Originally Posted by Margaret3

gawd i sound like a right whinge, although i try not to be in reality.

Hugh has been working for ages now and loves his bloody job, money still crap but he absolutely loves the people he works with, it must be good there, coz one girl travels from philip island to the the cbd to work there, this must take her , at least 2 hrs there and 2hrs back. He's so easy going, dump him anywhere and tell him to work and he'll like it .

I struggle with work soooooooo muuuuuuuch, but i know alot of brit nurses do here, so its reassuring to know am not alone in that respect and that its not just me, just the fact you know its better working in the u.k.

Hugh gets mad at me for the 'expat' thing, he thinks its this thats doing my head in and thinks i should try to intergrate more with aussies, oh yeah, easy for him to say in his fab job, 50% of the nurses i work with are asian and want hee haw to do with me, and the other 50% already have their lives established.

I used to laugh all the time at work, but to be honest i dont see many nurses smile at work here, let alone laugh. I cant remember the last time i really, really laughed, i think i have had a sense of humour bypass since coming here.

Originally Posted by Machiavelli

I actually find it harder to make friends the longer I'm here. It's not easy to 'replace' the friendships we had at 'home'. On saying that, I have three really good friends who I met when I first came and they have remained my friends through thick and thin, one Scottish, one Victorian, and one Maori. Diverse, that's me! I find it difficult to deal with the me, me, me culture I keep coming across in most of the other immigrants I meet. My man thinks I am mental trying to keep making new friends and thinks I should just think myself lucky to have the three I have.

I do hope that things improve for you Margaret. One cheeky question...

Were you sponsored to come out here as a nurse? Would you consider changing what you do to see if it made you feel any happier? Or are you one of those nurses who no matter how F* hard it gets still wants to make people feel better no matter how hard it makes your life?

Take good care of yourself.

M

Originally Posted by Margaret3

but i was a midwife 100 years ago, so am looking for a route back into that here, its amazing they are so short of midwives here, but in scotland there is no midwife jobs

Originally Posted by Margaret3

Well its one year now, below is the post I wrote at 4 months if anybodys interested.


And where do I begin now, I don’t have too much to add really, except things continued to get more and more stressful, life got more and more shit, not for the kids, as usual , we done the best we could for them, their life is probably much the same as it was in Scotland, except they go outside less.


I think both Hugh and I underestimated the strain we would both be under, we both work and commute longer, work harder also, are a lot more bloody tired (which is summit I can hardly take,), It takes this to give the kids what they had in scotland.

We also split up for a short time, it all just got too much, we saw each other a lot less, other stuff got in the way, trying to make a social life, busy working , etc, etc, and this week we go to marriage guidance , ohhh the joys.

Our teen is currently doing ~VCE here in melbourne and will be finished in 2009, and we both agree we ‘will take stock’ and decide whether to return to scotland,, but the torch still shines faintly for aus, and we still clamber to it.

I now worry endlessly about our future, if we stay here, it looks likely that we will have to work till we’re 100 as we have no real assets. I try to use the forums less than I did, as I know they make me paranoid, about money, property and pensions, something my former self would never in a million years worried about (how I long for my pre-forum self).


My true hopes for the future are.

To be back in scotland where everyone talks like me and laughs at the crazy things I do!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by Glasgowlass

I'm going to stick my neck out Margaret and say if you're still not happy in your alloted timeframe then go home and live your life like you've never lived it before. I've been here for the most miserable 18 years and I'm telling you from experience things don't always improve with time. When I first came on this forum and said the Aussies were hard to make friends with I got shot down in flames but low and behold others are finding it's true. I won't go on but all I wanted to say was life's too short. I wish I could help you as I know how you feel in some instances. I'm at the point now I'm so miserable I can barely face anybody. Wendy has extended the hand of friendship but I feel I just can't be a normal person anymore just a miserable bitch. Don't suffer if you don't have to. Scotland's a wonderful but cold place, but as my granny used to say 'you're no made of sugar and water' a bit of rain won't hurt you.The F'n sun..well....

Originally Posted by Glasgowlass

Wendy has extended the hand of friendship but I feel I just can't be a normal person anymore just a miserable bitch.

Originally Posted by Margaret3

p.s i also wont be going back until ave spent a drunken weekend with you and wendy, lol (and i wont take the fact you claim to be a miserable bitch as an excuse to wangle out it, lol)

Originally Posted by Wendy

Hey I have no problem with you having a moan at me I can do miserable too



Sounds good we can all be miserable together

Originally Posted by midgetjan

I am Scottish too by the way but I'll mix with anyone.