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Hiya Kida :) First of all, a very warm welcome to British Expats. :) We're a bit of a nutso bunch, but friendly.

I'm in the Chicago area (far-western suburbs) but am emigrating in about 4 weeks' time so am not much help as far as socialising with you. However, you might do worse than to hook up with the meetup.com group. The next meetup is a week from Friday - go join them! :) I've been to a couple of meetups that we had out in the 'burbs and it was great getting together with other expats. It really does help ease the pain of homesickness. :)

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My FL kitchen has the quote 'I only have a kitchen because it came with the house' on the wall...I open the oven door only to make sure nothing is living in it...the only person to use the stove at all was my mum....

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I don't think I'm up to a younger model anymore....to much work..:D

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Let's hope he doesn't have the same taxi driver picking him up from the airport!

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Thank you so much! I will!!
BE is a great place i feel so much better knowing that it's pretty normal what i feel now.
Read about St John's Wort.Can I take it whenever i feel down or for some period of time.Can u get used to it?

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I think you went home to quickly....

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I'm not homesick and I don't think I have been...but I did go through a time where moving to America was the reason for all my problems....which it was not....I could of had them anywhere.......it must be a stage you go thought...because I know a lot of people who have had the same feelings ....

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Your suffering from the 1st year blues. This does go away eventually - my wife and i have lived in USA for 3 years now (Im 31 shes 29). We still miss home but last time we visited for a holiday we realised that we could never have what we have here in the UK and boy how everything looked soooooooooo small!!

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I went to the UK last year for 3 weeks ..first time in 4 years ...

I was ready to come back here in 3 days ...

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Maybe.. but i was loosing my mind i just needed to get smth familiar and i missed my family like crazy..it got to the point where i couldn't sleep.

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You need to go cold turkey for a year at least :lol:

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:curse:

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It does??? :confused: How can you say that so categorically?

My parents are dead and I have no connection with any other relatives, but there is absolutely no way I would ever consider living here forever, and I know I am not alone.

So you have a huge house and big car.......... so what...

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this is what is doing my head in, if i move back to the states i keep thinking it might as well be forever or whats the point going through all the heart ache moving etc, but then again, i don't think i could stay there forever, mind you i'm not that keen on the UK as i'm back again and not happy here (again), i think, not where i live anyway.

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I guess I'm in the minority, then. I moved to the USA from Canada 14 years ago. Never had the slightest bit of homesickness, and am utterly uninterested in moving back. The USA is my home now.

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Maybe it's the "across the ocean" thing that scares me. And also i noticed that i miss old european stuff which i thought was boring before:)

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good for you bill, it's comforting to know you're home and for you it's the usa. for me it's england and i am so glad i know where home is because for the peeps that don't know and can't settle it's very distressing.

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Oh you poor thing. I have had my ups and downs, some years I feel settled, other years I want to run back to mommy. I'm with whomever said don't have kids until you feel somewhat settled :)

Here's a HUGE HUG for you :)

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Thank you!
Having a baby is a serious move i understand that if i feel now like this no one can guarantee that after having a kid the PMD will layer on what i feel now.
Hopefully it wont take too long..

BE rules btw. Guys, you made my day!!!

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We have performances every day ...7 days a week
365 days a year ...

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where in Chicago are you?

Have you thought of getting a job within an office... pump up your social life a little (hopefully).

Also - what kind of graphic design?

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Have you got any British friends? Is your OH understanding?

Felt just like you to begin with, eased up after about 18mth, 2 yrs now I get odd bad days, even my husband does and he likes it here - it's kind of an irrational thing, as others have said it's to do with the realisation of permanence perhaps.

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I live in the Lincoln park area.V nice place, 10 mins to the lake.
I go to the office to work and have normal working day like everyone, but
sometimes i can get a week off because of the lack of projects. So it's pretty convenient way to work.
I do a lot of web design, and print (packaging, promo materials etc)

My OH understands and helps as much as he can, but sometimes like today
i'm so terribly missing home it hurts..I know it takes time, but i'm so impatient when it comes to my own issues.

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Some lovin' for ya :wub::wub::wub:

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Ahh... then you should probably try to hook up with some other expats, I work in the city daily and many others do too.

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That will help a lot :)

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Yeah i was checking the meet up page as well

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A previous chicago meet up ... a right motley crew ..

http://britishexpats.com/photopost/s...ser=20928&sl=a

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and I'm here again..same topic several months later..
I've been honestly doing great for some time, even thought i'm settled
and became myself;)

But having really strange week lately..same stuff happens again with my head.
can't sleep, can't live normal life, feel like crying..:confused:
The question is it normal?
This is my 19th month here, how long does it take to become adequate again?

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We've been here just over 5 years now.

...and we're just starting to feel like we may be over the whole culture-shock thing, which often manifested itself as the kind of depression that you're experiencing now.

You can get through it. One day you'll look back on this time and wonder why you were so unhappy.

In the meantime, perhaps you can go and talk to your doctor? I'm not a fan of medication of any sort, but if your depression is long-lasting and debilitating, as it seems to be, some mild antidepressants might be just what you need to kick-start the positive side of your outlook on life again.

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There's a thread about anti-depressants in the MBTTUK forum which the OP may find interesting. Also search the MBTTUK forums for St John's Wort.

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If you feel depression continuously for 2 weeks, then go and visit your doctor. If you have irrational thoughts, fears, anxiety, harmful or suicidal thoughts, visit your doctor now.
Sometimes people get depression and it passes, sometimes it doesn't pass without help.
Good luck.

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I would try herbal remedies first....the thought of prescription anti depressant meds scares the hell out of me.

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thx everyone!
i've been on SJW for a while, then stopped because i felt really good.
and now i'm taking it again..
this is just so weird how it comes and goes in waves..

How long did it take you guys to feel good and happy in the new country?

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yeah prescription stuff is not for me..:curse:

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I've written about my experience with depression in the MBTTUK forum many times...I found SJW really helped me and still does from time to time. I've been here 12 years.

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Sound more like anxiety than depression ...
there is a pill for it ..

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And here you were, my sister, Dolores, all this time and I never knew it. Can't possibly be two women in NJ without kitchens in their next house.

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Hi Kida ... welcome to the BE stomping grounds. You never said where in the big old US you are. Perhaps there might be BE members in your area or a British club that you can join and at the very least be with those familiar with your background ;-)

Do you work? What interests do you have outside the house? Have you thought of going back to school, taking classes, whatever?

Homesickness must be horrible to suffer through. I don't know first hand but from reading on BE I know that others either give in the feelings of loneliness, isolation and despair or they pull up their stocks and venture out in public and make a life for themselves. They still are homesick but at least they are busy which takes some of the cutting edge off of the emotion.

Hugs
Rete