Well I didn't have a clue.
Jul 1st 2008, 1:12 pm
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Re: Well I didn't have a clue.
I have come to realize that you can't pressure people who know their life is winding down. They do what they need to and want to and that is just what your mom did. She wanted once more to see you in your new home, visit with you and the grandchildren, and enjoy one more visit with her sister.
Glad you no longer feel guilty for you shouldn't. Your mom had what she wanted most at that point in her life and that was to spend time with those she loved.
Jul 6th 2008, 2:55 pm
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Re: Well I didn't have a clue.
I have come to realize that you can't pressure people who know their life is winding down. They do what they need to and want to and that is just what your mom did. She wanted once more to see you in your new home, visit with you and the grandchildren, and enjoy one more visit with her sister.
Glad you no longer feel guilty for you shouldn't. Your mom had what she wanted most at that point in her life and that was to spend time with those she loved.
Glad you no longer feel guilty for you shouldn't. Your mom had what she wanted most at that point in her life and that was to spend time with those she loved.
I updated the Blog yesterday. It took a long while, brought back a lot of memories and some tears. Strangely enough last night I had a dream with my mum and my sister in it........
Jul 6th 2008, 9:37 pm
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Re: Well I didn't have a clue.
You are right, but it took a long while to realize that. Grief does strange things to you,
I updated the Blog yesterday. It took a long while, brought back a lot of memories and some tears. Strangely enough last night I had a dream with my mum and my sister in it........
I updated the Blog yesterday. It took a long while, brought back a lot of memories and some tears. Strangely enough last night I had a dream with my mum and my sister in it........
Jul 6th 2008, 10:41 pm
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Re: Well I didn't have a clue.
You are right, but it took a long while to realize that. Grief does strange things to you,
I updated the Blog yesterday. It took a long while, brought back a lot of memories and some tears. Strangely enough last night I had a dream with my mum and my sister in it........
I updated the Blog yesterday. It took a long while, brought back a lot of memories and some tears. Strangely enough last night I had a dream with my mum and my sister in it........
SM I'm sorry if recalling the memories of those times upset you.
Jul 6th 2008, 10:46 pm
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It's a strange feeling being an expat after your mother has died. Even though I went home before my mum died and went back for the funeral I still find myself "forgetting" she is gone in my "disconnected" life. I didn't get to speak to mum on the phone because she wore two hearing aids and even though I asked my dad to show her how, she never used email. The hardest thing I ever did was walk out of her house to go to the airport knowing I would never see her again. I was in tears and she told me "don't cry, you'll upset the children", typical of her. So glad you got that last holiday with your mum and to be there with her at the end.
One of the biggest down sides of being an expat.
I've got to find something not so depressing to talk about next..... I'm sorry if I am depressing you all
Jul 6th 2008, 10:52 pm
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It doesn't really depress me in fact in a way I think it is therapy. It is just hard to put into words how I really felt and how long it took me to get over it.
I am the person I am today because of my parents. Their story is really the fascinating one. Maybe one day I'll tell their tale..
Mar 13th 2009, 10:57 pm
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Did this story carry on somewhere? I'm a little confused...I've read the blog, the last entry I can see is from Sat 5th July 2008 and I was enjoying the very moving, and inspirational read.
Mar 13th 2009, 11:11 pm
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Re: Well I didn't have a clue.
trampled her to death ... just before christmas
But the Elephant was OK afterwards.