Me and My Family
#1156
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Mikek1,
And I agree with you. Fortunately my lovely lady has a fixed allowance to cover rent, utilities etc and the increase in water and electricity she pays for. If she asks for an increase to cover the extra costs then there will be an issue and will have to get it from a contribution from them. I have no idea how long this arrangement will go on for but they are not intruding on our privacy. They live in the small outhouse. Internet may be an issue if she realizes that she is getting quarter speed now when they are at "home". Fortunately, they do not spend much time here during the day and he has never been in our house. Waddly rarely pops in now.
Regards
And I agree with you. Fortunately my lovely lady has a fixed allowance to cover rent, utilities etc and the increase in water and electricity she pays for. If she asks for an increase to cover the extra costs then there will be an issue and will have to get it from a contribution from them. I have no idea how long this arrangement will go on for but they are not intruding on our privacy. They live in the small outhouse. Internet may be an issue if she realizes that she is getting quarter speed now when they are at "home". Fortunately, they do not spend much time here during the day and he has never been in our house. Waddly rarely pops in now.
Regards
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DO NOT Teach live classes from home. one way of getting yourself set up for a huge big fall
teach from home on line and you will not have those issues.
If you have classes from home you will be expected to get a permit and pay associated costs. as you will be teaching you must have a residence permit not a tourist permit .
You will then need to register with BIR and submit oodles of paperwork. For this reason on line teaching using skype to classrooms is being used more and more.
Things start to go missing at home.....what then etc etc . ages of student being below 18 in your private residence...there are laws against that despite any good intent.
DO NOT teach live from Home, do it on line
teach from home on line and you will not have those issues.
If you have classes from home you will be expected to get a permit and pay associated costs. as you will be teaching you must have a residence permit not a tourist permit .
You will then need to register with BIR and submit oodles of paperwork. For this reason on line teaching using skype to classrooms is being used more and more.
Things start to go missing at home.....what then etc etc . ages of student being below 18 in your private residence...there are laws against that despite any good intent.
DO NOT teach live from Home, do it on line
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Looks like I may have dodged a bullet there. I used to teach kids ( about 12-16 year olds ) English and science at the weekends, for free, well I say free those who turned up got a free soft drink and the missus made a snack. It was done on the downstairs veranda facing the front so they were always in view and sometimes one or more parents used to be there for a gossip with the missus. Now I leave it up to the teachers and get the kids excited about learning by giving money for high marks at the end of each term. Not 100% success but a great improvement in most of them, unless of course they are using some of their gains to bribe the teachers into giving higher marks.
I know a really good guy in CDO who used to do some teaching from home on pc and the Barangay captain said no do not do it the local uniform people will set you up for claiming your are doing on line stuff with kids etc . he closed down fast!! He and his wife were teaching English and computer studies. The peace of paperwork that is needed is the CHED stuff so you get central approval. Took me months to get that through when I helped set up a school in Cebu for foreign students, freaking nightmare
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Yes we ran an internet cafe from home. converted the garage area so it was part of the home!! Was given a very friendly bit of advice by the local Home owners president to not allow children in unless with older members of their family.
I know a really good guy in CDO who used to do some teaching from home on pc and the Barangay captain said no do not do it the local uniform people will set you up for claiming your are doing on line stuff with kids etc . he closed down fast!! He and his wife were teaching English and computer studies. The peace of paperwork that is needed is the CHED stuff so you get central approval. Took me months to get that through when I helped set up a school in Cebu for foreign students, freaking nightmare
I know a really good guy in CDO who used to do some teaching from home on pc and the Barangay captain said no do not do it the local uniform people will set you up for claiming your are doing on line stuff with kids etc . he closed down fast!! He and his wife were teaching English and computer studies. The peace of paperwork that is needed is the CHED stuff so you get central approval. Took me months to get that through when I helped set up a school in Cebu for foreign students, freaking nightmare
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Stokkevn,
I will be the first to admit that they are no problem. Gate is always locked, no noise from TV or radio and no intrusion on our privacy. The only noise I hear is when he is taking a shower and I am amazed at how loud and how many bodily noises I hear. Perhaps its a culture thing. However it would be fair to say that my relationship with them is curt but polite. So, they are not costing me anything and are not intrusive. But what irks is that no-one has told me what is going on. Perhaps that is my lovely lady's fault but deep down I know the finger points at me. I should be more assertive on what goes on here but as long as the situation does not change in respect to their behavior, then I will let it lie. For now.
Regards
I will be the first to admit that they are no problem. Gate is always locked, no noise from TV or radio and no intrusion on our privacy. The only noise I hear is when he is taking a shower and I am amazed at how loud and how many bodily noises I hear. Perhaps its a culture thing. However it would be fair to say that my relationship with them is curt but polite. So, they are not costing me anything and are not intrusive. But what irks is that no-one has told me what is going on. Perhaps that is my lovely lady's fault but deep down I know the finger points at me. I should be more assertive on what goes on here but as long as the situation does not change in respect to their behavior, then I will let it lie. For now.
Regards
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Stokkevn,
I will be the first to admit that they are no problem. Gate is always locked, no noise from TV or radio and no intrusion on our privacy. The only noise I hear is when he is taking a shower and I am amazed at how loud and how many bodily noises I hear. Perhaps its a culture thing. However it would be fair to say that my relationship with them is curt but polite. So, they are not costing me anything and are not intrusive. But what irks is that no-one has told me what is going on. Perhaps that is my lovely lady's fault but deep down I know the finger points at me. I should be more assertive on what goes on here but as long as the situation does not change in respect to their behavior, then I will let it lie. For now.
