Will it ever end? *Vent*
Feb 1st 2006, 11:24 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Eskimo
why don't you go to church with them instead ?
Feb 1st 2006, 11:28 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by TruBrit
lol sounds like you are a good candidate for 'billy no friends'..lol and welcome 
I had never heard the saying until today.
Feb 1st 2006, 11:32 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by woodsey
Yes I've been given an opportunity to do other things which is fabulous and maybe I'm being a tad unfair but having seen things from a different perspective I'm just glad I got out..
That is why I think taking a gap year like so many European kids do, and going to work/play in other countries is to be highly encouraged.
It broadens the mind.
You'll find when you go back after an extended period of time, you don't have much in common with most of the folk, unless they've lived outside the country too. You find that with most Americans who have lived outside the States (and I don't mean living for 2 years on Okinawa or in Germany), that their outlook is very different from the rest of the folk who have not.
Basically, all expats go through it if they've lived away for a few years.
Feb 1st 2006, 11:36 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
i'm jewish
Feb 1st 2006, 11:39 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Eskimo
synagogue ?
Feb 1st 2006, 11:45 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Right now i'd rather chew my own arm off than go to the boozer with most of the people i've met over here
Feb 1st 2006, 11:48 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by woodsey
but we still have a laugh and talk about how big our husbands willy's are..
Feb 1st 2006, 11:56 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Eskimo
****ing massive I heard
Feb 2nd 2006, 1:39 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Err, sorry to interrupt
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:19 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
I've come to the conclusion that if people enjoy themselves in the boozer in the company of their mates then there is nothing wrong with that. Some people find familiarity extremely comforting and may be afraid to take on something like a move to another country. As far as I'm concerned there's nowt wrong with that, or doing the 'same boring things' they did 15 years ago if it makes them happy - after all being happy is what counts most of all imo
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:20 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by woodsey
People don't need to move to the other side of the world to get out more and I agree whatever makes you happy but by sitting in the pub all weekend they're missing out on other opportunities and other things that could make them just as 'happy'..Yes I've been given an opportunity to do other things which is fabulous and maybe I'm being a tad unfair but having seen things from a different perspective I'm just glad I got out..
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:23 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by izibear
EXACTLY!
That is why I think taking a gap year like so many European kids do, and going to work/play in other countries is to be highly encouraged.
It broadens the mind.
You'll find when you go back after an extended period of time, you don't have much in common with most of the folk, unless they've lived outside the country too. You find that with most Americans who have lived outside the States (and I don't mean living for 2 years on Okinawa or in Germany), that their outlook is very different from the rest of the folk who have not.
Basically, all expats go through it if they've lived away for a few years.
That is why I think taking a gap year like so many European kids do, and going to work/play in other countries is to be highly encouraged.
It broadens the mind.
You'll find when you go back after an extended period of time, you don't have much in common with most of the folk, unless they've lived outside the country too. You find that with most Americans who have lived outside the States (and I don't mean living for 2 years on Okinawa or in Germany), that their outlook is very different from the rest of the folk who have not.
Basically, all expats go through it if they've lived away for a few years.
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:25 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Partystar
Knowledge is power!!! I think it's a must to go travelling the world! Most people here don't even own a passport!
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:33 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Partystar
I think it's weird that you know people that spend all their time in the pub, as I've never met one!!! Did you live in Albert Square or Coronation Street?!?!
I've not lived there since becoming a parent but before that i knew of tons of people that lived for the pub....my god..I'm actually not sure if some of them ever left but had an arrangement with the Landlord and bloody slept there! 
it can be fun...I miss going out like that...heading off out, starting at the pub at the bottom of town and making your way up..knowing almost everybody in there.....it can be great ...admittedly not a way to live...
Feb 2nd 2006, 2:42 am
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Partystar
Knowledge is power!!! I think it's a must to go travelling the world! Most people here don't even own a passport!
..fact is fact...you can hop to Europe very cheaply from the U.K , my girlfriend who is NOT well off does it...here it's a different story.....I went all over Europe before meeting my husband..damn I met him in Germany...before that countless school trips to Europe while in High School......it's a price thing..it just doesn't compare...
I think you are just very homesick right now ..and I really do feel for you...I've been in the States almost 10 years and I've been through what you are going through a bunch of times.....it will pass...you've got to let yourself enjoy your experience here...the worst thing would be to look back 10/ 20 years from now when the kids are all grown and realise that you were making yourself miserable....it's the only thought that would make me pick my socks up and force myself to cheer up......look on the bright side you are going to a friends wedding soon..one year I was invited to 4 and never got to go to one...of course my best mate isn't married yet..I'd have to sell the hubby to make it to that wedding
