Hi people,
right here is the situation, i am travelling to Kalamazoo/Michigan in 5 weeks time to see my love.
I am near the end of my divorce , she is going through divorce too.
Right, i was staying with her at her house me and my son and her kids.But hubby is NOW refusing to leave the house and means i can't stay there.If i can't stay with her for my 2 weeks holiday, getting to spend time with her and stuff , should i still go! , God knows i love her so damn much!.
Am i just chasing a dream here?........ we've been planning the future and everything. Her lawyer says if she leaves she could lose her kids......... . And she loves me so much too, its tearing us apart not being together.

I just don't know what to do folks.....any Serious advice much Appreciated.......

Thats me f**ked then!!!

Take yourself in hand ...until your time comes ...you cannot be together via innigration until both divorces are final anyway....

How far along is her divorce process if one of them has not yet moved out of the house???
Does her husband even know about the divorce?
Why doesn't she just move out and take the kids?

I think you need to be very cautious here, have you actually met her in person before this planned visit?

There are a lot of weird people who make all sorts of promises/plans/stories up on the internet and I could be wrong but this story sounds fishy to me.

Please!!! This is not The Lounge!

yeah but thats usually me and I'm nothing to do with this situation.

If, at the time you plan on visiting her, she is not legally divorced, then it would not be wise to visit this woman. Her soon-to-be exhusband is still in the picture and you (and your son) showing up would just make the environment very tense.

Surely, for both your sakes (you and your girlfriend), hold off from visiting until she's a single woman again.


NC Penguin

Don't go. Seriously.

This sounds like a screwed up situation.

Hopefully she'll have a very accommodating hot single younger sister in the mean time!!

You could always just stay in a hotel....though messing around while she's still living with her ex is asking for trouble...and errr...how far is her divorce proceedings gotten? wouldn't have a clue how long it'll take, it all depends on the state...

You are a right real matchmaker, aren't ya?


NC Penguin

Sounds well ropey.

Like the rest have asked - how far along is her divorce, and does her husband know about you ??

Thanks for the replies guys, just to fill you in a bit more, her hubby lives in a seperate part of the house, won't have anything to do with the kids, and used to knock her about.
He's against divorce as he is Christian as are we.
Hes doing this as he's a stubborn arsehole!.
He knows with or without me on the scene there is NO chance for his marriage, its been going down the pan before i came onto the scene.

Sorry one further bit yes he knows Everything about me!, he even chatted to me online on friday asking about previous jobs and hobbies and stuff!.

Sounds at best very poorly thought out. Nothing good can come of this visit. Watch your back.

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