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Have you tried charities, like Salvation Army?

Bev

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No Bev i haven't.....this whole experience has been degrading enough, i'm trying to hold on to what little bit of dignity i have left!!

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(((hugs)))
You get home.
Who pays the mortgage? can you just not pay and use the money for a one way ticket, and a Cab to the Airport?
Honestly they don't help anyone who is down and out here, it scares the piss out of me, unless you have friends and family willing to step up here they want you to just disappear.
What is that saying?
You can tell how good a country is by how it treats it's most vulnerable people. Something like that!

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Heartfelt thanks for the (((hug))) mitf!! Mortgage is in my name, but with savings from my house sale gone...he does! If i had been in England when i had spinal surgery i would have had plenty of help, at least until i could get back on my feet (no pun intended) I dont even have a bank acct here! As for food and medication, thats left on the doorstep every 2wks (next best thing to a no contact order) I was already a homeowner when i met him and had been for 9yrs. (He rented) When he lost his job in 05 (along with medical insurance) that's when the proceeds from the sale of my home in England were swallowed up. I hadnt always been disabled it was a gradual process, i considered myself lucky that i hadnt lost my mobility sooner. You're absolutely right too....if your'e not fortunate enough to have support from family/friends, then you're literally on your own (wether you're disabled or not) You only have to go downtown Seattle to see how this country looks after its own....and i can tell you from seeing it first hand....its more than just a little scary, so can you imagine how far down the ladder i am! I'm a resourceful person by nature, but this and the messed up system here, has got me competley beat! I don't want to give up and i dont want charity...i just want my life back before its too late!!

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Aw Beth {{{hugs}}}. You may not want charity but heck, if you can find some, then take it with both hands - if it makes you feel better, then make a pact with yourself to pay it back somehow but I really do think that you need to take whatever you can find to get yourself home. If I had the dosh I would happily lend you an airfare home - is there anyone back home at all that you could lean on in the short term? This is going to be only temporary for you, you have to believe that, and once your are on your way up you can repay any kindnesses that have been directed your way.

OK and some think outside the box suggestions which may take a leetle bit longer than leaving next Tuesday
Could you take in a (short term) lodger to help pay some of your living expenses and maybe accrue a bit of cash?
Is there anything you could do from home to earn some cash in hand - things like proof reading, thesis typing etc?

We are all behind you in finding a way out of the quagmire you are currently sinking in!

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(((Hugs))) quoll. That was too kind of you, your'e a sweetheart....but i would never ever accept it off you (even if you did have it) I just needed a little moral support to keep me fighting, and comments like yours really do make a difference!! Thank you.

Sorry for sounding so down, things just came to a head on Saturday evening, i'd never felt so pathetic or lost! I have another plan up my sleeve but dare not say anything just in case i jinx myself...lol. I will know hopefully by the end of Jan maybe first week in Feb (fingers crossed) Ive held on this long....a few more weeks wont harm (as long as i dont go trying to open any more tins of corn beef...lol) nearly sliced my dang finger off, and i was sooo hungry too. Oh well....i'l stick to anything that doesnt require a can opener for now LOL. At least you made me smile....thats all i needed for now. Many thanks quoll....((((Hugs)))
Beth

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Good Lord, yes, definitely lay off the corned beef! Watch out for the salads as well (my DH sliced through his thumbnail making salad the other night and he has absolutely NO excuse!)

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Update for those that have followed my story!

The first step is always the hardest....today i took mine!!
I finally found the courage (and the right person) and this time i wasnt passed along, or given yet another tel number to call. I will be meeting with an advocate who has already informed me that she can and will help with legal services (divorce) help with my disability and hopefully in my returning home! It wasnt easy, but once i'd got past the first few sentences, well the rest just rolled out...what a relief!! I've a long hard road ahead, but today i took my first steps, and i can't express just how good it felt :) Will update in the future, and hopefully (fingers crossed) i'l be posting news that not only am i a free woman, but news that i'l be finally finally finally......going home. Just wanted to let you know (((hugs))) Beth

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Yipeeee! Finally some help. Hug that woman who listened and said she'd help :thumbsup:

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Great news!

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Good for you, Beth. Your persistence paid off.

