Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Aug 17th 2007, 8:06 am
#76
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Cheers again everyone for the responses, What a nice bunch! I'd like to answer some of the comments:
I cant remember all the names so i will just reply with what i read
I'm going to be in the USA for at least another 2 years, Im lucky to have this job, and if im honest i struggled a bit with mortgages/Cost of Living back home before i left. Living in the US gives me allot of financial freedom. I have a lovely apartment, and TBH a great standard of living (besides being lonely and bored sometimes). I do plan on returning home though, once i've saved enough to get "back on the ladder". But i want to give America a go, i honestly think if i had a group of friends and more social life it would work for me.
To the bloke who said moving downtown would be a good idea, I agree. But the problem is i'm an on-call Engineer and live close to where i work. Also the traffic is terrible downtown, and although i could afford a smallish pad it would still be about 3X the cost of living only 10 miles outside.
KJ2007 - Thanks, your right im sure there is lots of decent girls about. I've been on about 5 dates here so far (not many!), But haven't had much luck. It usually starts off OK (i can take the "how much do you earn thing and laugh" but then i end up being either a personal banker/Taxi service (2 didnt drive and they were in there 30's!), or just feeling like im being taken for a ride. I'm sorry but i do have the impression American girls are very materialistic. But its silly to tarnish everyone with the same brush.
At the end of the day, if i was courting a lass and i really liked her. I wouldnt care if she lived in a mud hut!. Maybe its because i am reasonably successful for my age and dont need someone to keep me/be on the same level as me career wise.......i dunno.
Anyway i'm looking into Football coaching at the moment, seems there is an under 8's team right down the road from me..........That would get me out of the house for a few hours a week at least, and i dont mind gobby kids as long as i can give them back
Manc -
Soul - Thanks for the link, I might give that a shot!, :-)
Cheers
I cant remember all the names so i will just reply with what i read
I'm going to be in the USA for at least another 2 years, Im lucky to have this job, and if im honest i struggled a bit with mortgages/Cost of Living back home before i left. Living in the US gives me allot of financial freedom. I have a lovely apartment, and TBH a great standard of living (besides being lonely and bored sometimes). I do plan on returning home though, once i've saved enough to get "back on the ladder". But i want to give America a go, i honestly think if i had a group of friends and more social life it would work for me.
To the bloke who said moving downtown would be a good idea, I agree. But the problem is i'm an on-call Engineer and live close to where i work. Also the traffic is terrible downtown, and although i could afford a smallish pad it would still be about 3X the cost of living only 10 miles outside.
KJ2007 - Thanks, your right im sure there is lots of decent girls about. I've been on about 5 dates here so far (not many!), But haven't had much luck. It usually starts off OK (i can take the "how much do you earn thing and laugh" but then i end up being either a personal banker/Taxi service (2 didnt drive and they were in there 30's!), or just feeling like im being taken for a ride. I'm sorry but i do have the impression American girls are very materialistic. But its silly to tarnish everyone with the same brush.
At the end of the day, if i was courting a lass and i really liked her. I wouldnt care if she lived in a mud hut!. Maybe its because i am reasonably successful for my age and dont need someone to keep me/be on the same level as me career wise.......i dunno.
Anyway i'm looking into Football coaching at the moment, seems there is an under 8's team right down the road from me..........That would get me out of the house for a few hours a week at least, and i dont mind gobby kids as long as i can give them back
Manc -
Soul - Thanks for the link, I might give that a shot!, :-)
Cheers
The football coaching is a great idea, will get you out and meeting lots of people.I know its kids but the parents will be there.
Our English accents nearly always attract attention.
Aug 17th 2007, 8:37 am
#77
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Location: Milwaukie, Oregon
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
lol, so I'll have to review my impression of becoming a spinster man in Milwaukie.. didn't know it was the new hot spot! I will however, have to keep the Geezer locked up.. can't have him running riot in Sears with those loose ladies on the lookout.
Was that fair fun? I've got an itch to go to one this year but wondering if we should go to the State Fair instead.
Was that fair fun? I've got an itch to go to one this year but wondering if we should go to the State Fair instead.
I quite enjoyed it although it did seem disorganised but there was some good entertainment and my grandson took me to see all the animals.
The State Fair seems to be much better, we'll probably go to that too I think it is growing up on a farm my wife gets nostalgic over sheep and cows points out which are better than others.
Aug 17th 2007, 12:58 pm
#78
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
My wife who knows the County Fair from as long ago as her days in 4H (whatever that is) and exhibiting knitting and assorted animals from the farm, she grew up on her parents farm in Oregon City, tells me it is not as good as in previous years.
I quite enjoyed it although it did seem disorganised but there was some good entertainment and my grandson took me to see all the animals.
The State Fair seems to be much better, we'll probably go to that too I think it is growing up on a farm my wife gets nostalgic over sheep and cows points out which are better than others.
I quite enjoyed it although it did seem disorganised but there was some good entertainment and my grandson took me to see all the animals.
The State Fair seems to be much better, we'll probably go to that too I think it is growing up on a farm my wife gets nostalgic over sheep and cows points out which are better than others.
http://www.oregoncountryfair.org/Photos/photos.html
Aug 17th 2007, 1:11 pm
#79
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Move to San Francisco.
Aug 17th 2007, 1:16 pm
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Aug 17th 2007, 1:22 pm
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There are signs all over the place. There's one at the end of my street, says Stop, no one pays any attention to it.
Aug 17th 2007, 3:10 pm
#82
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Yes, get involved in politics. Look for a MoveOn group or the local Peace and Justice organisation. Also the Democrats usually have monthly meetings for business matters and social things every other week. I have met some great ...and intelligent, caring people this way. Don't rule out Church - try the Unitarian Universalists ( they are non -creedal). Often , they'll be the same folks you'll meet in the Peace and Justice groups.
Aug 17th 2007, 3:20 pm
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
Yes, get involved in politics. Look for a MoveOn group or the local Peace and Justice organisation. Also the Democrats usually have monthly meetings for business matters and social things every other week. I have met some great ...and intelligent, caring people this way. Don't rule out Church - try the Unitarian Universalists ( they are non -creedal). Often , they'll be the same folks you'll meet in the Peace and Justice groups.
Aug 18th 2007, 4:28 am
#86
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
OP = original poster, I'm guessing. If he is so afflicted then I would suggest the local Republican party meetups. Also go to websites like townhall.com and others. There are probably just as just many clubs and groups on the right as the left. I hear the John Birch Society is known for great times......
Aug 18th 2007, 5:23 am
#87
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
I guess you just had to 'be there' as a kid!
Hopefully we'll get ourselves organized and get down to one of these fairs.
Aug 18th 2007, 5:53 pm
#88
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Re: Feeling Pretty Alone - In USA.
If I was in your position mate, I'd get a job as a barman on a Friday / Saturday night and let the totty come to you.........
Plus if you get lucky, the chicks will think you're a lowly barman and can't afford to pay for their date.
so hopefull not only will you get a shag, but also a meal too.
win win all round I think.
Plus if you get lucky, the chicks will think you're a lowly barman and can't afford to pay for their date.
so hopefull not only will you get a shag, but also a meal too.
win win all round I think.
Aug 18th 2007, 5:55 pm
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