I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
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Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
They also ask "WHY did you move" we all have different answers to that question I am sure
#229
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
I realise that...but no matter what you teach your children/grandchildren it's not the same as experiencing it ie living in the UK...that's what I took JD to mean.
#230
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
What I meant was.....it was an issue that upset me when I was at a low ebb. I felt I had changed the course of my family's history and heritage and I didn't know if I had done the right thing.
I know that when you move to another country you rationally understand that your children and their children etc will become part of their new country but when you are down and homesick, you look at things in a different way.
I was trying to help another poster by saying I had felt the same and that I understood and that as you become more settled over time certain issues that seemed so upsetting and important, fade.
I am glad that some people make the move and are instantly happy, but others don't. Just because they find something hard to cope with initially doesn't mean they never will like it here.
But when they are having difficult times and are not liking it here...they are allowed to say so.
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I am back from my trail ride.
What I meant was.....it was an issue that upset me when I was at a low ebb. I felt I had changed the course of my family's history and heritage and I didn't know if I had done the right thing.
I know that when you move to another country you rationally understand that your children and their children etc will become part of their new country but when you are down and homesick, you look at things in a different way.
I was trying to help another poster by saying I had felt the same and that I understood and that as you become more settled over time certain issues that seemed so upsetting and important, fade.
I am glad that some people make the move and are instantly happy, but others don't. Just because they find something hard to cope with initially doesn't mean they never will like it here.
But when they are having difficult times and are not liking it here...they are allowed to say so.
What I meant was.....it was an issue that upset me when I was at a low ebb. I felt I had changed the course of my family's history and heritage and I didn't know if I had done the right thing.
I know that when you move to another country you rationally understand that your children and their children etc will become part of their new country but when you are down and homesick, you look at things in a different way.
I was trying to help another poster by saying I had felt the same and that I understood and that as you become more settled over time certain issues that seemed so upsetting and important, fade.
I am glad that some people make the move and are instantly happy, but others don't. Just because they find something hard to cope with initially doesn't mean they never will like it here.
But when they are having difficult times and are not liking it here...they are allowed to say so.
#232
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
But they do and most people get through it.
I couldn't wait to get here, admittedly Pittsburgh wasn't in our plans ,and I was really unprepared for how isolated I would feel...we have no family here and didn't know a soul anywhere in the US.
However 20 months on, we have loads of friends, do lots of stuff but at the beginning it wasn't like that and I didn't think it ever would be...at that time.
#233
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
I miss my family a lot, friends all what I left..
I hope that my visit home will show me that I belong here now..but what if it won't?I hope that it's only a reaction of my body to all the changes and it'll go away soon.
sorry guys for being so deppressive, just having hard week/month
#234
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
we live in a big city, but i still feel SO lonely, even though i have my husband here, which makes me feel a bit guilty that he's not enough for me.
I miss my family a lot, friends all what I left..
I hope that my visit home will show me that I belong here now..but what if it won't?I hope that it's only a reaction of my body to all the changes and it'll go away soon.
sorry guys for being so deppressive, just having hard week/month
I miss my family a lot, friends all what I left..
I hope that my visit home will show me that I belong here now..but what if it won't?I hope that it's only a reaction of my body to all the changes and it'll go away soon.
sorry guys for being so deppressive, just having hard week/month
May I suggest you read through some of the threads in the Moving Back to UK forums? Read as far back as you can...it will give you some insight how many are going/have been through similar emotions and how they've coped...or in some cases haven't coped.
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Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
I don't think anyone expects to move to a different country and find it's the same as the one they left and most people don't plan or want to feel unhappy.
But they do and most people get through it.
I couldn't wait to get here, admittedly Pittsburgh wasn't in our plans ,and I was really unprepared for how isolated I would feel...we have no family here and didn't know a soul anywhere in the US.
However 20 months on, we have loads of friends, do lots of stuff but at the beginning it wasn't like that and I didn't think it ever would be...at that time.
But they do and most people get through it.
I couldn't wait to get here, admittedly Pittsburgh wasn't in our plans ,and I was really unprepared for how isolated I would feel...we have no family here and didn't know a soul anywhere in the US.
However 20 months on, we have loads of friends, do lots of stuff but at the beginning it wasn't like that and I didn't think it ever would be...at that time.
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Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
I feel for you. I often think Doris reflects what I went through...only she's coped a lot better than I did.
May I suggest you read through some of the threads in the Moving Back to UK forums? Read as far back as you can...it will give you some insight how many are going/have been through similar emotions and how they've coped...or in some cases haven't coped.
May I suggest you read through some of the threads in the Moving Back to UK forums? Read as far back as you can...it will give you some insight how many are going/have been through similar emotions and how they've coped...or in some cases haven't coped.
#238
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
we live in a big city, but i still feel SO lonely, even though i have my husband here, which makes me feel a bit guilty that he's not enough for me.
I miss my family a lot, friends all what I left..
I hope that my visit home will show me that I belong here now..but what if it won't?I hope that it's only a reaction of my body to all the changes and it'll go away soon.
sorry guys for being so deppressive, just having hard week/month
I miss my family a lot, friends all what I left..
I hope that my visit home will show me that I belong here now..but what if it won't?I hope that it's only a reaction of my body to all the changes and it'll go away soon.
sorry guys for being so deppressive, just having hard week/month
Do you have any hobbies that could get you out and part of a group?
Do you/ can you work?
I can't work on my visa and that has been harder than I expected as I used to run my own business.
I joined everything and went to everything I was invited to. It was hard and sometimes jaw droppingly boring but I got to know people.
I went to the library a lot until eventually they recognised me. I also went to the Starbucks in our Barnes and Noble everyday and they started to recognise me. Silly small things but it did help.
I drove around a lot and found new places to walk the dog or take the kids.
I talked to everyone.
It is hard and there were days when I sat at the computer and looked at images of home and wept. (I think it is better to let it all out.)
And then I would tell myself to pull myself together. I can say that to me but god help anyone else who does and I would try and find something great about the day.
For me it has got better but I know for some it doesn't.
#240
Re: I guess this is what they call 'homesickness'
When our parents pass...I only have my sister and 2 nieces. My husband has an unmarried sister.
Funny old life being an expat isn't it? Neither one thing or the other.