Where do you call "Home"?
Jul 5th 2007, 5:46 am
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Where do you call "Home"?
I feel like that too. My husband laughs at me when we go back to the UK...because I'll talk to anyone and everyone who will listen. It's wonderful to be understood and not have to keep repeating yourself. I can understand them too...but more than that I just seem to 'click' with the people back home.
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
Jul 5th 2007, 5:48 am
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i probably should stop myself here but it's something i have to ask
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
Jul 5th 2007, 5:50 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
i probably should stop myself here but it's something i have to ask
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
Jul 5th 2007, 5:56 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
i probably should stop myself here but it's something i have to ask
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
when you refer to "people back home" don't you ever stop to consider that "home" is where you're at currently?
i don't mean to pick you in particular, it's something i notice regularly and seems strange to me
Jul 5th 2007, 5:58 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
wouldn't this give the impression that your heart is not really in to giving it a go?
i need to understand this a bit more, please
Jul 5th 2007, 6:02 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
I thought of here as home when I was settled here. UK would always be my home home as I grew up there though.
I found when I started doubting staying here, then pined for England, thats when this wasnt my home anymore, just a place I was living - it didnt have my heart anymore, England did.
Jul 5th 2007, 6:02 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
It's a bit like having a great mother in law/father in law...they may be great people and love you and you love them...but they can never replace your parents. You only have one mum and dad.
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Jul 5th 2007, 6:09 am
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I say 'home' in reference to the UK because that is the one thing most of us have in common. We are posting on here because we miss home. Personally I don't like 'UK' but it's easier to write than England or Britain...so I use 'home'. Another reason is England will always be my home...yes my home is here in the US...but deep down my heart will always belong to England.
maybe what i'm lacking is a sense of belonging
Jul 5th 2007, 6:11 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
Did try to make NZ home and really put effort into it, but just didnt work out there.
I think it depends on each individual. I'm 100% certain i tired to make NZ "home" just never became so.
This "home" feeling is something i really believe should be taken more seriously by some people on the immigration forum. It worries me to read posts on there about people having second thoughts but still going. Also saying they are close to family but want to go etc.
These are the sort of people who are very likely to end up in strife, but you cant go in there and say so because you are p*ssing on their parade and risk abuse from the rose tinters. I believe those with strong family ties back in UK will ultimately suffer... i know i have!!
Jul 5th 2007, 6:13 am
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In some ways yes, I spose it would.
I thought of here as home when I was settled here. UK would always be my home home as I grew up there though.
I found when I started doubting staying here, then pined for England, thats when this wasnt my home anymore, just a place I was living - it didnt have my heart anymore, England did.
I thought of here as home when I was settled here. UK would always be my home home as I grew up there though.
I found when I started doubting staying here, then pined for England, thats when this wasnt my home anymore, just a place I was living - it didnt have my heart anymore, England did.
they may or may not be one and the same
Jul 5th 2007, 6:15 am
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i was just chatting to someone off forum about MBTTUK and saying that i don't post in here despite the fact that i'm moving back, mainly because i don't fully relate to the emotional struggles most posters in here seem to have
maybe what i'm lacking is a sense of belonging
maybe what i'm lacking is a sense of belonging
Do you think of here as home?
Jul 5th 2007, 6:16 am
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i was just chatting to someone off forum about MBTTUK and saying that i don't post in here despite the fact that i'm moving back, mainly because i don't fully relate to the emotional struggles most posters in here seem to have
maybe what i'm lacking is a sense of belonging
maybe what i'm lacking is a sense of belonging
We are in the position of now being able to buy a place in the UK...so that I can spend more time there. We will eventually split our time between the UK, US and possibly Canada.
Jul 5th 2007, 6:20 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
I dont know. I didnt initially leave the UK to come to Aus i just ended up here..lol
Did try to make NZ home and really put effort into it, but just didnt work out there.
I think it depends on each individual. I'm 100% certain i tired to make NZ "home" just never became so.
This "home" feeling is something i really believe should be taken more seriously by some people on the immigration forum. It worries me to read posts on there about people having second thoughts but still going. Also saying they are close to family but want to go etc.
These are the sort of people who are very likely to end up in strife, but you cant go in there and say so because you are p*ssing on their parade and risk abuse from the rose tinters. I believe those with strong family ties back in UK will ultimately suffer... i know i have!!
Did try to make NZ home and really put effort into it, but just didnt work out there.
I think it depends on each individual. I'm 100% certain i tired to make NZ "home" just never became so.
This "home" feeling is something i really believe should be taken more seriously by some people on the immigration forum. It worries me to read posts on there about people having second thoughts but still going. Also saying they are close to family but want to go etc.
These are the sort of people who are very likely to end up in strife, but you cant go in there and say so because you are p*ssing on their parade and risk abuse from the rose tinters. I believe those with strong family ties back in UK will ultimately suffer... i know i have!!
Jul 5th 2007, 6:23 am
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Re: Homesick in Sydney
Very true, and i would never tell anyone they should not go for it if the pull is very strong. I am actually glad i did it, but my situation is quite different from most as i didnt have dependant children to consider.