Homecoming Dance
Oct 8th 2007, 3:50 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
It is a lot more casual here than the prom. It seems that the girls like the boys to buy them a homecoming "mum" with all the bells and whistles on it. (and are usually IMO ugly!)
My daughter went to all her high school homecoming dances but my son wasn't into it at all.
http://mumsrus.tripod.com/sitebuilde...g.w300h842.jpg
My daughter went to all her high school homecoming dances but my son wasn't into it at all.
http://mumsrus.tripod.com/sitebuilde...g.w300h842.jpg
Oct 8th 2007, 3:52 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
It was our homecoming dance last night.
This is what happens here:
Boy asks girl to be his date.
Assuming she says yes.....
He asks what colour dress she will be wearing and buys a corsage in that colour. Usually here it is a wrist corsage.
Sometimes the corsage comes with a buttonhole for him (called a buttoniere here) sometimes it doesn't so you need to check that.
Generally here the girl would buy the buttonhole seperately.
Homecoming is very formal here and the girls wear long dresses (although this year there were a few short ones) and the boys wear suits and ties. The boy will ususally match his tie to the colour of the girls dress.
They usually arrange to go to homecoming with a group of friends and they all get together at someones house for photo's first and parents go to that.
We hosted the photos yesterday and so we provided beer, wine, soda and nibbles etc.
Then they all go off for dinner and the boy pays.
Then it's on to the dance followed by the after party at someone elses house.
In January we have the Sadie Hawkins dance and then the girls ask the boys and pay for dinner. That too is very formal here and the girls wear short cocktail dresses but in other areas Sadies is much more informal.
It is quite an education!
This is what happens here:
Boy asks girl to be his date.
Assuming she says yes.....
He asks what colour dress she will be wearing and buys a corsage in that colour. Usually here it is a wrist corsage.
Sometimes the corsage comes with a buttonhole for him (called a buttoniere here) sometimes it doesn't so you need to check that.
Generally here the girl would buy the buttonhole seperately.
Homecoming is very formal here and the girls wear long dresses (although this year there were a few short ones) and the boys wear suits and ties. The boy will ususally match his tie to the colour of the girls dress.
They usually arrange to go to homecoming with a group of friends and they all get together at someones house for photo's first and parents go to that.
We hosted the photos yesterday and so we provided beer, wine, soda and nibbles etc.
Then they all go off for dinner and the boy pays.
Then it's on to the dance followed by the after party at someone elses house.
In January we have the Sadie Hawkins dance and then the girls ask the boys and pay for dinner. That too is very formal here and the girls wear short cocktail dresses but in other areas Sadies is much more informal.
It is quite an education!
Oct 8th 2007, 3:55 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
It all depends on your school. In today's terms, our homecoming dance was business formal and our prom was black-tie formal. Our Sadie Hawkins dance was jeans and socks (technically a 'sock hop' because they have it on the gym floor and don't want you to scuff things up) but at my school it was called a 'Mr. Irresistible' dance.
As I didn't get asked, three other Star Trek fans and I formed a one-night club called 'The Resistibles' and just ended up at the video arcade playing Asteroids until the end of the evening.
As I didn't get asked, three other Star Trek fans and I formed a one-night club called 'The Resistibles' and just ended up at the video arcade playing Asteroids until the end of the evening.
Oct 8th 2007, 3:56 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
What you described is exactly what went on in my school. We had "Homecoming" in the fall and "Coming Home" (get it reversed? not that funny) in the spring. The only real difference between the two was who asked who. (Homecoming = boys ask, Cominghome = girls ask)
The prom is reserved for seniors generally, though they may choose to ask an underclassmen to go with them. Homecoming and Sadie Hawkins, etc. are for all students.
Sounds like a pretty good description to me - generally formal dress - a smidge less so than the prom, but not by too much.
The prom is reserved for seniors generally, though they may choose to ask an underclassmen to go with them. Homecoming and Sadie Hawkins, etc. are for all students.
Sounds like a pretty good description to me - generally formal dress - a smidge less so than the prom, but not by too much.
Oct 8th 2007, 4:10 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
Thanks folks - I'll let you know how it goes 
Oct 8th 2007, 12:15 pm
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Re: Homecoming Dance
Not really because they organise it all themselves.
They sort out where they are eating, book it and get themselves there, then onto the dance and then onto any party afterwards.
If they need any parents to drive then they ask and sort out a rota so that no-one ends up driving twice.
Teaching good organisational skills
The only time they might have a limo is for the senior prom but my daughter didn't bother.
Back in the UK my eldest daughter's high school had been having a prom for the last 12 years.
They sort out where they are eating, book it and get themselves there, then onto the dance and then onto any party afterwards.
If they need any parents to drive then they ask and sort out a rota so that no-one ends up driving twice.
Teaching good organisational skills
The only time they might have a limo is for the senior prom but my daughter didn't bother.
Back in the UK my eldest daughter's high school had been having a prom for the last 12 years.
Oct 8th 2007, 1:20 pm
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadie_Hawkins_dance
In the United States, the Sadie Hawkins dance (also known as a snowball, Morp, vice-versa, turnabout, TWIRP, or a Tolo) is a school dance, usually occurring in high schools, in which female students invite male students. This is in opposition of normal school dance traditions, such as prom, where male students invite female students.
Traditionally, the Sadie Hawkins dance occurs during the autumn in November, or in some places January or February. The Sadie Hawkins dance is one of three dances that many high schools hold, the other two dances being prom and homecoming. Some schools simply hold regular dances in which certain songs are "snowball" or "Sadie Hawkins" songs in which girls choose whom to dance with.