Hope all goes well from here,

Bev

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Hi Beth,
I don't post on theses forums very often. I'm more of of a lurker:D but when I do post I think very carefully about what i am going to say before I start typing. This time I am going to speak (well type) from the heart and hope it comes out properly.
You are truly an inspiration. You are going through what can only be described as an horrendous time in your life and yet you have found the time (on another thread) to offer support to other people. That makes you a very special person in my book.
I sincerely hope you get the help you need to get you back to the UK and to help you get settled when you do get back.
Remember, you are a STRONG woman
and
don't let the ba****ds get you down
(((hugs)))
Christine

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Hi Christine

I was deeply touched and uplifted after reading your genuine and most heartfelt post...so much it brought tears to my eyes. I was deeply honoured and moved that you felt i was worthy of such kind words. That in my book makes you too a very special person. Thank you Christine for taking the time to write words that not only impacted me....but for the genuine sincerity behind them!!!! I will not forget them ((((Hugs)))) Beth

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Latest Update!

As some of you know, along with posting on the board, i have also had private conversations with some very special people in PM. My last post was to inform you i had finally (so i thought) found an advocate who could help. I was willing to stay a while longer, at least until my divorce became absolute. I would have had to stay for at least another 4mnths, the situation has become not just unbearable, but too dangerous to stay. As terrified as i am, i hope to be on a flight back to England by Mon Feb 2nd (2wks) :thumbsup:

After speaking privately with Professional Princess yesterday, i accept i need to remove myself from this situation ASAP! Admittedly i'm scared of what i am about to face, but...i know it will be 100 times worse if i stay! My mind is made up and there is no turning back!!

Yesterday afternoon i had plucked up the courage to introduce myself to a new neighbour. Within 30 minutes of conversation, i had a buyer for my furniture, an offer of storage (if i cant sell it quickly) and an extremely kind offer of transport to the airport!! I had wrote the following tel: numbers on 3 separate pieces of paper. Womens DV shelters, Social Services, Cabs from the airport (to final destination) Citizens advice, Doctors/health dept. Much more, it was a start. I am beginning at 12 midnight (my time) this evening and am prepared to stay up all night (if needed) so i can reach the necessary depts when they open first thing (UK time) in the morning! I have gathered all relevant documents (Passport, Immigration and USA LPR documents. UK driving license(still valid) Marriage cert, UK Health and Ins docs and all previous police and court reports from DV incidents) I am also seeing my doctor this week to pick up supporting letters and list of all medications to present to whoever in the UK. Also Surgeons report regards recent spinal surgery! Having emergency MRI's and related xrays sent within the week! I have prioritized the best i can and may have missed something, any suggestions greatly appreciated, thank you. Trying not to overwhelm myself with too much all at one, seeing that most of this was achieved in one afternoon i know thats a bit of an understatement. :rofl:

Tornados are extremely rare where i live, but after what took place yesterday, you would think one had been specifically designed for MY house (LOL) Although physically i was unable to do very little, i more than made up for it mentally. At the end of the night i was mentally exhausted, but cannot express just how good i felt when i looked back and realized how much i had achieved in just one day!! :)

I won't deny i'm absolutely petrified of what's ahead, i certainly could not have foreseen that this is how i would be returning home! But it is what it is, and i cannot change the past and as much as i have fears, i equally (for the first time in a very very long time feel alive and excited :) I will miss my little furry friends who have shared the delights of my back garden, but i'm looking forward to having human contact again with hopefully new friendships I hope this has all made sense, my expressive side has declined somewhat over the yrs (so i apologize in advance for any confusion) i just can't believe i'm really leaving, and probably won't until i'm on British soil again.

I'm as mentally prepared as i can be, and after speaking with PP yesterday in PM, i knew this was my time, I would like to take the opportunity of thanking everyone who has posted comments of support, along with many useful and informative links. I could not have done this without you!!!

A very special mention (no specific order)to.... Mummy in the foothills, Quoll, Christine J, Bevm, fatbrit, Fleaflyfloflum (love that name) lol. Tracym and anyone else i may have accidently missed. A very very special mention to Professional Princess. Thank you.

Love and (((hugs to all)))
Beth :)

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Hi Beth

Thank you so much for the update. I am still searching for decent links for you.

If you need help filling in any forms - government/disability forms - email them to me and I can help you.

Let me know which airport you will be landing at and I will try and sort out the disabled assistance for you at my end.

You will get there, its gonna be hard but you will get there I promise.

Its all looking forward now mate and its looking alot brighter for you.:)