[interested to read that you know about that you work with boy with aspergers, sometimes when times were hard i used to think we were the only ones because it effects the whole family, i will try to get copy of the book you recommended thanks. its surprising what you find out on this forum][/QUOTE]

Hi happybunny

Have you been in contact with the NAS at all? (National Autistic Society)
They have a wealth of information, and can advise about support groups in your area.
This is their website: http://www.nas.org.uk/

I'm sure you're already well aware of the Society and its work though.

There are loads of excellent books.........far too many too mention here, but a search on Amazon will bring up lots of information:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/
I would absolutely recommend anything written by Tony Attwood; he's also a superbly inspirational speaker, should you get a chance to go to one of his conferences.

There are now also several books written for the younger person with AS, explaining it in positive terms. Equally there are books for siblings to understand why their brother (or sister) sees the world differently to them.
We used these books to help the lad I was supporting to understand why he was having some difficulties; and they also helped his classmates understand him a bit better.

As you say, Autism affects the whole family - and from many conversations I've had with parents, you're not alone in feeling like you're the only person dealing with the situation. Support groups are often run by parents, because they are the ones who really know what they're talking about!
Sharing experiences and problem solving together can really help to stop people feeling isolated.

You talk about "when times were hard", so maybe things have improved for you a bit now?
I don't want to pry, but if you fancy a chat anytime, just PM me

All good wishes to you and your family,
Sam.

thanks for message,will send you a pm