Big (Ladies) Problem
Aug 30th 2005 | 9:45 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
thanks for the update Nicky, so pleased that the first lot of treatment went well. 
Aug 30th 2005 | 8:26 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Your sister shouldn't be embaressed that this has nothing to do with Immigration. These forums have alot to do with humanity and your sister being able to offload to a faceless screen yet recieve human responses perhaps was a bit easier than speaking to "real" people.
Wish her well from me and tell her to return to BE when she feels ready
Gillian x
Wish her well from me and tell her to return to BE when she feels ready
Gillian x
Aug 30th 2005 | 8:48 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by nickyjohnt
just an update on my sis Michelle ,
...
Nicky
...
Nicky
Cheers
Anya.
Aug 30th 2005 | 9:11 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
I happened upon all of this rather late, but echo all of the sentiments expressed along the way....
A good friend of mine has just completed 6 months of chemo (about 8 treatments) for early bowel cancer. He found that the effects seem to get progressively worse with each treatment, and that the hardest things to deal with were the weird side-effects like huge pain and blistering on his hands if he came into contact with anything cold.... BUT at it's worst, he took to his bed for 2 days, and 2 days after that was helping a neighbour push-start his car! I know it is different for everyone/every treatment, but it's clear from him and other survivors, that life CAN go on during treatment - for much of the time at least....
And as for the hair, think Annie Lennox - was there ever a more beautiful, sexy... and hair-free woman?? Hope the ice-cap works, but if not - those bandanas look pretty cute... just look at Kylie!
Thinking of all of you who are going through something similar at the moment, and all of the rest of us who, perhaps just for now, are not - there are some pretty special women out there in this cyber space....
A good friend of mine has just completed 6 months of chemo (about 8 treatments) for early bowel cancer. He found that the effects seem to get progressively worse with each treatment, and that the hardest things to deal with were the weird side-effects like huge pain and blistering on his hands if he came into contact with anything cold.... BUT at it's worst, he took to his bed for 2 days, and 2 days after that was helping a neighbour push-start his car! I know it is different for everyone/every treatment, but it's clear from him and other survivors, that life CAN go on during treatment - for much of the time at least....
And as for the hair, think Annie Lennox - was there ever a more beautiful, sexy... and hair-free woman?? Hope the ice-cap works, but if not - those bandanas look pretty cute... just look at Kylie!
Thinking of all of you who are going through something similar at the moment, and all of the rest of us who, perhaps just for now, are not - there are some pretty special women out there in this cyber space....
Aug 31st 2005 | 6:27 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Hi Nicky,
Thanks for the update. Tell Shell to keep up the good work and that BE is NOT just about immigration!! We are a family!!
Our friend is just coming out of 8/9 months of treatment following breast cancer herself. She has lost her hair (now growing back), worn the Bandana, blew up due to the drugs etc etc etc. She is on her own (divorced) with four teenage sons and whenever we have seen her you cannot fail to be inspired by her courage and determination. However low she is feeling she ALWAYS has a smile. Her trademark saying became "I laugh in the face of danger!" from one of those kiddy films (sorry can't remember which one!). She has now turned the corner but she has had to go through some difficult times and focus on the future - getting well and returning to a 'normal' life. If anything it has certainly made her appreciate her life more (and us too). Hang on in there Shell. Stay strong and remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! Catch ya later. Karma sent...of course!!! Love Trev xx
Thanks for the update. Tell Shell to keep up the good work and that BE is NOT just about immigration!! We are a family!!
Our friend is just coming out of 8/9 months of treatment following breast cancer herself. She has lost her hair (now growing back), worn the Bandana, blew up due to the drugs etc etc etc. She is on her own (divorced) with four teenage sons and whenever we have seen her you cannot fail to be inspired by her courage and determination. However low she is feeling she ALWAYS has a smile. Her trademark saying became "I laugh in the face of danger!" from one of those kiddy films (sorry can't remember which one!). She has now turned the corner but she has had to go through some difficult times and focus on the future - getting well and returning to a 'normal' life. If anything it has certainly made her appreciate her life more (and us too). Hang on in there Shell. Stay strong and remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! Catch ya later. Karma sent...of course!!! Love Trev xx
Aug 31st 2005 | 7:53 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by lelchelle
Hi everyone out there.... just wanted to say another big thank you for all your messages and Karma ( Sophia ,sent you an e-mail to your hot mail address last week ..hope you got it !)
