britvic

It can destroy marriages, so why not your mental health, or it could be said the other way round.

Tegwyn

Who's saying there is anything wrong with him? It is a matter of one spouse showing distinct distress about coming to the US. Personally I think she is over-reacting a bit but that is neither here nor there. If one is being dragged somewhere against their will, and by GC's statements, it sure as hell sounds like it; how do you not feel enormous resentment and anger at your partner for your distress? I know that my husband would certainly stop in his tracks if my reaction was that extreme. There would have to a significant event to forge ahead to justify that upheaval without generating resentment.

I am certain there is a whole lot more to this than meets the eye. In any event taking what has been written by GC, the family is in for a rotten time whether they own a house, find the right school, live in the perfect town, etc. etc.

Hope they sort out their issues with a mutually satisfying result, or else another family may hit the skids.

Tracym

I wish them well also.

I think my point is simply that, being dragged somewhere against one's will is very similar to being made to stay somewhere against one's will. Two sides to the story is all I am saying.

Tootsie Frickensprinkles

Hadn't thought about the whole citizenship thing, I just still don't get this. From the levels of anxiety GC appears to displaying about it all .. especially with a one year old in tow ... it all seems a tad odd.

Any financial gain they *might* make doesn't really seem worth it to me. iirc the kids were 3,4 and 1 so within one or two years thats only one child requiring full time day care and I know for a fact I would rather work where I was happy than be at home with kids where I wasn't.

Each to their own decision of course.

Jerseygirl

They don't need US citizenship...she is an American.

Tracym

The whole thing seems pretty unusual. If she had always lived in the UK, it would seem easier to understand to me. That level of anxiety over returning to one's own country.... dunno. I understand preferring somewhere else, but it's like she's being taken to a ... I don't know what.

Well it's certainly their decision, his and hers.

Tracym

I realize that. I meant the husband and children.

oops stupid me, that post wasn't for me - sorry.

Jerseygirl

Aren't her children already USC's if they are born to an American citizen?

dakota44

Yes. You have to register a foreign birth with the Embassy. If that is not done, then after a certain age, 16 I think, they have to go through an application process.

Tracym

True, just the registering bit. But he'd have the option too then.

Jerseygirl

Yes...I originally responded to Penguinsix who seems to think they would all have to wait 3 years to become USC's.

Jerseygirl

I think we are talking at cross purposes. As I said above my original response was to Penguinsix...only the husband will have to wait 3 yrs to become a USC.

Tracym

Oh multiple ways to create confusion - posts crossed, plus I started it - then realized you weren't talking to me.

Tootsie Frickensprinkles

That is true too, but, this isn't just about two peoples differing wants or beliefs. They've got three kids and the effect of Mum having serious anxiety/depressive issues in NO WAY makes up for any financial gains and as the father of the children he needs to understand the potential consequences.

Jerseygirl

Aye...it can get a little confusing.