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VictoriaHoward Aug 19th 2006 7:43 am
what should I do?!
 
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?

Sarah Aug 19th 2006 8:39 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?
May I ask what your citizenship is? Your english doesnt seem too fantastic....not really understaing the full picture here....don't mean to be harsh, we;ll try and help you as best we can but we need a bit more of the specifics of both your origins and current status.

Rodney you plonker Aug 19th 2006 8:42 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?
Buy a dildo.

britvic Aug 19th 2006 8:49 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser,
How can up put up with any Man who calls you a Looser :rolleyes:

cinnabar Aug 19th 2006 9:12 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Are you anxious or desperate to live in the USA? What's wrong with following a successful career path in Europe, if you have that opportunity?

Men who refuse to marry you aren't keepers, IMO.

DollyLlama Aug 19th 2006 9:13 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?
Hi Victoria, If your US visa is running out and you can't get any sponsorship just now, maybe you should think about going to the UK or EU where you said you would find work fairly easily. Then when you have skills you can maybe get a US company to sponsor you. Life is too short to stay with a guy who calls you a loser.

DollyLlama Aug 19th 2006 9:17 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Rodney you plonker
Buy a dildo.
:rolleyes:

NC Penguin Aug 19th 2006 9:23 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?
You have to decide your priorities. Him or you (since he doesn't want to marry).

Based on your description of your boyfriend, it's more about him than the two of you.

Maybe he thinks you have ulterior motives for wanting to be with him. i.e. you have an expiring J1 and he's waiting for his Green Card.


NC Penguin

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 9:54 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
im in love with a Britsh national I meet in the UK waiting for his USA visa as he turned 21, we moved to the USA a year later, I came on, a soon to expire J1, he still dosent have his visa 2 years after he applied, his family have waited 10 years for a green card and still dont have one. He flies back and forth usa to uk. He loves the USA, I think its no worse than the UK. I cant get an H visa as I dont have enough skills and no employeer in my field
is prepared to wait three years for a visa to show up. The irony is Im a
immigration Historian I could find it very easy to get work in the UK or even fairly easy in the EU. he gets angrey with me and says Im a looser, i have spoken with
many people in my field who said they would consider sponsering me in a few years with more experince, i have only just graduated.
What should I do, fly back and forth for life to be with him? He wont marry me and sponser me and we cant adford to live off one wage, plus I want to work. The chances of him gaining a visa are slim, he always gets american women asking him out, do you think i should do
just give up and let him be with an american girl?

Is this a wind up? If not....call yourself a doormat then you can only expect to be used like one.

VictoriaHoward Aug 19th 2006 10:58 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
No its isnt a wind up
I just wanted to know what people thought
I was woundering if I should try and over stay and work under the table and then hope for amensty in 10 years the same way the Spainish do.
I have J1 visa an internship, my empoyeers are pleased with me, I have had job offers but they alwasy pull out when they relaise how much of a struggle it is to get a visa for somone right now.
Im British 26 my English is terrible as I have Dyslexia, Sorry.
My guy wont leave the USA, even through he will spend the next ten years trying to be a citzen.

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 11:25 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
No its isnt a wind up
I just wanted to know what people thought
I was woundering if I should try and over stay and work under the table and then hope for amensty in 10 years the same way the Spainish do.
I have J1 visa an internship, my empoyeers are pleased with me, I have had job offers but they alwasy pull out when they relaise how much of a struggle it is to get a visa for somone right now.
Im British 26 my English is terrible as I have Dyslexia, Sorry.
My guy wont leave the USA, even through he will spend the next ten years trying to be a citzen.
OK....so first things first....ditch the fella.

DollyLlama Aug 19th 2006 11:29 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
No its isnt a wind up
I just wanted to know what people thought
I was woundering if I should try and over stay and work under the table and then hope for amensty in 10 years the same way the Spainish do.
I have J1 visa an internship, my empoyeers are pleased with me, I have had job offers but they alwasy pull out when they relaise how much of a struggle it is to get a visa for somone right now.
Im British 26 my English is terrible as I have Dyslexia, Sorry.
My guy wont leave the USA, even through he will spend the next ten years trying to be a citzen.
I don't think it is a good idea to overstay your visa. I'm sure lots of people do, but if you get caught..........Why not look to get a job in the UK/EU? you said that it would be fairly easy to do that, build up your experience, then try to get a US company to sponsor you.

scrubbedexpat099 Aug 19th 2006 11:53 am
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by VictoriaHoward
No its isnt a wind up
I just wanted to know what people thought
I was woundering if I should try and over stay and work under the table and then hope for amensty in 10 years the same way the Spainish do.
I have J1 visa an internship, my empoyeers are pleased with me, I have had job offers but they alwasy pull out when they relaise how much of a struggle it is to get a visa for somone right now.
Im British 26 my English is terrible as I have Dyslexia, Sorry.
My guy wont leave the USA, even through he will spend the next ten years trying to be a citzen.
If the current Senate legislation goes through you would not qualify anyway.

If the current Senate legislation goes through it would seem likely the next amnesty would be in another 20 years, do you want to wait that long?

Not to many Spanish in the US waiting for an amnesty.

I take it that the boyfriend is hoping for an amnesty, he may be lucky, he may not. Probably will take many many years to get a GC even if the amnesty happens. More than 10.

BigDavyG Aug 19th 2006 12:03 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
OK....so first things first....ditch the fella.
Still think its a wind up.
Wtf is an immigration historian anyway ????

Rodney you plonker Aug 19th 2006 12:06 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
OK....so first things first....ditch the fella.
And buy a dildo.

gruffbrown Aug 19th 2006 12:07 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Still think its a wind up.
Wtf is an immigration historian anyway ????
I'm disappointed Davy, I was expecting "Shoot him in the face"

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:11 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Still think its a wind up.
Wtf is an immigration historian anyway ????
Exactly Davy. From what the OP has said about her boyfriend...I would say they are still in 8th grade.

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:18 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Still think its a wind up.
Wtf is an immigration historian anyway ????
Good question. Visions of BBC documentaries but maybe it is some sort of researcher for the immigration service.

The chappie doesn't sound too much of a catch.

cinnabar Aug 19th 2006 12:20 pm
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Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Good question. Visions of BBC documentaries but maybe it is some sort of researcher for the immigration service.
Immigration historian is a real job, from a quick look at google. Americans are so obsessed with their Italian/German/Scottish/whatever heritage, they love all that Ellis Island stuff.

BigDavyG Aug 19th 2006 12:23 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by gruffbrown
I'm disappointed Davy, I was expecting "Shoot him in the face"
The time for face shooting is over - its time to stand together shoulder to shoulder, immigration historian and non-immigration historian, to rise up as one against injustice and tyrany, to make the world a better place.

WE SHALL OVERCOME
WE SHALL OVERCOME
WE SHALL OVERCOME, OVERCOME ONE DAY

BigDavyG Aug 19th 2006 12:25 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by cinnabar
Immigration historian is a real job, from a quick look at google. Americans are so obsessed with their Italian/German/Scottish/whatever heritage, they love all that Ellis Island stuff.
So its a genealogist then

cinnabar Aug 19th 2006 12:28 pm
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Originally Posted by BigDavyG
So its a genealogist then
Don't think so, it's more like an statistic gatherer?

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:29 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by cinnabar
Don't think so, it's more like an statistic gatherer?
Or a looser

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:29 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
HELLO

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:30 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Testing, Testing, Testing

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:31 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
1, 2, 3

cinnabar Aug 19th 2006 12:32 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
OK, I give up.

Do the drive-by shooting.

DollyLlama Aug 19th 2006 12:34 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Rodney you plonker
And buy a dildo.
Rodney, Rodney.......... :)

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:35 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
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Originally Posted by cinnabar
OK, I give up.

Do the drive-by shooting.
ok

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:35 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Can anyone see me? :confused:

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:36 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
Can anyone see me? :confused:
Loud and clear

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:37 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
How many posts have you got, Jersey? I think I'm getting too many.

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:37 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Loud and clear
Phew.....thought I was invisible. :)

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:39 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Sallyanne
How many posts have you got, Jersey? I think I'm getting too many.
:scared: Why do you think I don't show them? Let me put it this way Paul's informed me that I will be getting some sort of award at the end of the year. :D

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:41 pm
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Originally Posted by Jerseygirl
:scared: Why do you think I don't show them? Let me put it this way Paul's informed me that I will be getting some sort of award at the end of the year. :D
Lifetime Achievement sort of thing?

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:42 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Lifetime Achievement sort of thing?
Exactly :D

BigDavyG Aug 19th 2006 12:42 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by cinnabar
Don't think so, it's more like an statistic gatherer?
Ok - researcher then
Odd being a researcher if you can't compile a coherent report cos you're dyslexic.

Sally Aug 19th 2006 12:48 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Ok - researcher then
Odd being a researcher if you can't compile a coherent report cos you're dyslexic.
All a bit fishy.

Jerseygirl Aug 19th 2006 12:48 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
I don't have to stay here and be ignored...I've opened my own thread in the Lounge...so I'm off to be ignored there. :D

BigDavyG Aug 19th 2006 12:49 pm
Re: what should I do?!
 
Sorry - did someone say something ??


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