Just a quick update really , i got a letter in the post last week telling me that my first chemo appointment is this Friday...and got to admit ,after the initial relief of knowing that it had,nt spread anywhere else,and feeling very positive.... i am absolutely terrified! :scared: Even when i opened the letter and the heading was St Luke's Cancer Hospital...thought bloody hell...Ive got Cancer.
I think it,s the fear of the unknown ...and everybody that i speak to lately know,s someone who,s been through chemo ,and lets me know exactly what i,m going to go through.I think as i feel physically great at the moment ,it just seems worse...knowing for the next eighteen weeks Ive sort of lost my "normal way" of life ,and in order to be free of cancer i have to put my body through this.Even the effect on the rest of my family worries me , my partner who is self employed and will have to take time off work etc.. and my son Jai who,s six.. well it,s just hard to explain to him whats going to happen,he knows my hair will go(thinks thats well funny!!)but as i dont know myself ,abit hard to explain the rest.
I,m enjoying my Friday night tonight ,as bought bottle of wine ,then thought mmmm....probable wont fancy it
One more thing .....Ladies out there .....my cancer is apparently quite a rare one ..Evasive Lobular Breast Cancer. It,s not the kind you find a lump with,but one that you notice a change in your breast.Mine sort of looked liked it changed shape,and the nipple was slightly inverted
Just want to mention this ,as at the time i did,nt think that it was anything in particular to worry about ....in fact thought it was the way i slept at night,on my front and that i squashed it into that shape ... DUH
Michelle x
Just a quick update really , i got a letter in the post last week telling me that my first chemo appointment is this Friday...and got to admit ,after the initial relief of knowing that it had,nt spread anywhere else,and feeling very positive.... i am absolutely terrified! :scared: Even when i opened the letter and the heading was St Luke's Cancer Hospital...thought bloody hell...Ive got Cancer.
I think it,s the fear of the unknown ...and everybody that i speak to lately know,s someone who,s been through chemo ,and lets me know exactly what i,m going to go through.I think as i feel physically great at the moment ,it just seems worse...knowing for the next eighteen weeks Ive sort of lost my "normal way" of life ,and in order to be free of cancer i have to put my body through this.Even the effect on the rest of my family worries me , my partner who is self employed and will have to take time off work etc.. and my son Jai who,s six.. well it,s just hard to explain to him whats going to happen,he knows my hair will go(thinks thats well funny!!)but as i dont know myself ,abit hard to explain the rest.
I,m enjoying my Friday night tonight ,as bought bottle of wine ,then thought mmmm....probable wont fancy it
One more thing .....Ladies out there .....my cancer is apparently quite a rare one ..Evasive Lobular Breast Cancer. It,s not the kind you find a lump with,but one that you notice a change in your breast.Mine sort of looked liked it changed shape,and the nipple was slightly inverted
Just want to mention this ,as at the time i did,nt think that it was anything in particular to worry about ....in fact thought it was the way i slept at night,on my front and that i squashed it into that shape ... DUH
Michelle x
Aug 31st 2005 | 8:05 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Hi Michelle,
My thoughts are with you - I've been in the same situation as you are. I've sent you a pm.
Just wondered, have you been advised by your agent (or another) to wait for a 3 year period, or your consultant?
Hope you're not feeling too poorly.
xx
My thoughts are with you - I've been in the same situation as you are. I've sent you a pm.
Just wondered, have you been advised by your agent (or another) to wait for a 3 year period, or your consultant?
Hope you're not feeling too poorly.
xx
Aug 31st 2005 | 8:17 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by nickyjohnt
just an update on my sis Michelle ,
She is really touched by everyone who has shown concern for her over the last few weeks, & i think a bit embarrassed by the fact this thread has nothing to do with emigration ( well not for about 3 years + in her case now ! ) , but anyone interested i will just let you know how she is doing after her first chemotherapy treatment. She had her first one last Friday & like me is a bit phobic about being sick! thankfully they must of got her cocktail of drugs right the first time & she felt very tied & a bit spaced out but not sick. On the Sunday my family went up to see her & she even managed a good day & night at their local club with us all ! She is not 100 % yet but feeling a lot better than she, or anyone thought !!
