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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by jmh
(Post 8989476)
Yes I find that interesting too. I am doing it in reverse. I am a kiwi, left and moved to the UK at 23, now at 48 'going home'. I have had a good life in the UK, but always had in the back of my mind the idea of going home. I am a bit nervous in case I get there and decide I hate it! LOL. I am renting out my house so if I change my mind I can come back. In my mind I will be giving it a year's trial to see how I feel. Feel's good at this early stage to be going home. I hope it works out but I can come back if it doesn't. Don't want to become a ping ponger though.
we got fixated on moving back and i was so sure i would never want to to come back that i didnt even bother t get my citizenship before leaving :unsure: when we got back, you have the euphoria etc, but it gradually wears off...and i realised that australia wasnt all i had been giving it credit for all those years... so we joked as we were returning, "what if we get back and don't like the gold coast..the only other place we'll want to live is sydney" (we've lived both of these places before) so we get back, spend a year on the gold coast, it was fine, but not what we were after , and then down to sydney, which is awesome, but we find ourselves heading back to the uk in march, for an indeterminate period of time, to live a cheaper life and go on an adventure..we don't really know where we belong now... |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Beedubya
(Post 9063022)
I have less than 9 weeks to go and am getting cold feet BIG TIME!!! :huh:
I haven't sold a single thing yet, and keep getting overwhelmed at the thought of "losing" everything I have..........I will have to start again like a lot of you with very little, not an easy thing to do at 57, but like all of us on this bit of BE we are going HOME and that is what this journey is all about. ;) Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by charleygirl
(Post 9066600)
Aw Bee, we are all behind you and hoping it goes well. I too will be doing the same in 2011.....stay strong and stay there when you get there cos I want to meet for coffee......59 here and starting over with nothing......except a loving family....
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back. I guess though, if I had been from Leicester originally I would have known to avoid those areas :-) |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by chocciecake
(Post 9066425)
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die. at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life! Good -luck ! |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by chocciecake
(Post 9066425)
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die. at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life! |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by chocciecake
(Post 9066425)
don't worry, you're not the only one!
you know, we might be the only ones we know who didn't make money in the property boom,(infact, as still stuck in negative equity with a flat we can't sell in london, for less that we bought it in 2003) who doesn't have their own house or a brass razoo to rub together really, but you know what...we have had an extraordinary life, even though financially we have no status, and i would much prefer that to being one of my friends that have their boring housing in a boring suburb, paid off by their boring job,and their boring spouse, and living their boring life out in the same boring place till they die. at least we have taken risks, seen things that they have not seen, and pursued things they have never even imagined...you only have one life! |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9067636)
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
:confused: We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal. Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings. There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Fish n Chips 56
(Post 9067671)
Hayley
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal. Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings. There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9067636)
Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by sallysimmons
(Post 9067727)
People in the UK are expert gripers. It's what they do best of all :rofl:
very true, at least maybe i have a little less of that being in the states since i was 12... haha one trait i could do without.. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by sallysimmons
(Post 9067727)
People in the UK are expert gripers. It's what they do best of all :rofl:
Look at your family over there, how are they all doing? None of mine are rich but they are all working and all seem to be doing just fine........just as you (and I) will, it might be a bit of a push at the beginning but we will get there. I have been having terrible cold feet this past week and I am leaving 8 weeks from tomorrow!! :eek: See and as I typed that word "leaving" I got palpitations, because now this is not a dream it is REALITY!! |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by chocciecake
(Post 9066437)
yes, we moved back to australia "permanently" after being in london for almost 8 yrs...my dh was born there, but grew up in australia from mid childhood, and bth my kids were born in london.
we got fixated on moving back and i was so sure i would never want to to come back that i didnt even bother t get my citizenship before leaving :unsure: when we got back, you have the euphoria etc, but it gradually wears off...and i realised that australia wasnt all i had been giving it credit for all those years... so we joked as we were returning, "what if we get back and don't like the gold coast..the only other place we'll want to live is sydney" (we've lived both of these places before) so we get back, spend a year on the gold coast, it was fine, but not what we were after , and then down to sydney, which is awesome, but we find ourselves heading back to the uk in march, for an indeterminate period of time, to live a cheaper life and go on an adventure..we don't really know where we belong now... It's not very often you see Australians in this part of the forum. I just wondered what it is about Australia that is not doing it for you? I have seen somewhere that your husband is getting paid in sterling so that is obviously working against you at the moment with the exchange rate, anything else other than the cost of living? How do your families feel about you both heading back to the old dart? |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by charleygirl
(Post 9066600)
Aw Bee, we are all behind you and hoping it goes well. I too will be doing the same in 2011.....stay strong and stay there when you get there cos I want to meet for coffee......59 here and starting over with nothing......except a loving family....
Ayla i am from Leicester, cant wait to get back. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Fish n Chips 56
(Post 9067671)
Hayley
We all have our ups and downs mentally worrying etc, that's normal. Don't take much notice of your friends as regards living in America, you know what its really like, unless they have lived in America they haven't a clue what its like here, I don't think you can compare the two, look at all the guns and gang shootings. There are good and places to live in both countries, you just have to avoid the bad places, your friends will tell where they are. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Beedubya
(Post 9067824)
Sally is right, and DON'T read the Daily Mail LOL!!
Look at your family over there, how are they all doing? None of mine are rich but they are all working and all seem to be doing just fine........just as you (and I) will, it might be a bit of a push at the beginning but we will get there. I have been having terrible cold feet this past week and I am leaving 8 weeks from tomorrow!! :eek: See and as I typed that word "leaving" I got palpitations, because now this is not a dream it is REALITY!! |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9067840)
Thanks so much, everyone on here is so great another thing that makes me miss the UK all the people, you are right none of my family and friends are loaded but they are happy, all have roof over there head food on the table and seem to take a couple of nice holidays a year.. None of them have a had nervous breakdown which i happened to experience this time last year.. so quality of life has seemed to keep them all well enough.. thanks again (:
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9067636)
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
:confused: Once you actually live, work and shop in a new Country, you find out how things REALLY are. I love holidaying in Italy and everytime I return I say I want to live there, but in reality I probably couldn't live there because it is so different to how we live in England. I can't speak enough Italian to work so I would be very lonely. Yes, Britain has problems, but so does the U.S, Canada and anywhere else. Go for it! :thumbup: |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9067636)
I plan on going home this year but am starting to get a bit worried, my situation here is awful , money wise and sad since i once made good money and squandered it all now I am a waitress...so I am worried I will not have enough to have a place to live when i get there for a few months while i tie down a proper job.. Also I have a lot of friends in the UK that gripe about the gangs and the kids and the crazyness and all want to come to America, it worries me and makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing.. Then I have to remember they only think of the U.S as what they see on t.v I have lived here for 20 years and everywhere has its issues.. i dont know just woke up a bit worried for the future today i think new years does that to you...
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by windsong
(Post 9068333)
It's really, really difficult to comprehend what the U.S. is like when all you have known is the UK. I have been here over 30 years and reality only began to sink in 20 years ago.
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by sallysimmons
(Post 9068478)
It's funny you say that - I have been in the US 15 years and reality only started to sink in for me a few years ago. So maybe there's a 10-year limit to being starry-eyed :lol:
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by windsong
(Post 9068333)
It's really, really difficult to comprehend what the U.S. is like when all you have known is the UK. I have been here over 30 years and reality only began to sink in 20 years ago. The UK is a totally different animal from the USA. When I grew up and lived in the UK, I thought all countries operated more or less the same way, except for the third world countries. I could not have been more wrong, but it took experiencing it - and the shock - to finally realize it.
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by sallysimmons
(Post 9067727)
People in the UK are expert gripers. It's what they do best of all :rofl:
While we worry about healthcare they worry about where they are going on their 4 weeks holidays, Huhhh if only... On the other hand Americans are so positive and seem to have less in my opinion. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Fish n Chips 56
(Post 9069369)
I'll second that, just go to the centre of town and look at their faces, some look like they have the worlds problems on their shoulders.
While we worry about healthcare they worry about where they are going on their 4 weeks holidays, Huhhh if only... On the other hand Americans are so positive and seem to have less in my opinion. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Good luck to those landing soon, I land Jan 31. I am still having the wobbles every so often. We have been back in Canada for 4 years, i knew after year 1 it was a mistake. But I stuck it out "just to make sure". I guess i was sure lol.
