Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8572186)

Lieing in bed the other day thinking about yet again having no bloody money to do anything! weekends are becoming depressing!, even though am working me butt of. Now after three years things aint any better!, so why should i stay!

18 year old , we never see, she is will be nearly finshed tafe , if i aim for this time nxt year, she will (and i would bet on it), opt to stay in oz, probably with boyfriend, i think i can accept this now!

11 year old will be 12 and just strarted high school next year, i am sure she will come with me, as will the dog:D

Husband, now this is the stumbling block , will he stay or go, i have know idea , i think i will only know when he realises i am dead serious, i am going with/without him:(

I have enough money to get a flight home, rent somewhere and buy a car, probably alot better than some poor buggers on here, i plan to write to every hosp i can for a job! (but am secretly hoping Hairmyres Hosp, in East Kilbride, or RPH (in Paisely).

The only other decision is where to stay, i am torn between Kilmarnock and Blantyre, probably will opt for Kilmarnock as this will keep 12 year old happy, all of my husbands family are there and hopefull they will help 12 year old (i , of course, will be the bitch from hell if i return without him), but in Blantyre, i have fantastic cousins and an aunt and uncle who are like a mum and dad and i know they will support me, i'm sure if i choose Blantyre i will go back to a fully furnished home, courtesy of them:)

So dont know why ave been dithering in the first place, i am lucky to have family and a few quid to get back, but i will take a year to get everything firmly in place, starting with getting my citizenship sorted out (just couldnt be arsed before), and the dog vaccinated, wooooohooooooo

I am so excited about posting an update titled "4 years in oz and going home"

Dont get me wrong i am also very anxious about it all, especially when i read ping-pong posts, however i dont think that would be poss for me anyway as every penny will be used getting back! having no money kinda makes your choices for you, lol!

Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8573293)

:eek:Bloomin heck just when i was set, my husband pointed this out.


http://www.kilmarnockstandard.co.uk/...1430-26425600/

Worrying thing is i know half these people, well more than half to be honest

Originally Posted by Mummy in the foothills (Post 8573510)

Is this stopping you?
If it is, don't let it, they are not you, even if you know who they are. Where I grew up a lot of my friends ended up in jail, abusive marriages and teen parents, It never bothered me in the way that I thought that was going to happen to me, they aren't me.

Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8574807)

does bother me!! especially as i knew the star of the show and his parents, his parents are 'salt of the earth' people, his little sis is studying medicine at uni, if he can get into that life, then anybody can!

Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8574807)

does bother me!! especially as i knew the star of the show and his parents, his parents are 'salt of the earth' people, his little sis is studying medicine at uni, if he can get into that life, then anybody can!

Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8572186)

Lieing in bed the other day thinking about yet again having no bloody money to do anything! weekends are becoming depressing!, even though am working me butt of. Now after three years things aint any better!, so why should i stay!

18 year old , we never see, she is will be nearly finshed tafe , if i aim for this time nxt year, she will (and i would bet on it), opt to stay in oz, probably with boyfriend, i think i can accept this now!

11 year old will be 12 and just strarted high school next year, i am sure she will come with me, as will the dog:D

Husband, now this is the stumbling block , will he stay or go, i have know idea , i think i will only know when he realises i am dead serious, i am going with/without him:(

I have enough money to get a flight home, rent somewhere and buy a car, probably alot better than some poor buggers on here, i plan to write to every hosp i can for a job! (but am secretly hoping Hairmyres Hosp, in East Kilbride, or RPH (in Paisely).

The only other decision is where to stay, i am torn between Kilmarnock and Blantyre, probably will opt for Kilmarnock as this will keep 12 year old happy, all of my husbands family are there and hopefull they will help 12 year old (i , of course, will be the bitch from hell if i return without him), but in Blantyre, i have fantastic cousins and an aunt and uncle who are like a mum and dad and i know they will support me, i'm sure if i choose Blantyre i will go back to a fully furnished home, courtesy of them:)

So dont know why ave been dithering in the first place, i am lucky to have family and a few quid to get back, but i will take a year to get everything firmly in place, starting with getting my citizenship sorted out (just couldnt be arsed before), and the dog vaccinated, wooooohooooooo

I am so excited about posting an update titled "4 years in oz and going home"

Dont get me wrong i am also very anxious about it all, especially when i read ping-pong posts, however i dont think that would be poss for me anyway as every penny will be used getting back! having no money kinda makes your choices for you, lol!

Originally Posted by The_English_Bride (Post 8747049)

It was really nice reading all your responses. Thanks for starting thread, OP!

I've recently had a similar realization that I can actually go home! :thumbsup:

Originally Posted by Alba67 (Post 8805475)

Hi All, I've just been reading through a lot of inspiring respones, I too am considering moving back to Scotland after 17 years, I've been in Spain for the last 11 yrs,, and still have an internal battle going on as I do love Spain,, the financial side is my biggest immediate stumbling block right now, to be able to move myself and all my belongings and my 2 cats, and be able to survive while sorting myself out, I have some real rollercoaster thoughts on it all, but up until about 10 mths ago it was something which I really didn't want to do or consider, and suddenly the door opened a bit and thoughts of doing it have been growing ( a catalyst maybe being my best friend here dying last year and my parents being ill off and on). I 'm lucky in many respects that I don't have to worry about kids or a partner,, but the part of me that wants to be near my family and life long friends is just quietly screaming at me,, there are many other factors too,, so I've had more than a few little light bulb flashing moments, but it's still not clear,, reading about other people's experiences and thoughts and feelings really helps, thanks everyone, x

Originally Posted by lilybilly101 (Post 8805510)

So sorry about your friend. That must have been terrible thing to go through. My Dad was sick for a while and finally passed away so that was a big factor in our return. My Mum is strong and independent but I know wants and needs the grand kids around.

I wish you luck with your decision. I know once the 'want' to move back creeps in, it can build and build. You have to go with it and explore it or somehow put it to bed and get on with life abroad. There are so many pros and cons to this expat life eh?

Originally Posted by Alba67 (Post 8805717)

Thanks Lillybilly, it was a very tough, sad time, and I miss her terribly, I'm sorry to hear that your Dad passed away ,losing him must have been awful, and I have many moments of crazy worry thinking about my parents and their health, and being there for them as we all get older, ufff life eh!!! and yes so many pros and cons as you said about expat life,,, it's strange to be seriously thinking about going back , like you said, creeping in is exactly what's happening,,,, I'm off to Scotland on Monday for 8 days and so looking forward to it, catching up with everyone and celebrating my Dad's 7oth, the main reason for going back now, and to just see how I feel, I'd better look out my wellies!!!, my best wishes to you, x