OOOh pete!!!

my mum always taught us to never let ourselves go so no danger of that!! i am wayyy to vain!

thanks all for your wishes and suggestions again!

i like the one where i get to wear my dress twice!!

thing is altogether we have about 55-60 guests so not enough for 2 weddings i guess, plus probably cant afford 2 why do i always pick the most expensive one! of everything!
but i guess its something to consider....!!!

thanks to the scottish one for your input i guess it cant get prettier than SS. I worry cause most of my firends are pregnant/with tiny babies so thats another problem for ppl to come over!!
arrggh its so confusing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pregnancy should not be confusing- they DO know what causes it now, and it IS usually preventable.

Well I wish more people thought of that! I always get stuck with some kid wailing at me between the seats when I fly in!!

Felicidades/Enhorabuena (which is the correct word?) to the happy couple! Congratulations and Best Wishes.
I believe you can get married by a registrar anywhere (countryside, on top of a hill, Gretna Green; in Scotland anyhow)
My experience of marrying in a Roman Catholic Church (remembering that things might have changed over the years, but somehow I doubt it) is that the non-RC partner would need to attend catechism with the priest, for a better understanding of the Catholic doctrines (marriage, baptism, confirmation, communion). A promise will be asked about future children being brought up in the Catholic faith, and this is individual and personal.
If you were to marry in the church in SS, how easy would it be for your partner to converse with the priest?
Regards,
Carol

you can say either!
thanks for the info- i guess the next step is to go and talk to a priest round here!!
does anyone know if we can get married in a church away from where we live?
can i randomly approach a priest from the country side?

its just that I REALLY dont want to get married in the town where we live.... we REAAALLLY dont like it one bit!!!!!

Don't know if this will help you, my daughter a non catholic married nice catholic boy last year in Westport, County Mayo Ireland, they both lived in Barnet UK, his family lived in County Roscommon Ireland. There was no problem then getting married somewhere else in the C. Church they had a meeting with the priest in Ireland and then they had to to go to their local C Church and talk with the priest there. They then had to go to see him for about six weeks were he then instructed them on the meaning of marriage, like marriage guidance but before instead of after. I know my daughter had to show the priest written proof that she had been baptised.

Sorry i am getting a bit confused....
So did your daughter get baptised for the marriage? (i mean were this 6 weeks of guidance something he did before baptising her?).
And did they get married in a church that wasnt in his 'ex-parish'?
so if we get married in the costowlds could i find a church there and ask the priest if he'd marry us?
thanks v much!!!

Ok here we go,

Daughter baptised into CofE when she was 11years old. Before the priest in Ireland would marry them she had to contact the CofE church where she was baptised (she had lost her Baptism card) for written proof that she had been baptised when and where she said she had, she had to show this proof to the priest at her local C.Church in Barnet..


The six weeks course that she and OH had to attend was something that the priest in Ireland insisted they did and they were told they could do this at any local C. Church in Barnet. For daughter to do this corse she had to be baptised and show the proof. The course was to discuss amongst other thing the sanctuary of marriage.


They got married in a C. Church that was not the ex-parish of the now son-in-law. He did not and had never lived in County Mayo when he lived in Ireland he had always lived in County Roscommon. When she married she hired a hotel that catered for out of town weddings and I think she had some help from the hotel wedding planner, I believe there was no extra charge for this service. The planner told her everything she had to have in place before the wedding could take place.

They have friends that lived in London and married in Bristol so yes I would say you can marry outside from where you live, but having said that it is always going to be up to the the priest of where you are wanting to get married, he will always have the last word.

Hope that is a little clearer for you Featherbum, I will be back in touch with you by PM as I have a website for planning a wedding that may be of some help to you.

You definitely going fot the UK then, or you just looking at possibilities?

My wife is Catholic, baptised etc. I went for a chat with the local priest and he was fine with us getting married. That was all there was to it.

Hi Featherbum I have sent you PM and I forgot to say in these immortal words of JDR "Google is your friend" X

thanks v v v much crispygirl,
thats really helpful, i am going to find myself a priest and ask him what he thinks, if its up to him then, as i said earlier in this thread, maybe a little money for 'his roof' might do the trick
i have more hope now about getting married away from this awful town now, and in the catholic way!!!


Oh and lochy no, no decisions yet, still considering both. We are going to spain in august and going to visit a couple of venues there and for now i have booked a couple of viewings in the costwolds as its pretty and near us.

I am so cr*p at making decisions and this one is the hardest ever!!!

Hola! featherbum,
By reading crispygirl's and lochy's posts, it seems that in the UK, unlike in Spain, the Catholic church will insist either both you & fiance or just your fiance will need to do the 6 week "chat" or catechism with the priest. You certainly will need to show a copy of your baptismal certificate.
It appears you might be able to marry in a Catholic church, somewhere to your liking, but of which you are both non-parishoners. Like crispygirl said, the decision rests with the priest. So, yes, go and chat with the village priest.
HOWEVER, please ask what is the etiquette when it comes to handing over a donation to the church!
Regards,
Carol

Hey just had a thought Featherbum, when you chat with the priest and he asks you why you don't want to get married in your local church, remember to be PC about the whole thing, don't just say the area we live in sucks.

Yes, and practice your Our Father, Hail Mary, and the 10 Commandments!