It's a scary thing to do, I think i have a better perspective this time and I am armed and ready! I will be in Doncaster .....so any of you are returning close to there we can have a coffee (or tea) and share a little support if needed :-) Reeni |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by hayleyatfla
(Post 9074225)
I also have a couple of UK freinds here that like to go back on their hols but say they would never live there but they are the ones that are loaded with cash and driving porsches so if i was that well off maybe i would feel different too.. but once those things are gone you miss the people, the culture and the tradition.. everything seems so false here...
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Fish n Chips 56
(Post 9074584)
Only because it is.
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
5.5 months! Have chosen a shipping company and now need to choose a date for them to come and pack - and decide what we will do for the month that we will be without basically everything except our suitcases!
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Wow, looks like 2011 is going to be a BIG year for returnees!! :thumbsup:
I have 52 sleeps left and am having kittens!! LOL!! :lol: |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by sallysimmons
(Post 9068478)
It's funny you say that - I have been in the US 15 years and reality only started to sink in for me a few years ago. So maybe there's a 10-year limit to being starry-eyed :lol:
Sorry if that's too maudlin but it's the truth - it's really made me think. Like a lot of people say "Stuff" is just stuff, family & friends are what count for everything in life. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Englishman43
(Post 9080243)
I think there is , that's when I started to question what am I doing here . For me it was the realization that " O.K if I stay here this is my life : See my family for a week or two each year at best, all the while my parents grow older, my nephews grow up and I'm barely in their lives anymore, I'm surrounded by fake, shallow, materialistic people, I'm paying an arm and a leg in taxes, insurance etc, etc and eventually I'll grow old wither and die with no one around that gives a sh**t " .
Sorry if that's too maudlin but it's the truth - it's really made me think. Like a lot of people say "Stuff" is just stuff, family & friends are what count for everything in life. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Mallory
(Post 9080283)
Isn't it YOU though that is fake, shallow and materialistic. You were the one that came to the US, probably to enjoy a big house, big car, and a certain lifestyle. You left your family for all those shallow reasons. Now you realise that you miss them, and don't want to stand up and say how shallow you are. Americans aren't leaving in droves to go to the UK, Aussie, NZ and Canada searching for a "better lifestyle."
I live in a small rented apartment, I drive a small cheap car and I originally moved here to pursue a sporting career not a "better lifestyle" as I knew it would be no better than were I came from. Sounds like I hit a raw nerve, what's your real problem ? |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Englishman43
(Post 9080297)
You dont know the first thing about me so keep you small minded opinions about me to yourself.
I live in a small rented apartment, I drive a small cheap car and I originally moved here to pursue a sporting career not a "better lifestyle" as I knew it would be no better than were I came from. Sounds like I hit a raw nerve, what's your real problem ? |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by ldyinlv
(Post 9080308)
Americans are brainwashed into believing this is the best country in the world, and although it has some wonderful points, it is far from the best.
I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Englishman43
(Post 9080315)
Yup, and I thought this forum was made up of a supportive group of people, helping each other to deal with the troubles & decisions they face day to day.
I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by ldyinlv
(Post 9080319)
I understand exactly what you are saying English, 19 sleeps and a wake up left for me..:)
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Englishman43
(Post 9080315)
I suppose you always get a minority of pathetic, spiteful people wherever you go - even here. |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by Mallory
(Post 9080283)
Isn't it YOU though that is fake, shallow and materialistic. You were the one that came to the US, probably to enjoy a big house, big car, and a certain lifestyle. You left your family for all those shallow reasons. Now you realise that you miss them, and don't want to stand up and say how shallow you are. Americans aren't leaving in droves to go to the UK, Aussie, NZ and Canada searching for a "better lifestyle."
I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that we are all in America for 'a better lifestyle' but I came because my company transferred me here. Being one of the people who has experienced other countries, I would now like to leave thank you very much. Isn't this supposed to be the section of the forum where people can discuss going home? Why attack someone for their feelings just because you don't share them? |
Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by reeni
(Post 9080326)
26 sleeps for me ... and i are panicking. did i dot all the i's and cross all the t's?????
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Re: Scared of Making Wrong Decision
Originally Posted by ldyinlv
(Post 9080319)
I understand exactly what you are saying English, 19 sleeps and a wake up left for me..:)
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