Dating Etiquette

Old Aug 21st 2010, 10:18 am
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Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

Thanks

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Old Aug 21st 2010, 10:54 am
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Originally Posted by kittycat1 View Post
Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

Thanks

Kitty xxx

Depends, whose perspective, male or female? Cos they will differ A LOT....
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Old Aug 21st 2010, 11:48 am
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I always put out on the first date...always, always, always.

But then, it's so long ago I may have the memories confused.

Maybe I always pay...
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Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

Thanks

Kitty xxx
This is what I (used to) do.

Meet a girl, ask her out, meet her in the corner of a nice little pub somewhere, get drunk and get to know her, have a laugh - then hopefully take her home and shag her.

It's worked for me for 20 odd years.

Etiquette, Schmetiquette.
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geez, just thought i'd accidentally logged into the teenagers section, lol...

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lol mm... nope its just been a while since I dated rather than bedhopped!
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lol mm... nope its just been a while since I dated rather than bedhopped!
hahaha...just go with what feels right for you, everyone is different whatever the nationality and what works for one person wouldn't for someone else...

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Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.
Ok, from top to bottom:

He should at least offer too.

Anything from none to lots, depending on how it's gone (and the amount of drink that's been consumer).

Every guy will think this means you want to get it on, any man who says otherwise is lying or gay.

3rd

Don't South Africans just knock you over the head with their club and drag you back to their cave?
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lol mm... nope its just been a while since I dated rather than bedhopped!
I have a bed, and a pogo stick
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Originally Posted by kittycat1 View Post
Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date? No - this is not the 1950's

What is acceptable form of affection on first date? Whatever is mutually agreed upon, from nothing, a peck on the cheek, full on sex

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more? It is always going to look like you are interested in more.

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy? Seriously? Who cares what others think?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this. Are you going on a date with a Saffer Kitty?

Thanks

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See above
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come upstairs for a drink= let's have sex in the lift.
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you must be so charming on dates
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Originally Posted by kittycat1 View Post
Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date? I think men still expect to but we won't argue on a split (unless you get out a calculator ).

What is acceptable form of affection on first date? Well being a man and needing to keep up the appearances of fitting a Hollywood stereotype, sex all night followed by a blowjob in the morning? Honestly if you like him charm him back to your place, if you’re unsure go out again and if you don’t then just thank him fr dinner before saying goodnight.

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?Outside the house means chat more, back at your place I think it’s implied it’s a little more of an intimate setting. So intimate things might end up happening .

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?If you have to ask that question you are a hussy . Sometimes passionate things start that out way so if he is really charming and smooth then why not enjoy yourself? As long as it’s sex because you want to rather than you want to keep him around.

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

Thanks

Kitty xxx
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Originally Posted by kittycat1 View Post
Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

Thanks

Kitty xxx
So why especially south african ???
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Now, I just know eveyone wants to hear my take on this...

Originally Posted by kittycat1 View Post
Just debating with a friend the etiquette of dating, especially when dating other nationals.

Couple of questions;

Should the guy always pay first date?

who cares, but I would say that the guy should offer. The best solution is (if it's a meal) is that boyo gets the food and the lady gets the first round in afterwards in the pub.

What is acceptable form of affection on first date?

I think that this depends - no Brit is going to question the three date rule, but for other nationalities it could take a whole lot longer. I personally wouldn't change my opinion on someone if it's 1 date or 10 (although the chances of me making it to the 10th date might be slim)

Does inviting a guy back for a drink actually mean you wanna get it on or you just want to chat more?

who knows? go in with an open mind and low expectations...

At what date is getting it on acceptable without making you look like a hussy?

no one can question the "third date let's mate" rule, but it doesn't bloody matter at all

Also be interested how different nationalities (especially South African) see this.

black, white or coloured ones? at the risk of sounding awful I would imagine that they all have different views...

Thanks

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So, Kitty... what's your view?
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