Sandra23

I TOTALLY AGREE

Xebedee

Hopefully, this will be the last move, eh?
Any idea which part? N,S,E orW?

Bob

You also don't know what you'll be giving up or not without trying....

Xebedee

Which is why so many of us are on this side of the pond.
I'd hazard a guess that many have gone thru the "well, if? then, maybe, or not. Oh, sod it, lets go!" experience.

ukelaine

Absolutely
I was single, good job, but, boring. Realtionship wise my life sucked and I'd met a man I loved and he just happened to live in a WARM place.
The biggest part was leaving my mum and then I THOUGHT, well, what the heck I can just jump on a plane and come home a few times a year, little did I know.
Now, seperated with 2 kids, life is ok, but, not quite how I wanted to be at this stage of my life and in another country.
Hopefully if I can get home and stay a while and then see, where I would like to be.

Elaine

Xebedee

Most of the people I still am in touch with back home feel the same way (well, the first part of your comment). Maybe we are more prone to that wandering thought path because we are just that; in another country.

I find Dunroving's posts very informative. Not having ping-ponged myself, he does paint a scary picture of what it can be like.

Perhaps the "dynamics" really have to align themselves for a return home. If they do, I guess the way is pretty clearly illuminated. Otherwise you might be forcing the change.

You are living in a very wierd part of the country . Have you travelled around the US much?

snowbunny

If you decided to move back to the UK, would you be allowed to take the kids with you?

I can't remove the kids from this county, so I'm putting off trying to find the perfect place for me, until the youngest is 18.

ukelaine

I think Brits may tend to GO FOR IT more than others, as many of us have grown up going AWAY to other Countries for Holidays and the other Countries we go to are fairly close. We forget that Holidays and Living in another Country is not quite the same, until we take the plunge and then think OH SHITE !
It's not that we are grossly Rich, (for the Americans reading this), but you can get on a plane and be in another Country in a couple of hours and off season prices used to be REALLY cheap.
I USED to go abroad 2-3 a year, visited several of the European Countries and spend a couple of weeks in each.

So maybe we think how hard can it be living in another Country ? Until we actually do it and then some have no problems and others spend a few months or even years thinking What Did I do !! LOL

I've been to Los Angeles and Las Vegas, that's it. So I have led a sheltered for 20 years here in California. We never did go on a Vacation that meant being away from the home longer than maybe 2 days.

But, then again, I am lucky that weather is kind to us here. Warm enough to sit on the beach some years at Xmas. Seldom rains, seldom gloomy, probably why so many people are so bloody PEPPY all the time, well, that or they are High ! LOL

But if you want to come to America and be homesick, I'd go for California, at least you can go lay on the beach and get a tan (or skin cancer) while you are debating if you made a mistake or not

Elaine

ukelaine

I THINK if it comes down to it, it would be up to the kids and we as the parents would go with their decision.
Which is easy to say, but, if I could deal with it, is another thing.

I wouldn't want to make them go and I don't think husband would make them stay.

But, it could turn ugly and then I'd have to rethink everything.

Elaine

simongb

If I could get a job in the UK that would pay all my living expenses, I would be gone tomorrow. I look every day online (the Guardian, monster, TES), but it is so hard from here to find anything. Does anyone know of any good websites that have jobs for people looking from overseas (I am a school counselor)?? I don't mean to highjack this thread, sorry!

dunroving

You might find something in FE at http://www.jobs.ac.uk/

dunroving

Hopefully, yes, and yes, the idea is to stay in the Southeast.

Probably the biggest number one reason I see people on here cite for "returning" to wherever is family. Well, I don't have much immediate family, although the little I do have I am very close to. But I have many, many extended "family" and friends in the Southeast US, both in my personal life and professional life. So, the Southeast is where I feel home. If I could specifically get back to middle Tennessee it'd be better still. They are the friendliest, eatingest (their word) people I ever met.

Tootsie Frickensprinkles

Personally speaking, I categorically disagree with that statement, and I don't think most people "plan" emotions in that way either. And then, as Bob says, I dont think most can or do foresee what the consequences might be.

Sally Redux

You probably don't realise that you would be miserable living somewhere else at that point.

Tootsie Frickensprinkles

Too right, I had no idea I could hate being anywhere as much as I did when I was stuck out there. Never realised how good I had it

One might call it very stupid to go and live somewhere you've never seen .. but at the time both of our employment situations allowed no other option.

I also had a very homesick American painting a very rose tinted picture of life back in the good ole US of A. I've never seen him more depressed than he was in that 9 months of being in VA.