Our maid
Jun 26th 2008, 4:58 pm
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Re: Our maid
If you are absolutely sure that your maid is not showing this stuff to your son (I think you said he slept in the afternoons), then I think it would be a shame to give her a hammering (phnaar phnaar) because of her sexual persuasion.
She's on the way out anyway, so to avoid any unpleasantness, I'd live with it for a couple of weeks.
As for your new maid, just tell her the PC off limits.
I would be a bit wierded out by this behaviour too, but I'm old fashioned like that
She's on the way out anyway, so to avoid any unpleasantness, I'd live with it for a couple of weeks.
As for your new maid, just tell her the PC off limits.
I would be a bit wierded out by this behaviour too, but I'm old fashioned like that
Jun 26th 2008, 5:43 pm
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Re: Our maid
We currently have a part-time maid (through the agency, all totally legit) until our permanent one arrives from the Philippines in about 2 weeks time. She looks after our son for a couple of hours in the afternoons, but he has his afternoon nap when she is here, so is always asleep. So, she is meant to do a bit of housework for us in that time. Because our house is usually pretty clean and tidy, there isn't much to do, so she spent a lot of time just doing nothing. We felt a bit sorry for her, so we taught her how to use the internet (yes, I know). Anyway, after a while, she stopped doing housework altogether, and seems to spend all of her time watching Sri Lankan pop videos on You Tube.
Anyway, the day before yesterday I was looking through our internet history on the side of the screen as I couldn't find a pair of shoes I was previously looking at. The first thing that jumped out at me was "XXX hot lesbian porn action". When I looked, there were loads of similar, all on You Tube. For one horrible moment I thought it was my husband, but, apart from the fact he wouldn't, they were all looked at during the time that our maid is meant to be working. The final giveaway was that she had done multiple Google searches for "lesbian sax"
Anyway, what do we do? I'm scared to confront her as she might leave, but at the same time... the fact that she isn't doing any housework is annoying, but as she is temporary, I don't care that much. But the porn... can we get in trouble for this? I didn't even think you could look at porn here...
What would you do???
Anyway, the day before yesterday I was looking through our internet history on the side of the screen as I couldn't find a pair of shoes I was previously looking at. The first thing that jumped out at me was "XXX hot lesbian porn action". When I looked, there were loads of similar, all on You Tube. For one horrible moment I thought it was my husband, but, apart from the fact he wouldn't, they were all looked at during the time that our maid is meant to be working. The final giveaway was that she had done multiple Google searches for "lesbian sax"
Anyway, what do we do? I'm scared to confront her as she might leave, but at the same time... the fact that she isn't doing any housework is annoying, but as she is temporary, I don't care that much. But the porn... can we get in trouble for this? I didn't even think you could look at porn here...
What would you do???
Jun 26th 2008, 9:48 pm
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Jun 27th 2008, 7:33 am
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Re: Our maid
A maid looking at lesbian sex sites......???
I'm sure there's nothing to worry about - it's probably your husband who is looking at these sites, not the maid. This is perfectly normal, as the sheer disgust and revulsion he will feel when watching that sort of stuff for hours and hours every day will only serve to remind him why he loves you - and may indeed enhance his levels of affection for you... if you follow me.....
My suggestion therefore would be to encourage him to watch MORE lesbian porn.... better still, why not invite some of your girlfriends round and film them having sex with each other? Or with you? You could give the tape to him as a birthday present.
Trust me......... he will love you for this, all the more.........
I'm sure there's nothing to worry about - it's probably your husband who is looking at these sites, not the maid. This is perfectly normal, as the sheer disgust and revulsion he will feel when watching that sort of stuff for hours and hours every day will only serve to remind him why he loves you - and may indeed enhance his levels of affection for you... if you follow me.....
My suggestion therefore would be to encourage him to watch MORE lesbian porn.... better still, why not invite some of your girlfriends round and film them having sex with each other? Or with you? You could give the tape to him as a birthday present.
Trust me......... he will love you for this, all the more.........
Jun 27th 2008, 7:34 am
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Re: Our maid
ah its not that bad, just ban her from using it and tell her to move her arse and get some work done.
Jun 27th 2008, 7:35 am
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Jun 27th 2008, 7:36 am
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Re: Our maid
kepp her for those 2 weeks but put a pssword on the PC so she can no longer use it!
Jun 27th 2008, 8:29 am
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Re: Our maid
It's not a great discovery to make but it doesn't affect her suitability to do her real job. You've just got to get her back on track. Explain you need the house spring cleaned before the new maid gets here and then put a password on the computer.
Keep her working and withdraw her priviledges. Can you print out the history for your records (just in case) and then delete it from your pc?
I suspect she would be MORTIFIED if she knew that you knew!!
Keep her working and withdraw her priviledges. Can you print out the history for your records (just in case) and then delete it from your pc?
I suspect she would be MORTIFIED if she knew that you knew!!
Jun 27th 2008, 8:45 am
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Re: Our maid
It's not a great discovery to make but it doesn't affect her suitability to do her real job. You've just got to get her back on track. Explain you need the house spring cleaned before the new maid gets here and then put a password on the computer.
Keep her working and withdraw her priviledges. Can you print out the history for your records (just in case) and then delete it from your pc?
I suspect she would be MORTIFIED if she knew that you knew!!
Keep her working and withdraw her priviledges. Can you print out the history for your records (just in case) and then delete it from your pc?
I suspect she would be MORTIFIED if she knew that you knew!!
How is Sam going to explain to someone from Sri Lanka (ie English not her primary language) that 'the apartment needs cleaning before the next maid arrives'??
Even I'm having trouble with that one...... 'clean it so it's ready for the next cleaner'............
Jun 27th 2008, 8:58 am
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Re: Our maid
Nice one Al........
How is Sam going to explain to someone from Sri Lanka (ie English not her primary language) that 'the apartment needs cleaning before the next maid arrives'??
Even I'm having trouble with that one...... 'clean it so it's ready for the next cleaner'............
How is Sam going to explain to someone from Sri Lanka (ie English not her primary language) that 'the apartment needs cleaning before the next maid arrives'??
Even I'm having trouble with that one...... 'clean it so it's ready for the next cleaner'............
Well, to be brutal, you don't really need to tell her anything other than 'the house is being spring cleaned from top to bottom and you're doing it'. Just depends on how nice you worry about seeming..