Regards
I will be the first to admit that they are no problem. Gate is always locked, no noise from TV or radio and no intrusion on our privacy. The only noise I hear is when he is taking a shower and I am amazed at how loud and how many bodily noises I hear. Perhaps its a culture thing. However it would be fair to say that my relationship with them is curt but polite. So, they are not costing me anything and are not intrusive. But what irks is that no-one has told me what is going on. Perhaps that is my lovely lady's fault but deep down I know the finger points at me. I should be more assertive on what goes on here but as long as the situation does not change in respect to their behavior, then I will let it lie. For now.
Regards
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Stokkevn,
I doubt if I can countenance that especially if they are not paying towards their upkeep. I know a lot of people do....but its not for me. I do find the situation here very irksome despite the fact that they keep themselves to themselves and not costing me anything extra. Irksome because Waddly is living here under a lie, owes me money which I lent to help her out and now without any reference to me having a live in boyfriend.
She has not had contact with her family for about a week whereas before she visited them most days or they were ringing her every day or so. She has not paid her fathers medicine bill this month nor half the rent as far as I am aware. I hope the situation normalizes soon. She is the only one who has helped her family in a meaningful way. When she was a little girl, she helped the fishermen drag in the nets for a few fish, at school she spent the weekends selling banana que for money and left home to earn money for her family. Now it appears they have forgotten what she has done for them. But she is very resilient but also vulnerable inside and easily hurt which sounds like a contradiction.
But you know what I mean.
Thinking of formally proposing to her in the next day or so which I think will make her feel better. But I have said that I will out of courtesy ask her father for her hand and treat them to a celebratory beach party. Wonder how that will go down. We shall see.
Regards
I doubt if I can countenance that especially if they are not paying towards their upkeep. I know a lot of people do....but its not for me. I do find the situation here very irksome despite the fact that they keep themselves to themselves and not costing me anything extra. Irksome because Waddly is living here under a lie, owes me money which I lent to help her out and now without any reference to me having a live in boyfriend.
She has not had contact with her family for about a week whereas before she visited them most days or they were ringing her every day or so. She has not paid her fathers medicine bill this month nor half the rent as far as I am aware. I hope the situation normalizes soon. She is the only one who has helped her family in a meaningful way. When she was a little girl, she helped the fishermen drag in the nets for a few fish, at school she spent the weekends selling banana que for money and left home to earn money for her family. Now it appears they have forgotten what she has done for them. But she is very resilient but also vulnerable inside and easily hurt which sounds like a contradiction.
But you know what I mean.
Thinking of formally proposing to her in the next day or so which I think will make her feel better. But I have said that I will out of courtesy ask her father for her hand and treat them to a celebratory beach party. Wonder how that will go down. We shall see.
Regards
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, Congratulations on your possible upcoming nuptials! Your GF (fiancee???) sounds like a good 'un even though her family are a pain in the backside at times! You know the philosophy here - today is what counts, not what happened in the past. They probably look on her past help as nothing more than her responsibility at the time and so is forgotten very quickly, unlike us Brits who remember the kindnesses shown us even though it was some time ago. Good luck for the future and please keep us updated! I am in contact with 2 Brits who have read ALL 78 pages of your saga as they are looking to join their GFs here! It's opened their eyes!
Regards,
gary
Regards,
gary
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Unfortunately here, help is rarely thanked and never remembered.
My wife gave two of her cousins kid's money ( one P30k the other about P20k ) so they could go overseas to work. Neither I nor my wife ever received a thank you from parents or the kids, one of the kids was home not long ago, never came round to see her. The parents of the other kid no longer speak to my wife as they are now business people ( Sari-sari store and buy/sell a few sacks of rice ) and we are only retirees.
My wife gave two of her cousins kid's money ( one P30k the other about P20k ) so they could go overseas to work. Neither I nor my wife ever received a thank you from parents or the kids, one of the kids was home not long ago, never came round to see her. The parents of the other kid no longer speak to my wife as they are now business people ( Sari-sari store and buy/sell a few sacks of rice ) and we are only retirees.
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Unfortunately here, help is rarely thanked and never remembered.
My wife gave two of her cousins kid's money ( one P30k the other about P20k ) so they could go overseas to work. Neither I nor my wife ever received a thank you from parents or the kids, one of the kids was home not long ago, never came round to see her. The parents of the other kid no longer speak to my wife as they are now business people ( Sari-sari store and buy/sell a few sacks of rice ) and we are only retirees.
My wife gave two of her cousins kid's money ( one P30k the other about P20k ) so they could go overseas to work. Neither I nor my wife ever received a thank you from parents or the kids, one of the kids was home not long ago, never came round to see her. The parents of the other kid no longer speak to my wife as they are now business people ( Sari-sari store and buy/sell a few sacks of rice ) and we are only retirees.
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It seems this is "normal Life" in The Philippines. My GF was the same, sending money each month for her sisters medicine, which I think is only right as her sister could not afford it. But she was always first port of call whenever the rest of the family needed something, fortunately now that things are serious between us it's our money for our house so they have to look to other family members for help.
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Can I just add my congratulations , your determination to make it work for you both is a credit to you. I can't wait for the report on the engagement party.
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