The Sadie Hawkins dance is named after the Li'l Abner comic strip character Sadie Hawkins. November 15 was Sadie Hawkins day, when the unmarried women of Dogpatch got to chase the bachelors and marry the ones they caught. In America this caught on quickly and evolved into a dance where the women got to invite a man of their choice.
In the United States, the Sadie Hawkins dance (also known as a snowball, Morp, vice-versa, turnabout, TWIRP, or a Tolo) is a school dance, usually occurring in high schools, in which female students invite male students. This is in opposition of normal school dance traditions, such as prom, where male students invite female students.
Traditionally, the Sadie Hawkins dance occurs during the autumn in November, or in some places January or February. The Sadie Hawkins dance is one of three dances that many high schools hold, the other two dances being prom and homecoming. Some schools simply hold regular dances in which certain songs are "snowball" or "Sadie Hawkins" songs in which girls choose whom to dance with.
The Sadie Hawkins dance is named after the Li'l Abner comic strip character Sadie Hawkins. November 15 was Sadie Hawkins day, when the unmarried women of Dogpatch got to chase the bachelors and marry the ones they caught. In America this caught on quickly and evolved into a dance where the women got to invite a man of their choice.
Oct 8th 2007, 2:11 pm
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Don't worry, the kids are responsible for the planning - the parents just provide the funding. If he's never ordered flowers before then you could help him navigate through that .... the idea of matching the corsage to her dress is cute but a white corsage is also foolproof. If he's shy then maybe you could call the girl's mother and ask what color the dress is if you really wanted to make it match. Feel free to ask the flower shop what everybody else is doing - they're always "in the know" about these things. Traditionally, the girls are the ones that have all of the crazy stuff to do (hair, nails, shopping etc) all the boys need is a nice suit.
If he's never ordered flowers before then you could help him navigate through that .... the idea of matching the corsage to her dress is cute but a white corsage is also foolproof. If he's shy then maybe you could call the girl's mother and ask what color the dress is if you really wanted to make it match. Feel free to ask the flower shop what everybody else is doing - they're always "in the know" about these things. Traditionally, the girls are the ones that have all of the crazy stuff to do (hair, nails, shopping etc) all the boys need is a nice suit.
Oct 8th 2007, 11:22 pm
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Don't worry, the kids are responsible for the planning - the parents just provide the funding. If he's never ordered flowers before then you could help him navigate through that .... the idea of matching the corsage to her dress is cute but a white corsage is also foolproof. If he's shy then maybe you could call the girl's mother and ask what color the dress is if you really wanted to make it match. Feel free to ask the flower shop what everybody else is doing - they're always "in the know" about these things. Traditionally, the girls are the ones that have all of the crazy stuff to do (hair, nails, shopping etc) all the boys need is a nice suit.
If he's never ordered flowers before then you could help him navigate through that .... the idea of matching the corsage to her dress is cute but a white corsage is also foolproof. If he's shy then maybe you could call the girl's mother and ask what color the dress is if you really wanted to make it match. Feel free to ask the flower shop what everybody else is doing - they're always "in the know" about these things. Traditionally, the girls are the ones that have all of the crazy stuff to do (hair, nails, shopping etc) all the boys need is a nice suit.
Oct 9th 2007, 1:14 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
Okay, I'll admit it .... I've been fretting over this. 
Please just take this as an overbearing aunty and nothing else.
Remind him to use his manners and open the door for his date whenever the occasion arises. Also, arm him with a credit/debit card for anything unforseen..... If they go out for a meal after the dance he should offer to pay for him and his date.
Don't worry about any of the other nonsense - there is nothing to be gained by competing and trying to keep up with the neighbors. The most important thing is that he feels confident and looks his best.
And of course ... let him know how much you love him and how proud you are of him.
Please just take this as an overbearing aunty and nothing else.
Remind him to use his manners and open the door for his date whenever the occasion arises. Also, arm him with a credit/debit card for anything unforseen..... If they go out for a meal after the dance he should offer to pay for him and his date.
Don't worry about any of the other nonsense - there is nothing to be gained by competing and trying to keep up with the neighbors. The most important thing is that he feels confident and looks his best.
And of course ... let him know how much you love him and how proud you are of him.
Oct 9th 2007, 1:43 am
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Re: Homecoming Dance
And be sure to embarass him with lots of pics of him and his date.
Hope he has a great time.
Hope he has a great time.
Oct 9th 2007, 2:06 am
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Okay, I'll admit it .... I've been fretting over this.
Please just take this as an overbearing aunty and nothing else.
Remind him to use his manners and open the door for his date whenever the occasion arises. Also, arm him with a credit/debit card for anything unforseen..... If they go out for a meal after the dance he should offer to pay for him and his date.
Don't worry about any of the other nonsense - there is nothing to be gained by competing and trying to keep up with the neighbors. The most important thing is that he feels confident and looks his best.
And of course ... let him know how much you love him and how proud you are of him.
Please just take this as an overbearing aunty and nothing else.
Remind him to use his manners and open the door for his date whenever the occasion arises. Also, arm him with a credit/debit card for anything unforseen..... If they go out for a meal after the dance he should offer to pay for him and his date.
Don't worry about any of the other nonsense - there is nothing to be gained by competing and trying to keep up with the neighbors. The most important thing is that he feels confident and looks his best.
And of course ... let him know how much you love him and how proud you are of him.
Ahh... Auntie Leslie you are so sweet
I have to go to a Junior Service League Ball in a couple of weeks, what's your advise for that....cos I don't really want to go but they are raising money for my volunteer group so we are guests of honour. I am so not a dress up person
