WHISKYSPRITE

I understand that a lot of men are intimidated by a successful , driven , beautiful career woman , so it easier to go for a certain culture of women who need to treat you like a king and stroke your ego, but a lot of the time it's for the financial need to support themselves and their extended families. Am not saying at all that this is your relationship, but I know enough of what happens in a lot of Asian countries and why there is a genuine necessity for these girls to bag a uk man with money . I have a family member who is living with a Thai girl whom got pregnant and he now supports her and her mother, sisters etc . he has no trust in her as he knows that she would up and leave him for the next expat with a bigger pay cheque.

piero

Ok but you do have a problem in The Philippines and yes i did have a few lady friends in The UK that would pay their own way and i,ve had a wife that did try hard but i helped along the way so what. Ah you know my woman now is not a child loves me loves me not i don't care , she takes care of me and i try to take care of her. They are not all bar sluts............Trust your Husband or dont let him come here

piero

Not sure where my last post went [ polly ] but i have had woman friends in the UK that paid their own way also my wife with 2 children whose father was a waster, hey we cant all live in middle England so what i helped , it was my wife after all. So now at an older age i got a woman in her 40,s and our 8 year old boy and that's all i pay for. So if you are for real why cant you trust your husband. Why worry

robbo462003

How often have you visited the Philippines?

The Woodcutter

Try Antartica!
Seriously - it is quite obvious that you have insecurity issues and are one of these people that like to label people with generalised statements - redheads are fiery, blondes are dumb, etc. It is disturbing that a seemingly educated person like yourself genuinely believes that a filipina would over ride their ingrained virtues to bag a man with money.

If we are talking about generalisations - and that is what you are doing - that women are only interested in a man's money - it happens all over the world and not just Asia as you are suggesting. If we get back to basics we can argue that a woman, any woman, will choose a man as a life partner who can care for her and nurture her and provide a stable base for any off springs. When choosing a mate the financial stability of the male is one of many attributes that a woman will look for.

Although my sister in law is a nice lady there is no way that she would have married my brother if he had been a taxi driver for example, and there is no way that my ex wife would have married me if I had been a shelf stacker at Tescos. Both ladies in question are British and both my brother and my jobs with the respective salaries were important to them.

It is obvious that you know very little about Asia and in particular the Filipino culture and I find your original assessment quite offensive - to label filipino women the way you have. To suggest that Filipino women will target and proposition your husband wherever you go is naive and insulting.

As you have a significant hang up about this - my advice is don't come.

kevray

I think your "understanding" is misplaced, most educated men I know have a strong preference towards "successful , driven , beautiful career women" as intelligence is a huge attraction to a man, just as confidence in a man attracts a woman.

Maybe you should re-read the replies to your initial posting and rethink both your relationship and whether you should move away from the security you imagine is solely available in your home country.

piero

Even Nigella Lawson did not re marry beneath her station so beautiful career woman, yes not so many on the local council estate. What does your Husband think about his career move or don't the poor fella have a say in it

googly

bootleultras

Im 39 (hopefully not ageing that much) been over here for over 10 years now, happily married, so I think your comments about only being over here if youre ageing and want to give filipinas all your money is misled. Sure Filipinas will look for western men for a secure future if the chance arises but they are also respectful and if they see you with your wife or you tell them youre married & arent interested, many are envious and respect that......it is what they struggle to get from filipino men so who can blame them. Now if youre husband is likely to go to the bars, of course they are going to be all over him as thats what them places are there for, like it or not its a part of society. But as for your point of a place to stay, if you look for a place around the old airbase, there are many expats from all over the world living in the areas, the rental prices are a little steeper but if thats what youre looking for, its a really nice area, you should have a car if you live in the freeport zone though.

piero

A nice honest post but i think The Lady has already made up her mind and is not for turning..... don't know why but my last sentence looks familiar

bootleultras

to that mate!

hcmcman

We (male westerners) are not all after a bit of young flesh, we are not all "dirty old men".
I am married to a very intelligent successful wonderful pinay that has a great career, she is only slightly younger than me 18 months) she is or they have different values from western women, more family focused with a need to please.
Now I compare this with the attitude of western women (not saying them all) and its a no contest.
I am loved and treated like a king, I in return treat her like a queen and love her like I have never loved before. Now I could go out to the bar areas and she would not stop me, what you are missing in your relationship is the trust . That's why she need not worry, may be the cracks are already showing in your relationship???

Tony

Spafon

It's clear you don't trust your husband. Jealousy towards younger prettier women is a terrible thing and will eat away at a relationship. If your husband loves you he won't stray. Surprisingly enough, it is possible for a man to say "No". If you doubt he loves you enough, and you clearly do, it might be better to avoid areas with young pretty women in the Philippines and everywhere else in the world, including your current home.

WHISKYSPRITE

I don't have a jealousy issue at all, I am a very well established model /agent with a successful ten year plus career and a wnderful trusting long marriage.I also do know though that looks are certainly not everything , ones personality is a far more endearing asset, something that the old ugly western men with young pretty goldiggers should maybe think about!! My only issue is having to be disrespected by other women when I am out with my husband in a blatant manner. I have a fantastic long and happy marriage of over 20 plus years ! I don't suppose the majority of the people whom have commented to my post have achieved the same ? Divorcees trying to relive there youth with a younger model the same age as there grandchildren no doubt ! Least I know my husband is committed to me out of love and respect .where will your relationships be in 20 years time ???????.

chiddock

Unrelated, but a useful thing to remember if you are relocating to Subic is that you needn't go through the stress of using the international terminal at Manila airport to travel abroad.

By far the easiest way to travel long haul is to use Clark (the former American air force base) to hop over to Hong Kong and then go long haul from there.

Whilst the domestic terminal at Manila airport is great, the international terminal is a stress generator.