Originally Posted by sallysimmons

What a great post and it's so good to hear you're settling in so well.

Just one thing ... only one cup of tea a day?? Oh love, you need to pick up the pace a little bit

Originally Posted by Lorna at Vicenza

There's no place like home .......there's no place like home ............... there's no place like home .....

Originally Posted by curleytops

What a lovely post! Sounds like you have really embraced your new life and that will serve you very well in the future. What a beautiful definition of "home". All the best and thanks for sharing!

Originally Posted by jeannie in a bottle

home is somewhere that makes you stop stressing about where you are, where you should be, and where you're going next, and that's just how I feel now that I'm here. I don't have that weird, anxiety in the back of my mind that I could actually "live" if I were somewhere else, I don't feel stifled or trapped anymore. In fact, I don't even think about where I am, or wanting to run away, or how much I want to "get out of here" or anything- I just think about cooking, or meeting up with friends

That's beautiful. Thanks for putting into words how some of us are feeling!

Originally Posted by feelbritish

Great to hear your update and your take on London, kind of sums it all up very well! Can't wait to get there and shop again! I feel like I am back in the 80's here in Canada! So glad you are happy

Originally Posted by vikingsail

Thanks - Flights booked for Xmas - I'm going to enjoy my full English breakfast in the afternoon

Originally Posted by Brigette

Tel8,

your post brought a smile to my face. So good to read your thoughts. It warms my heart to think that I will be in the UK next year So until that time I will continue to read your posts whenever you get a chance to write and enjoy to tidbits you include in them

Originally Posted by sallysimmons

What a great post and it's so good to hear you're settling in so well.

Just one thing ... only one cup of tea a day?? Oh love, you need to pick up the pace a little bit

Originally Posted by Tel8

10) home is somewhere that makes you stop stressing about where you are, where you should be, and where you're going next, and that's just how I feel now that I'm here. I don't have that weird, anxiety in the back of my mind that I could actually "live" if I were somewhere else, I don't feel stifled or trapped anymore. In fact, I don't even think about where I am, or wanting to run away, or how much I want to "get out of here" or anything- I just think about cooking, or meeting up with friends, or doing coursework, I think about everything but, and no matter where I am, I can always find something I like about that little corner of the world. It's so different, and I love it.

Originally Posted by Tel8;10) [B

home is somewhere that makes you stop stressing about where you are, where you should be, and where you're going next[/B], and that's just how I feel now that I'm here. I don't have that weird, anxiety in the back of my mind that I could actually "live" if I were somewhere else, I don't feel stifled or trapped anymore. In fact, I don't even think about where I am, or wanting to run away, or how much I want to "get out of here" or anything- I just think about cooking, or meeting up with friends, or doing coursework, I think about everything but, and no matter where I am, I can always find something I like about that little corner of the world. It's so different, and I love it.

Originally Posted by Tel8

Hi everyone! I know I haven't been around much lately. I haven't forgotten BE or the wonderful help I received here! My course is just taking over my life at the moment...

Anyway, I thought I'd just update with some things I've learned since being back here. It's just for fun, and hopefully I won't offend anyone.



1) How to pack a fridge properly. There's not a lot of space in the standard UK fridge, and learning to pack one correctly so that you get all the food in and don't cause leaks, spillage and other destruction is a good idea- especially if like me, you're used to the massive sea-faring vessel that is a US fridge.

2) How to cross the road like a Londoner: i.e, with styyyyyyle. Yup. I do it now- dodge cleverly into the street, narrowly avoiding busses and other pedestrians, and make it to the other side like I was just out for a little stroll in the garden, my hair's not mussed is it? These are no country roads chaps, these are busy South London thorofares and admittedly it scared the living daylights out of me the first time I did it. But it's now a necessary evil in the time of traffic-light crossings and late students.

3)Good quality food makes all the difference. This is a big one. I've been cooking entirely on my own for the first time this year (my mum used to help me out by doing the meats for me- now I'm on that job too.) It really is nice though knowing that not everything you buy in the frozen section has an obscene amount of calories, that your deli meat is still mostly meat, and that a chicken isn't easily mistaken for a turkey.

4) When you feel like you belong, you do. I like it here- people say I sound like a Londoner, and I've been on hyperdrive since I got off the plane learning my surroundings and the little cultural nods that they didn't have in america. It wasn't easy- I was shocked at first by the way people will discuss sex in perfectly innocent conversations without the slightest hint of selfconsciouness or naughtiness or anything- it's just matter of fact. Same with race, religion, politics and pretty much every thing else I was given to understand I must never to mention outside the house because it turns people into weirdos. Brits know how to laugh at themselves, and laugh they do. I've found that it's okay to have an irreverent sense of humour, although I still struggle with expressing myself after not really being able to for so long.

5) Going back to America to visit will be fun. Going back to live will be impossible. England's way too good. London's even better. I'd love to see the states again in a year, when I'm not half american anymore, when I don't remember what it feels like to have warm weather in the winter, when I can't remember what Macy's is. That's going to be amazing I think. For the time being, I need more time. I want to sort of wash away the 'before' and start knowing things about what's going on here, now, in this country.

6) I like rain. Which is good. Because that's what the weather does here. Seriously though, there are few things I like better than waking up to the sound of rain in the morning or falling asleep to it at night.

7) Life's bloody expensive, but you can eat at least. You can. If you're not too picky, food is really inexpensive- I spent £8 in the market, and got enough produce to last me two weeks and then some. I've got a fully stocked fruit bowl, and veg to boot. Nice. Oh, and BoB. Bring your own Bags! You definitely need sturdy ones because you either pay for plastic, or it tears on you on the way home.

8) Tea. Dear sweet Jane the tea. *sigh* I drink at least one cup every day. EVERY day. I didn't really believe that I'd ever develop a tea habit, but I find it comforting, comfortable, and a great way to avoid talking when you really don't want to a la: "I'll just go put the kettle on then..."

9) Hotdogs come in jars. It makes for easier opening. I actually really like the british/polish/general european version of hot dogs better than the all american ones. These ones might still have meat in them.

10) home is somewhere that makes you stop stressing about where you are, where you should be, and where you're going next, and that's just how I feel now that I'm here. I don't have that weird, anxiety in the back of my mind that I could actually "live" if I were somewhere else, I don't feel stifled or trapped anymore. In fact, I don't even think about where I am, or wanting to run away, or how much I want to "get out of here" or anything- I just think about cooking, or meeting up with friends, or doing coursework, I think about everything but, and no matter where I am, I can always find something I like about that little corner of the world. It's so different, and I love it.

Originally Posted by pompeyblonde

Oh thank you! That made me really happy, Im SO excited to be heading back to London, I cant wait to get a proper winter coat when winter comes! But what about the curry? and have you had sweet and sour prawn balls? cant get them in Oz, yeah I know theyre bad...but lush!

I also miss those huge tea rounds at work having to make 20 cups and remember who has what! doesnt happen here.....

small things....big smile!!

Originally Posted by perthhomeschool

I just love this! It is so encouraging on those days when I worry things won't go as well as I've planned. I hope you will keep posting for those of us still left behind

4 MORE YEARS!!!

Originally Posted by brissybee

Maybe you could have this as your signature? I really liked what you wrote, especially in point 10 (above.) Keep enjoying.

Originally Posted by bandrui

HI Tel8...

I could feel the joy and peace behind your words. It has been wonderful to watch your journey from your first posts here to where you are now. Congratulations!

I think you can really help ameliafirefly. Her thread is "Want to move back but scared" in the main MBTTUK list. Her dilemma reminds me of where you started.

I loved your list but I too particularly resonated with #10. Every few years I do a collage by intuitively tearing out pictures that speak to me as I flip through a stack of magazines, trying not to make it an analytical process. It was time to make one again over the holidays; the first in 11 years. After hours going through magazines, I thought I didn't have much in my pile but decided it was time to stop tearing anyway and put it together on a board. I couldn't believe it. England was "written" all over it. It's amazing. I love it. I have it propped up on my piano and look at it every day.

So far every collage I have ever made speaks of the future and has "come true". If it does, then I too can be living my life in the UK and not have to think about how to get there anymore.

So happy for you.

Originally Posted by ldollard

What a great post, and I agree with it all and everything you've said my American wife has also said over the years.