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T-bird Jan 7th 2009 5:13 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by shabee (Post 7136181)
I write this with very mixed up feelings.
We have decided that we are going home.
We arrived here in Sept after what seemed like an eternity waiting for our visa. 2.5 years to get here infact.
It just is not working out for us and we are biting the bullet and going home.
I have 2 teenage boys and a husband who really hate being here and although I dont want to go back I have to do what is best for my family.
We could go through the palava of moving areas, states etc. but I know in my heart that it is not for them.
Who knows what the future will bring and we have a 5 year visa so anything is possible.
I say all this with a heavy heart.
I really thank all of you who helped us in the past, and I wish those of you over here and those heading over all the best.
Love
Shabee
x

Hi Shabee
I know I don't know you + your decision could be the right for you. But in my line of work, I deal a lot with change. And it is very natural to feel worse before feeling better (often much worse) when you go through a change + I just wonder whether, after everything you went to to get there, if you've given it long enough? Might you not regret giving it a bit more time?

Just a thought + good luck with everything.

T-bird

shabee Jan 7th 2009 10:48 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by T-bird (Post 7139915)
Hi Shabee
I know I don't know you + your decision could be the right for you. But in my line of work, I deal a lot with change. And it is very natural to feel worse before feeling better (often much worse) when you go through a change + I just wonder whether, after everything you went to to get there, if you've given it long enough? Might you not regret giving it a bit more time?

Just a thought + good luck with everything.

T-bird

Probably
x

shellynelly Jan 8th 2009 1:25 am

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by shabee (Post 7140814)
Probably
x

Really sorry to hear it hasnt worked out for your family, we arrived in perth in september to, to be honest i have really struggled with the move as well, but it does seem to be getting better ,
good luck with the decision you all make, all the best for the future
michelle x

kez81 Jan 8th 2009 12:53 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by shabee (Post 7136181)
I write this with very mixed up feelings.
We have decided that we are going home.
We arrived here in Sept after what seemed like an eternity waiting for our visa. 2.5 years to get here infact.
It just is not working out for us and we are biting the bullet and going home.
I have 2 teenage boys and a husband who really hate being here and although I dont want to go back I have to do what is best for my family.
We could go through the palava of moving areas, states etc. but I know in my heart that it is not for them.
Who knows what the future will bring and we have a 5 year visa so anything is possible.
I say all this with a heavy heart.
I really thank all of you who helped us in the past, and I wish those of you over here and those heading over all the best.
Love
Shabee
x

good luck!!! all the best in good old Aberdeen wish it was me!!!

sj oldfield Jan 8th 2009 7:48 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Wishing you all the best, but really you have only been here a few months...I think every family feels the same at this stage during their first few months in Oz!

ianbrown Jan 9th 2009 10:16 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Hi Shabee
I really cant believe it, We are fellow August 2007 applicants and I remember watching you (and us all) go through this together, all the highs and lows, Its really sad that you have made such a huge decision so soon. When we arrived in Brisbane we stayed at a holiday home in Sandgate which was okay, but just okay, nothing special......but after exploring the city we have totally fell in love with Brisbane & Australia, it is everything we hoped it would be and more.........are you sure you couldnt just move to a different area and everything will seem better?...........its a huge decision so soon, I would urge you to give it at least 12 months or move house to somewhere more bustly!

Good luck which eve way you go but once you get back to the UK It would be terrible for you all to say "what have we done!!!!"

stuckinblighty Jan 11th 2009 9:14 am

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Best wishes Shabee for you and your family.

It just seems such a shame that you're returning after only a few months.I know i've had some dodgy moments but theres no way im returning .......just yet ;):p

Atleast you've had the balls to do what most people only talk about.



Lee :thumbup:

vickys Jan 13th 2009 10:25 am

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Well after reading the whole thread I still can't believe it. We too are August 07 applicants and we haven't managed to sell our house yet!! Let alone get there. I'm already having second thoughts and we haven't even left...... So I just want to say a very well done to Shabee and family for getting there in the first place and giving it your all.

Whatever your decisions I wish you all the best in the future wherever that may be. Good luck and take care fellow Augusteee:thumbsup:

shabee Jan 13th 2009 12:26 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by vickys (Post 7164208)
Well after reading the whole thread I still can't believe it. We too are August 07 applicants and we haven't managed to sell our house yet!! Let alone get there. I'm already having second thoughts and we haven't even left...... So I just want to say a very well done to Shabee and family for getting there in the first place and giving it your all.

Whatever your decisions I wish you all the best in the future wherever that may be. Good luck and take care fellow Augusteee:thumbsup:

Hi there,
Thanks for that. I did not come over here with those rose tinted glasses on lol. I did my research. I love it here and I am devistated that I am going home but I have to do what is best for my boys and if going back is what I have to do then so be it.
I wish you all the luck in the world with your house and for when you get over here.
It really is a beautiful place and if we had done it years ago, I know things would have been so much easier.
x

dave7370 Jan 13th 2009 6:01 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 
We're moving back too, not due to not liking it here because we really do.

As others have said, it's just not for us long term. We have other things to consider and they take priority.

Just because we go back to England doesn't mean our life ends, it doesn't stop us moving back here in the future or anywhere else in the world for that matter.

We just need to be, where we we need to be..... end of.

Good luck to you Shabee and your family.

shabee Jan 14th 2009 12:33 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by dave7370 (Post 7165233)
We're moving back too, not due to not liking it here because we really do.

As others have said, it's just not for us long term. We have other things to consider and they take priority.

Just because we go back to England doesn't mean our life ends, it doesn't stop us moving back here in the future or anywhere else in the world for that matter.

We just need to be, where we we need to be..... end of.

Good luck to you Shabee and your family.

Thank you and the same to you.
Enjoy your life back home!
When are you leaving
x

lyndhurst Jan 14th 2009 5:17 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Hi Sharon

when are you leaving. hope all goes well for you

cheryl :wub:

dave7370 Jan 14th 2009 5:21 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by shabee (Post 7169752)
Thank you and the same to you.
Enjoy your life back home!
When are you leaving
x

Around June / July time, no major rush at the moment.

Baby No.2 due mid May so not long after his arrival.:D

davidandsarah Jan 16th 2009 9:16 am

Re: Shabee's going home
 
Hi Shabee, sorry to here you are going to come back to the UK, I can tell in your messages that its not what you want you want to stay, I think the problem is where you are living, its too quiet, I would move somewhere thats got a bit more going on before moving back, I only moved 300 miles in england and had the same thoughts that i wanted to go back home but I stuck with it and now would never move back. I now want to move to Aus as soon as possible, I have been out 3 times so not one of these that want to move but have never set foot in Aus, but all the best to you and your family.

livinginreality Jan 16th 2009 6:59 pm

Re: Shabee's going home
 

Originally Posted by davidandsarah (Post 7178698)
Hi Shabee, sorry to here you are going to come back to the UK, I can tell in your messages that its not what you want you want to stay, I think the problem is where you are living, its too quiet, I would move somewhere thats got a bit more going on before moving back, I only moved 300 miles in england and had the same thoughts that i wanted to go back home but I stuck with it and now would never move back. I now want to move to Aus as soon as possible, I have been out 3 times so not one of these that want to move but have never set foot in Aus, but all the best to you and your family.

Good luck Shabee.I hope it all works out for you and wish you loads of luck!


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