oz when you get there with all your friends and family about.

Have a great wedding!!!