Thank you to everyone that has shown their support,
My family are still hoping to emigrate (still waiting for med requests at the moment ) & even though the plan was to all go together, we will look forward to them coming out for a well deserved holiday next July, & as they have already passed the TRA when she gets her all clear we cant wait for them to join us in 3 years !!!
PS Also I will send all my best wises to Sophia ! she is an inspiration , good luck with everything !
Nicky
She is really touched by everyone who has shown concern for her over the last few weeks, & i think a bit embarrassed by the fact this thread has nothing to do with emigration ( well not for about 3 years + in her case now ! ) , but anyone interested i will just let you know how she is doing after her first chemotherapy treatment. She had her first one last Friday & like me is a bit phobic about being sick! thankfully they must of got her cocktail of drugs right the first time & she felt very tied & a bit spaced out but not sick. On the Sunday my family went up to see her & she even managed a good day & night at their local club with us all ! She is not 100 % yet but feeling a lot better than she, or anyone thought !!
Thank you to everyone that has shown their support,
My family are still hoping to emigrate (still waiting for med requests at the moment ) & even though the plan was to all go together, we will look forward to them coming out for a well deserved holiday next July, & as they have already passed the TRA when she gets her all clear we cant wait for them to join us in 3 years !!!
PS Also I will send all my best wises to Sophia ! she is an inspiration , good luck with everything !
Nicky
Send her my love, but keep a little for yourself as it can't be easy watching your twin sister go through this.
Anne x
Sep 2nd 2005 | 9:43 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Hi ....to all you lovely people out there who sent me well wishes and karma.
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Sep 2nd 2005 | 9:48 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Well done Michelle!!! THATS THE SPIRIT GIRL!!!!! Great news - keep up the good work. C'mon England!!!! Catch ya later, Love Trev xx
Sep 2nd 2005 | 10:06 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by lelchelle
Hi ....to all you lovely people out there who sent me well wishes and karma.
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Sep 2nd 2005 | 11:35 pm
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by lelchelle
Hi ....to all you lovely people out there who sent me well wishes and karma.
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Gillian
Sep 3rd 2005 | 12:01 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by lelchelle
Hi ....to all you lovely people out there who sent me well wishes and karma.
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Just want to let you know i feel great this morning,loads of energy,and very positive !!!
I,m going to make a big fry-up in a minute,then go to my local club later to watch our boy,s thrash Wales
will keep you up-dated....love Michelle x
Sep 4th 2005 | 7:49 am
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Re: Big (Ladies) Problem
Originally Posted by lelchelle
Hi .... Have completed our TRA last year and were just in the process of finishing off our visa...... When suddenly , huge blow and have just been told at the age of 38 that i have breast cancer!My twin sister and her husband are due to emigrate early next year ,and our plan was to follow them shortly after.My agent has said that he has never come across this problem before ,but has basically told me that there is no point in continuing with our application at this present time.Would be interested to know if anyone else has been in this situation before and got there visas or if it was even possible to pass the medicals.
p.s Thank you Sophia for your PM, i will e-mail you tomorrow!
p.p.s Big day at hospital tomorrow morning for me ...results of all the tests to see if it has spread any further :scared: ... and also when i will be starting my chemo ......
I know this is abit cheeky as more a reader than a poster ...but some Karma from you guys out there would be much appreciated...... feel like my Ozzie dream is slipping away :scared:
Michelle x
p.s Thank you Sophia for your PM, i will e-mail you tomorrow!
p.p.s Big day at hospital tomorrow morning for me ...results of all the tests to see if it has spread any further :scared: ... and also when i will be starting my chemo ......
I know this is abit cheeky as more a reader than a poster ...but some Karma from you guys out there would be much appreciated...... feel like my Ozzie dream is slipping away :scared:
Michelle x
