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SanDiegogirl Apr 27th 2013 11:21 am
Re: Dollars for wedding presents!
 
Originally Posted by Speedwell (Post 10681412)
That's why I told them to tell the bride's mother and maid of honor to get the word out that they can use money rather than gifts. That is tactful; they can say, "You know, since you asked what they'd like, I can tell you what would do them the most good...".
Agree ...... manners dictate you don't put info about a registry/gifts etc in the invitation, but guests will ask mum, dad, bridesmaids, what is being done with regards gifts, and that's when they say "well they will be moving to the US immediately after the wedding, so actually cash gifts would be the most suitable"

ChocolateBabz Apr 28th 2013 1:39 am
Re: Dollars for wedding presents!
 
Originally Posted by Jerseygirl (Post 10681381)
When my daughter got married US stores would not accept a UK credit card for online purchases. 2 people had their cards stopped by the UK CC company as they thought they were being fraudulently used.
Yeah you would have to check it out. My parents in law gave us Bed Bath & Beyond vouchers for Christmas so they must work :)

Speedwell Apr 28th 2013 3:11 am
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Originally Posted by ChocolateBabz (Post 10682092)
Yeah you would have to check it out. My parents in law gave us Bed Bath & Beyond vouchers for Christmas so they must work :)
If the store ships to the UK, they must accept UK credit cards. The bank that issues the cards might feel a bit funny about it, though.

scrubbedexpat099 Apr 28th 2013 8:40 am
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Why not just have a Money Dance?

Gillymonkey Apr 28th 2013 1:27 pm
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Hey, we got married shortly before our move over here. We didn't put anything in the invite as we felt that was bad manners but we asked both sets of parents to spread the word that cash/gift vouchers would be most suitable given our situation. Just about everyone did this apart from those who wanted to give us special gifts which are in storage at my Mums house - these are timeless pieces. We were happy to get gift cards since we used these to buy our new luggage etc, I also ended up actually selling some unused ones to my Mum. I wouldn't specify currency, no doubt since you are moving anyway you will have to do some kind of money transfer.

judesM Apr 28th 2013 2:01 pm
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Cash is king! gift cards require you to shop at their store.

American wedding gifts have always been money as the primary gift. And I seem to notice that UK follows the US culture like a lapdog these days.

Englishtart Apr 29th 2013 12:46 am
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We were living in Germany, but got married in the UK, we knew we were going to be stationed elsewhere pretty soon after the Wedding (possibly the USA) and had pretty much all the dishes/glasses etc that we needed. This was 26 years ago (next month) and we didn't feel we were being disrespectful to let guests know that we would appreciate monetary gifts as opposed to anything else.

The only people that got upset by our request, were the US side of the family, they didn't come to the Wedding and didn't even send a card, but that's a different story!:ohmy:

dickiederson Apr 29th 2013 8:45 pm
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Thank you people, some good points for things to watch out for and interesting to see how etiquette has changed over the past two hundred years or so!

These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.

Speedwell Apr 29th 2013 10:12 pm
Re: Dollars for wedding presents!
 
Originally Posted by dickiederson (Post 10684776)
Thank you people, some good points for things to watch out for and interesting to see how etiquette has changed over the past two hundred years or so!

These days, I'd suggest it's quite bad manners to criticise and belittle another's wedding plans and pick at the grammar of a person asking a simple, friendly question. Maybe I'm more European than I realise (or realiZe...whichever will provoke the least abuse here), maybe I just don't have enough free time on my hands to take offence at the choices other people make in life and feel obliged to voice my outrage.
Thank you for expressing your concerns.

Dorothy Apr 29th 2013 10:14 pm
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Originally Posted by judesM (Post 10682832)
American wedding gifts have always been money as the primary gift..
No it hasn't. It's only the last 20 or 30 years that people have primarily given cash.

AmerLisa Apr 30th 2013 1:18 am
Re: Dollars for wedding presents!
 
Originally Posted by judesM (Post 10682832)
Cash is king! gift cards require you to shop at their store.

American wedding gifts have always been money as the primary gift. And I seem to notice that UK follows the US culture like a lapdog these days.
Really? When did that happen and I didn't notice?


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