Is the term 'Dear' offensive or not? Off topic posts moved from Legal Name thread
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Is the term 'Dear' offensive or not? Off topic posts moved from Legal Name thread
Well i am so sorry i answered your question WRONG Charelle.....It is a public forum and you will get what people have to say in THEIR opinion of such a matter.
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To all you people who think 'Dear' is offensive then Oh well i'm sorry....This is the first time in 50 years i have ever heard of such thing, it's complete ass wiping and sob sob, all a bit over sensitive i'd say, i was trying to be nice and delicate with such matter and be helpful, but i shan't bother again with any of your threads!! Bye.
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To all you people who think 'Dear' is offensive then Oh well i'm sorry....This is the first time in 50 years i have ever heard of such thing, it's complete ass wiping and sob sob, all a bit over sensitive i'd say, i was trying to be nice and delicate with such matter and be helpful, but i shan't bother again with any of your threads!! Bye.
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Well i am so sorry i answered your question WRONG Charelle.....It is a public forum and you will get what people have to say in THEIR opinion of such a matter.
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To all you people who think 'Dear' is offensive then Oh well i'm sorry....This is the first time in 50 years i have ever heard of such thing, it's complete ass wiping and sob sob, all a bit over sensitive i'd say, i was trying to be nice and delicate with such matter and be helpful, but i shan't bother again with any of your threads!! Bye.
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To all you people who think 'Dear' is offensive then Oh well i'm sorry....This is the first time in 50 years i have ever heard of such thing, it's complete ass wiping and sob sob, all a bit over sensitive i'd say, i was trying to be nice and delicate with such matter and be helpful, but i shan't bother again with any of your threads!! Bye.
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And if I may dare ask , Who makes the decision that it is "condescending" or "inappropriate"..... Surely the Australians arent all wrong too?
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Only one person on this thread doesn't see that it is obvious when someone is condescending. If a stranger in the street asks you for help and you start calling them "dear", when would that not appear condescending?
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It just amazes me that so many people say it but yet are considered wrong for doing so .
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I think you've got off on the wrong foot. Yes...using the the term 'dear' is seen as extremely patronising. So how do we put that to rights? Firstly...sorry I didn't realise...would probably be best.
Stick with us...we are a nice bunch if folk really. You just have to get to know us before you jump n feet first.
Where I grew up in England you here it all the time , you commonly hear people asking for the time, and you say it's 10 o'clock my dear blah blah, The word 'dear' is often used when you don't know somebody's name...I use it daily for my business and after 20 years, I have never ever ever ever had anybody roll her eyes, call me a sleazeball or frown upon my address to them.
It just amazes me that so many people say it but yet are considered wrong for doing so .
It just amazes me that so many people say it but yet are considered wrong for doing so .
I'm aghast...or gob smacked...I've never heard the term 'my dear' as anything but patronising.
Anyway...this is taking this thread off topic...so let's move on...please.
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I've refrained from jumping in until now. I recommend new members take time to read the forums...get to know the players before you post.
I think you've got off on the wrong foot. Yes...using the the term 'dear' is seen as extremely patronising. So how do we put that to rights? Firstly...sorry I didn't realise...would probably be best.
Stick with us...we are a nice bunch if folk really. You just have to get to know us before you jump n feet first.
I think you've got off on the wrong foot. Yes...using the the term 'dear' is seen as extremely patronising. So how do we put that to rights? Firstly...sorry I didn't realise...would probably be best.
Stick with us...we are a nice bunch if folk really. You just have to get to know us before you jump n feet first.
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If you decide to leave us as per your previous post...then so be it...but I hope you decide to change your manner and stick around. Your choice...
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Where I grew up in England you here it all the time , you commonly hear people asking for the time, and you say it's 10 o'clock my dear blah blah, The word 'dear' is often used when you don't know somebody's name...I use it daily for my business and after 20 years, I have never ever ever ever had anybody roll her eyes, call me a sleazeball or frown upon my address to them.
It just amazes me that so many people say it but yet are considered wrong for doing so .
It just amazes me that so many people say it but yet are considered wrong for doing so .
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Re: Is the term 'Dear' offensive or not? Off topic posts moved from Legal Name thre
Originally Posted by chapdawg
And if I may dare ask , Who makes the decision that it is "condescending" or "inappropriate"..... Surely the Australians arent all wrong too?
To call a personal friend 'dear', and to use the term face to face, is very different from using it to a complete stranger on a forum, as I and others have already said.
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Chapdawg, I honestly do not believe you did grow up in England if you think it is normal to address people as "dear". The only time I would address somebody with that word is in a formal letter and I start with "Dear Chapdawg".
The only time I have seen the word "dear" being used as you are using it is in the Austalian immigration forum by posters from the subcontinent. Would drive us mad in fact I have put repeat offenders on ignore. It is highly patronising, you have to trust us on that.
The only time I have seen the word "dear" being used as you are using it is in the Austalian immigration forum by posters from the subcontinent. Would drive us mad in fact I have put repeat offenders on ignore. It is highly patronising, you have to trust us on that.