Originally Posted by gruffbrown (Post 8159171)

I look forward to seeing you on the 46.:D

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8144052)

I think we've had similar threads before, but I'm going to start this one anyway :o

Does anyone else remember having a kind-of "Light at the End of the Tunnel" moment? I don't mean that moment when you realise you don't want to be in your "adopted" country, or that moment that you realise you want to go home. This is more aimed at the moment when people who have been living in a strange country, feeling that they can't go back cos its too complicated/expensive/difficult/just plain scary........ suddenly something happens, or someone says something, and you suddenly realise OMG Maybe I actually CAN go home.

Bit like a lightbulb going on, or that pinprick of light at the end of the tunnel ;) Does anyone else remember suddenly being able to see the way ahead, the way to facilitate that move home, and remember realising they now have the faith that they can deal with what they previously thought was out of reach? :unsure:

For me it was as simple as a few words in a pm on here, that just made me think.....hang on, I actually COULD..... and it could work cos suddenly I know how to deal with the last obstacle :thumbup:

Anyone else get what I'm rambling on about?!

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8155159)

If I wasn't afraid I'd be on QF51 tomorrow

Originally Posted by bcworld (Post 8164457)

....I can imagine you having a 'QF51' tattoo Poll! :D

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8165062)

Tempting :D
Have to get the whole thing though -QF51 BNE-SIN, QF09 SIN-LHR

And the loveliest phrase in the English language? " Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to Heathrow......."

Originally Posted by Mummy in the foothills (Post 8165114)

:rofl: I get all smilie when I hear that too.

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8165062)

Tempting :D
Have to get the whole thing though -QF51 BNE-SIN, QF09 SIN-LHR

And the loveliest phrase in the English language? " Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to Heathrow......."

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8165062)

Tempting :D
Have to get the whole thing though -QF51 BNE-SIN, QF09 SIN-LHR

And the loveliest phrase in the English language? " Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to Heathrow......."

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8155159)

Lots of thoughts chasing each other round in circles!

If I wasn't afraid I'd be on QF51 tomorrow, and outta here back home......but then my sensible side says hang on, job, somewhere to live, money to live on.....I have no cash behind me and no property to sell, and my job here is finally one I adore. The big question is, can a woman live for her job alone.....
thats where my mind starts going round in circles:D



As for the regrets thing - I promised a long-dead friend many years ago that I would never regret anything I'd done. His theor was that its a waste of energy, cos if you are going to regret it you shouldn't have done it in the first place. And he's right I don't regret anything I've done, including my move to Australia. And I don't want to find myself regretting the fact I didn't go back....but I think it needs some serious thought first from a planning perspective!

Originally Posted by mono (Post 8168279)

You know you're homesick when they say ''if you live in the UK, welcome home" over the aircraft PA after landing and you get jealous of all the people who actually do live there. You think to yourself ''f***, I've got to leave again in 3 or 4 weeks''.

Originally Posted by Margaret3 (Post 8168912)

ditto money, job, etc, but to be honest that doesnt really pose an obstacle for me, am a nurse i can live on no money anywhere, my two daughters thats another story! they are too young to leave at the moment!



i dont mean to be cruel at all, but i think these decisions are alot easier without children! and again all depends on ages of the kids.


but polly i truly wish you all the best (and can i see that pm, lol)

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8144052)

Does anyone else remember having a kind-of "Light at the End of the Tunnel" moment? I don't mean that moment when you realise you don't want to be in your "adopted" country, or that moment that you realise you want to go home. This is more aimed at the moment when people who have been living in a strange country, feeling that they can't go back cos its too complicated/expensive/difficult/just plain scary........ suddenly something happens, or someone says something, and you suddenly realise OMG Maybe I actually CAN go home.

Originally Posted by obewan (Post 8185126)

yes.
Never considered it as it wasnt an option when we came here, it just wasn't something we were going to do you know so then it just wasn't something we were going to consider. But despite all efforts we just kept getting more miserable here. One day, we sat down trying to figure out how to make things better here (aus) and suddenly thought hang on, if this just isn't right for us, we could do a, b and c and make the plan to get back to UK. It was the most uplifting day as we both suddenly worked through exactly how we could do it, what steps to take, how it could work etc. It was suddenly like that mental block of 'we're never going back' was lifted, and the way ahead was open to consider. hard to explain, but it was a massive burden lifted. We're now working through the plans. Hoping to be back in next few weeks, even though it's silly season amazingly it's not that hard to get things organised even now. And strangely, it doesn't feel like Christmas, so its a non-event for us this year anyway, but we're just happy to be almost 'there'.

Originally Posted by Pollyana (Post 8145755)

:thumbup:



That's so true. I think the actual mechanics of the move would be fairly straightforward, as they were when coming out here, but actually believing its possible to do it - that's been the tricky bit. :unsure:



Its the Can I, Can't I, which is the conundrum. Believing its possible to actually do it is the hardest bit I think. Think about what's stopping you making the decison - are they real obstacles or just excuses you are making to yourself? Almost all the things that were real obstacles for me at one time are now turning into excuses I've made to myself to avoid facing the real question of "why don't I........." Then when someone said to me "You're just scared" I suddenly realised that's all it is, and after that everything else just started to make sense and fall into place. :unsure: