Hi Keri,

It depends on what line of work you'll be pursuing

Yes Keri, I identify very much with that feeling. However, as they say, it ain't a dress rehearsal, and your a long time dead.

Lol, I have a few options, I run my own sales business here in the UK and Im a singer, but I dont really mind what I do now

Im glad Im not the only one, i thought I was going to bottle it and stay in England, but now I know everyone has had the same feears, Spain here I come

Keri, I wish you luck. If its your intuition then go for it.

I am only buying a holiday home (then will live permanently when Im older) and I am in the process and I find I'm gritting my teeth all the time, and having moments of panic and doubt (doubt is shortlived I have to say, but teeth gritting is almost permanent! ). So if I was in your shoes I would mulitply my panic by 80% and be how you are feeling.


I think its a natural reaction.

Your ex can always come and visit you in Spain and see if she wants to live there, anyway. Why does it have to be London?!!

Go with your instinct and go have fun!

I have found in life if theres a major change and you dont do it you will always wonder

it better to die trying than to just die.

sorry im an ex soldier so i have a pretty basic way of looking at things break it down by the numbers give it a go you have nothing to lose.

Once you've reached that day when you make up your mind having thought about it for a long time stick to that decision. Its your inner voice just ignore it if you know its the right decision for you and follow your heart. We all have days when we think what am I doing and if you have been waiting so long like us ue to house sale etc it is worse!

Good luck

Helen x

Guys, you are all awesome

I do feel something is telling me to go, somehow, I spent 4 months out in Lanzarote singing and its the most relaxed i have ever been in my life. That was 3 years ago but Im just that kind of person I think, I love the culture, the chilled way of looking at life, the constant influx of new people coming and going and the way you arent judged on what car you own or what clothes you wear.

I should have been a hippy, but alas, i was born too late.

Hope it all goes well for you We left our daughter in Spain in January, she couldn't wait to get over there and so we took her with us on our last visit and she stayed. She gets the SAD thing in the cold wet English winter and although there have been some wet and dull days she says it's nothing like here. She's glad she made the move but will be happier when she gets a permanent job, at the moment we are subbing her for her rent and food. She has her name down at a few bars/restaurants hoping for work when the season starts. She is also a singer but has never done it professionally, my dream is for her and her dad (a musician/singer) to get together - I can but dream

Hehe Lionda, that would be a most beautiful thing. I can only imagine singing with my children on a stage (Considering I must have some children first!)

Bit of an update for you all (I hope you care and its not boring)

My girlfriend calls me out of the blue and says she doenst want to end it all just because i am moving and asks if we can make a go of it in Spain We are talking about the logistics of it at the moment but to be honest I would want nothing more, so she may be coming out with our car at the end of May and we are planning to stay for either the whole summer or if we love it, forever.

The other option is that we get in the car and drive across Europe and Asia etc. when the season dies down.

How it all changes eh?

Spain bound now, no matter what, and thanks so much for your guidance and help.

I always say "whats the worse that can happen" okay if you dont like it then just return to UK , it really is as simple as that......its not the end of the world

Oh the joys of being young, footloose and fancy free

Have fun!