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But she was back home for six week's, just her and the Boy, when she came back her OH said he did not want to ever move to England, he is American, and she always was made to believe otherwise. I am not one of them Women that will do what ever the Husband wants to do in life just to keep him happy and neither is our Liz.
Not taking sides at all but I do hope that one party or the other gives a bit- as the child is the one who is going to be hurt the most. Either adult can tough it out and live in the other's country- if they are truly interested in the well being of the child...which I question.
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Not taking sides at all but I do hope that one party or the other gives a bit- as the child is the one who is going to be hurt the most. Either adult can tough it out and live in the other's country- if they are truly interested in the well being of the child...which I question.![Confused](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif)
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Not taking sides at all but I do hope that one party or the other gives a bit- as the child is the one who is going to be hurt the most. Either adult can tough it out and live in the other's country- if they are truly interested in the well being of the child...which I question.![Confused](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif)
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Moreover, he had faithfully promised her that their life in the US would be purely temporary and that they would be moving back to the UK in about 18 months' time - a promise he now reneged on.
So I for one cannot see any reason for her staying, if he is willing to grant her full custody of the child. What kind of future would her son have with a father who is never there and a mother who is miserable and thousands of miles away from her support network.
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just catching up partystar as i've been away for a few weeks... i know you have lots of family in the uk to help out with your son and so you go girl and all the best
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It appears that he is taking little or no interest in either his wife or his son.
Moreover, he had faithfully promised her that their life in the US would be purely temporary and that they would be moving back to the UK in about 18 months' time - a promise he now reneged on.
So I for one cannot see any reason for her staying, if he is willing to grant her full custody of the child. What kind of future would her son have with a father who is never there and a mother who is miserable and thousands of miles away from her support network.
Moreover, he had faithfully promised her that their life in the US would be purely temporary and that they would be moving back to the UK in about 18 months' time - a promise he now reneged on.
So I for one cannot see any reason for her staying, if he is willing to grant her full custody of the child. What kind of future would her son have with a father who is never there and a mother who is miserable and thousands of miles away from her support network.
I do feel awful that my son will basically grow up without a father, but that's pretty much how things are right now anyway. We will be surrounded by family members when we move back to England, they are wonderful, however annoying they are at times!!!
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It appears that he is taking little or no interest in either his wife or his son.
Moreover, he had faithfully promised her that their life in the US would be purely temporary and that they would be moving back to the UK in about 18 months' time - a promise he now reneged on.
So I for one cannot see any reason for her staying, if he is willing to grant her full custody of the child. What kind of future would her son have with a father who is never there and a mother who is miserable and thousands of miles away from her support network.
Moreover, he had faithfully promised her that their life in the US would be purely temporary and that they would be moving back to the UK in about 18 months' time - a promise he now reneged on.
So I for one cannot see any reason for her staying, if he is willing to grant her full custody of the child. What kind of future would her son have with a father who is never there and a mother who is miserable and thousands of miles away from her support network.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
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Seems to me like both Mom and Dad need a good kick in the ass, and maybe stop worrying about what he said or she promised. The knew that an international relationship and that accomodations would need to be made. Then a child is born which adds a new responsibilty to the mix...one that both parents (though we can only hear the story from Mom's side) seem to be ignoring.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
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Seems to me like both Mom and Dad need a good kick in the ass, and maybe stop worrying about what he said or she promised. The knew that an international relationship and that accomodations would need to be made. Then a child is born which adds a new responsibilty to the mix...one that both parents (though we can only hear the story from Mom's side) seem to be ignoring.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
I think we all need to stop giving our opinions...Partystar has never asked for them anyway.
Nobody but the two people involved in this marriage know what is really happening and it seems that they are being sensible, making amicable decisions and moving along.
I am all for the "family unit" of mum dad and kids but there is nothing worse for a child growing up if there is tension and anger between two parents who are only staying together for the child.
Let us stop assuming we know what is best....we are not in her position.
Good luck Liz and stay strong for all the new beginnings in your life.
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Before he went back on active duty with the Army my ex was a volunteer fireman/EMT and then went on to take the training for paramedic-still as a volunteer.
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Seems to me like both Mom and Dad need a good kick in the ass, and maybe stop worrying about what he said or she promised. The knew that an international relationship and that accomodations would need to be made. Then a child is born which adds a new responsibilty to the mix...one that both parents (though we can only hear the story from Mom's side) seem to be ignoring.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
I know neither one and do not wish to single either out, except to say "shame on both of you for putting your wants (live in UK/ Be a firefighter in the US) ahead of the needs of the boy. You should both be embarrassed of yourselves.
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Things are never simple are they? We just have to make the decisions we feel are right for us at the time. Good luck.
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