Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
#46
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
I actually live in La Jolla (close to UCSD). It is very nice but as you say, very expensive.
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Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
I am getting married- that is why I'm moving there. I'm quite looking forward to the change of scenery. I have lived in Milan for twenty years and I hardly ever move out of the city due to work and being so exhausted that I can't be bothered. Therefore it probably won't be much different from the type of life I'm already living. Anyway, I have to go into this with a positive attitude otherwise I'm screwed right from the beginning!
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Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
"It is strange as people think you move over here and you holiday in florida, miami, las vegas on your weekends ...when as mentioned in earlier posts you just dont have the time - work comes first and is taken very seriosuly. Now dont get me wrong I take my work seriously too but I believe in balance and I just dont feel I have this here at all."
Its so true. there have been other threads on this. In the USA the mentality seems to be to live to work. Whereas, in Europe work to live is much more common. Mind you, I always say that if Americans spent more time actually working they could accomplish far more. I call it the " I talk a good job of work" syndrome. Every American you ever meet tells you they work 10 + hours a day, possibly many do? Don't you just love at will employment laws!! But how much of it is actually work? I think they mean that they spend 10+ hours a day at a place of work, playing the game, being visible at the workplace so the boss sees them there, so they can say they have been to work.
I understand the catch 22, in the sense that if you accomplish your work in 8 hours or less, the mentality here is to then just heap more work on to your plate. The problem is a total attitude change is needed. Never going to happen so I say exit stage left ------------------->
Its so true. there have been other threads on this. In the USA the mentality seems to be to live to work. Whereas, in Europe work to live is much more common. Mind you, I always say that if Americans spent more time actually working they could accomplish far more. I call it the " I talk a good job of work" syndrome. Every American you ever meet tells you they work 10 + hours a day, possibly many do? Don't you just love at will employment laws!! But how much of it is actually work? I think they mean that they spend 10+ hours a day at a place of work, playing the game, being visible at the workplace so the boss sees them there, so they can say they have been to work.
I understand the catch 22, in the sense that if you accomplish your work in 8 hours or less, the mentality here is to then just heap more work on to your plate. The problem is a total attitude change is needed. Never going to happen so I say exit stage left ------------------->
#50
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
But in general, the coast, for beaches or for walking, is far less accessible than in England. Parking is at a premium here, and the preponderance of private property makes the visitor feel very much like a second-class citizen; and I never feel like that when I'm walking on the coast-path in England.
Last weekend we had a lovely winter walk on a beach in Greenwich - one that we can't get into during the nice weather. We went on Saturday but we noticed a new sign stating that even in the off-season, Sundays are now "restricted access."
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"I would be interesting in learning if this changes depending on which state you live in? we are in New jersey and I have thought about moving south e.g carolinas but I dont want to keep moving around the country trying to find happiness if its the same everywhere?"
Well, both Carolinas are "right to work" as well as "at will" states. Every paper you will sign for employment will state on the bottom "this does not constitute a contract of employment". South Carolina's unemployment rate is currently around 10%. I have a Master's degree and ten years of experience in my field (case worker for the disabled) and I am currently working in a shoe store part-time (usually only get 10 hours per week) for $7.50 per hour. It took me over a year to find that job (with no unemployment benefits)!! It's crazy. If you are liberal-minded (like my husband and me) you will be looked at as if you have 3 heads. Example: "How dare you support unions for workers' rights--that's not helpful for businesses". It goes on and on.
Well, both Carolinas are "right to work" as well as "at will" states. Every paper you will sign for employment will state on the bottom "this does not constitute a contract of employment". South Carolina's unemployment rate is currently around 10%. I have a Master's degree and ten years of experience in my field (case worker for the disabled) and I am currently working in a shoe store part-time (usually only get 10 hours per week) for $7.50 per hour. It took me over a year to find that job (with no unemployment benefits)!! It's crazy. If you are liberal-minded (like my husband and me) you will be looked at as if you have 3 heads. Example: "How dare you support unions for workers' rights--that's not helpful for businesses". It goes on and on.
#52
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
One of my problems with America is how hard it is to get to places compared to the UK. Basically, it comes down to lack of train services. For instance, having lived in NYS for 16 years, I've only been to NYC three times. (When we lived in Boston or England, we were able to get to NYC more frequently... it is my wife's home town.)
Yes, Cape Cod & the islands are good -- our daughter lives on Cape Cod, so we go there two or three times a year (it's a 400 mile drive for us, or we take another of those 9-seater planes!!) But in general, the coast, for beaches or for walking, is far less accessible than in England. Parking is at a premium here, and the preponderance of private property makes the visitor feel very much like a second-class citizen; and I never feel like that when I'm walking on the coast-path in England.
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#54
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Now for the work. I'm an MA state employee so I get those "good benefits" that seem to be a target for the right wing. They are similar to what I remember as common in the UK. I get 3.5 weeks vacation and 2.5 weeks of holidays.
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#55
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
God help you. Having lived in both countries I think your culture shock is going to be immense, possibly irretrievable. But that is just my opinion. SD is great but it is not Italy and certainly not Milan. And as great as it is after nearly 10 years here I am just biding my time. Only another few months
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Totally agree on the holiday allowance. I'm in Toronto and came to live with my Canadian partner, but I've always said it was short term and we will re-locate to the UK in 2 years or so. It's also a family/friends thing. I've actually made some good friends/acquaintances here, but we lack family because his are a 4-5 hour flight away in Kelowna, so that means we see them once a year, maybe twice if we are lucky and can afford to do it. I also don't want to raise a family when both sets of grandparents are so far away. It sounds silly but he'll actually see more of his family being based in London, UK than he will here because of his paltry 15 days vacation - and that's good!!! I left my job in the UK with 31 days a year + all the bank holidays on top. Oh how I miss the 'using up' your holiday before the end of the year was up. Just deciding to take a Friday off and spend it in my pyjamas because I could is a luxury I really miss - well let me clarify I would miss if I were working!!
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Yes, I was saying that i am a professor at a university and I have tenure which means a permanent job which is 10 mths - the academic year good salary and time off in the summer if you want to teach during this time you receive pay. So for me this is much better than the UK where i was a lecturer. the 10 mths salary can be paid over 12 months. Also long holidays over christmas as the term starts at the end of jan.
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#58
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
I'm ready for the culture shock and I'm already aware of the inevitable clashes, but I'm going to take this risk because my heart tells me I must. If I don't like it I can always come back to Europe. I will not be chained to the USA. Like I mentioned earlier, I have been in Italy for 20 years, so it would be quite easy to return here if I wanted to. Italy is not as glamourous as it seems you know. There are REAL cultural differences here too which I have never been able to get fully used too. The wages are crap, unemployment and crime has soared big time. Milan is a very expensive, polluted and dirty city. Yes, there are beautiful places to see here in Italy if you have the money to go and see them. Most Italians live at home with their parents until they are 40 because they cannot afford to get a flat and live on their own! I am not happy here anymore! What's the point in me moving back to Britain for example? I have been away for too long plus the fact I have no family left! I don't feel I belong there anymore.....I'm am living the classic expat curse! I feel I don't belong anywhere, so at the end of the day, it makes no bloody difference where I live! When I get to the States, I'm going to learn to drive, go to college, learn Spanish and do all the things I've wanted to do for a long time. Therefore if everything goes tits up, I'll have a few more skills and a new experience under my belt. Life is an adventure...you just have to go with the flow!
Interesting post. First of all, I agree with you that you must follow your heart. Sometimes we need to experience something entirely different from what we have become used to. I have spent some time in Milan on a few occasions and lived within the community (i.e. not as a tourist) and found it to be different than the tourist image (though I love all the handcarved counters in espresso bars and other things). Sometimes it is not about the place but the personal journey.
I have experienced the feeling of not belonging anywhere, because I have lived in quite a few places, and felt that I had been away too long too, but have come back to the fact that I belong in the UK and am moving back.
Like you said, go with the flow, follow your heart and you will end up where you are supposed to be.
#59
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Hi Cosmic Junkie,
Interesting post. First of all, I agree with you that you must follow your heart. Sometimes we need to experience something entirely different from what we have become used to. I have spent some time in Milan on a few occasions and lived within the community (i.e. not as a tourist) and found it to be different than the tourist image (though I love all the handcarved counters in espresso bars and other things). Sometimes it is not about the place but the personal journey.
I have experienced the feeling of not belonging anywhere, because I have lived in quite a few places, and felt that I had been away too long too, but have come back to the fact that I belong in the UK and am moving back.
Like you said, go with the flow, follow your heart and you will end up where you are supposed to be.
Interesting post. First of all, I agree with you that you must follow your heart. Sometimes we need to experience something entirely different from what we have become used to. I have spent some time in Milan on a few occasions and lived within the community (i.e. not as a tourist) and found it to be different than the tourist image (though I love all the handcarved counters in espresso bars and other things). Sometimes it is not about the place but the personal journey.
I have experienced the feeling of not belonging anywhere, because I have lived in quite a few places, and felt that I had been away too long too, but have come back to the fact that I belong in the UK and am moving back.
Like you said, go with the flow, follow your heart and you will end up where you are supposed to be.
#60
Re: Pretty sure we are moving back to England from the USA
I'm ready for the culture shock and I'm already aware of the inevitable clashes, but I'm going to take this risk because my heart tells me I must. If I don't like it I can always come back to Europe. I will not be chained to the USA. Like I mentioned earlier, I have been in Italy for 20 years, so it would be quite easy to return here if I wanted to. Italy is not as glamourous as it seems you know. There are REAL cultural differences here too which I have never been able to get fully used too. The wages are crap, unemployment and crime has soared big time. Milan is a very expensive, polluted and dirty city. Yes, there are beautiful places to see here in Italy if you have the money to go and see them. Most Italians live at home with their parents until they are 40 because they cannot afford to get a flat and live on their own! I am not happy here anymore! What's the point in me moving back to Britain for example? I have been away for too long plus the fact I have no family left! I don't feel I belong there anymore.....I'm am living the classic expat curse! I feel I don't belong anywhere, so at the end of the day, it makes no bloody difference where I live! When I get to the States, I'm going to learn to drive, go to college, learn Spanish and do all the things I've wanted to do for a long time. Therefore if everything goes tits up, I'll have a few more skills and a new experience under my belt. Life is an adventure...you just have to go with the flow!
Don't let our negativity spoil your adventure. Good luck!