Family visit from UK - etiqutte
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Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Having been here for just a few months I am still finding my feet, still living on savings and getting lost all the time. A family member wants to visit and I always think if someone comes you give them total hospitality take them for meals etc but I am not in a financial postition to do this. what have other people done how has it worked and what if i get a job? really would appreciate any advice .
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Having been here for just a few months I am still finding my feet, still living on savings and getting lost all the time. A family member wants to visit and I always think if someone comes you give them total hospitality take them for meals etc but I am not in a financial postition to do this. what have other people done how has it worked and what if i get a job? really would appreciate any advice .
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by rushman
What is "etiqutte"?
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Having been here for just a few months I am still finding my feet, still living on savings and getting lost all the time. A family member wants to visit and I always think if someone comes you give them total hospitality take them for meals etc but I am not in a financial postition to do this. what have other people done how has it worked and what if i get a job? really would appreciate any advice .
but seriously you shouldn't have any problems, we never really have..Our first visitors came when we'd only been here for 7 weeks, it was a really nice reminder of home once the initial excitement of being here had worn off, however I did want them to leave after maybe..2 hours..
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Having been here for just a few months I am still finding my feet, still living on savings and getting lost all the time. A family member wants to visit and I always think if someone comes you give them total hospitality take them for meals etc but I am not in a financial postition to do this. what have other people done how has it worked and what if i get a job? really would appreciate any advice .
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my brother came over while I was still unemployed, he got lots of meals in and when we went out we cheap (ryans, ci ci's etc)
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Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Having been here for just a few months I am still finding my feet, still living on savings and getting lost all the time. A family member wants to visit and I always think if someone comes you give them total hospitality take them for meals etc but I am not in a financial postition to do this. what have other people done how has it worked and what if i get a job? really would appreciate any advice .
I don't know what your area is like but museums and parks are still the best places to take visitors, IMO. Check with your Chamber of Commerce and see what you can do on the cheap locally. Remember, they are coming to see you and get a taste of American life, any visitor worth their salt will offer to pay some of the expenses.
Home cooked meals and picnics are the epitome of gracious entertaining.
If you get a job, perhaps you could leave them with a car so they can explore on their own?
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Leslie66
How close is this family member? Is it somebody you can be completely honest about your situation with?
I don't know what your area is like but museums and parks are still the best places to take visitors, IMO. Check with your Chamber of Commerce and see what you can do on the cheap locally. Remember, they are coming to see you and get a taste of American life, any visitor worth their salt will offer to pay some of the expenses.
Home cooked meals and picnics are the epitome of gracious entertaining.
If you get a job, perhaps you could leave them with a car so they can explore on their own?
I don't know what your area is like but museums and parks are still the best places to take visitors, IMO. Check with your Chamber of Commerce and see what you can do on the cheap locally. Remember, they are coming to see you and get a taste of American life, any visitor worth their salt will offer to pay some of the expenses.
Home cooked meals and picnics are the epitome of gracious entertaining.
If you get a job, perhaps you could leave them with a car so they can explore on their own?
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Thanks you are right I wanted to see if i was on the right lines I am used to having a job and money I have worked out a budget and am being really careful. Just dont want to appear tight.
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A collauge of mine (British) has a lot of visitors and often has to put up with some of them assuming they will be paid for, not contributing to groceries when the bill is double the usual, etc.
If they are good friends, I'd be up front with them about the situation - you will be very happy to see them but you are very concerned because you're still getting on your feet and won't be able to afford to go out with them etc. Good friends will know what to do.
If they are good friends, I'd be up front with them about the situation - you will be very happy to see them but you are very concerned because you're still getting on your feet and won't be able to afford to go out with them etc. Good friends will know what to do.
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I reiterate everything Woodsey said.
I have also come to realise that you can bust your arse for visitors and get minus nothing back in thanks or you can leave them to fend for themselves for the most part and.... well ....they fend for themselves.
I get a bottle of gin (and tonic) and a bottle of wine in, a few nibblies, I don't assume anything else and then if they want to go out I wait for an invite. Easy peasy.
I admit it has taken me 10 years of living here to get to this point! But you can learn from my mistakes!
I have also come to realise that you can bust your arse for visitors and get minus nothing back in thanks or you can leave them to fend for themselves for the most part and.... well ....they fend for themselves.
I get a bottle of gin (and tonic) and a bottle of wine in, a few nibblies, I don't assume anything else and then if they want to go out I wait for an invite. Easy peasy.
I admit it has taken me 10 years of living here to get to this point! But you can learn from my mistakes!
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Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
Thanks you are right I wanted to see if i was on the right lines I am used to having a job and money I have worked out a budget and am being really careful. Just dont want to appear tight.
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Leslie66
How close is this family member? Is it somebody you can be completely honest about your situation with?
I don't know what your area is like but museums and parks are still the best places to take visitors, IMO. Check with your Chamber of Commerce and see what you can do on the cheap locally. Remember, they are coming to see you and get a taste of American life, any visitor worth their salt will offer to pay some of the expenses.
Home cooked meals and picnics are the epitome of gracious entertaining.
If you get a job, perhaps you could leave them with a car so they can explore on their own?
I don't know what your area is like but museums and parks are still the best places to take visitors, IMO. Check with your Chamber of Commerce and see what you can do on the cheap locally. Remember, they are coming to see you and get a taste of American life, any visitor worth their salt will offer to pay some of the expenses.
Home cooked meals and picnics are the epitome of gracious entertaining.
If you get a job, perhaps you could leave them with a car so they can explore on their own?
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Originally Posted by rushman
That was very nice, considerate and thoughtful. Did you cut and paste that from someones website?
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Re: Family visit from UK - etiqutte
Originally Posted by Bradford Lass
. Just dont want to appear tight.