Over 40's Moving Back and Catching Up
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More back lane photos taken yesterday:
https://www.flickr.com/photos/island...7645236634644/
https://www.flickr.com/photos/island...7645236634644/
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More back lane photos taken yesterday:
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I think Windsong is emotionally and physically upset, worn out, and a little frightened of her present situation. I personally feel very sorry for her. I can't do anything to help, but I just wish her well. It must very hard to be in your 60s, with no family, wanting to move, having the rug pulled out from under you with suddenly no job and no home, and having to care for two pets. I probably would be a little crazed too. Windsong has been a part of the forum for a long time, and we are all different in the way we act emotionally. I hope it all comes together for her.
Drama doesn't help it sort of feeds itself and makes it all seem worse than it really is.
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I just can't be doing with all the drama - one of the reasons I prefer not to own a telly!
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Going Home
I have been thinking about those who dont get to go home who are not part of the 'lucky ones", over the years I have met many of them, for one reason or another they just didnt make it. Some sad stories some who just decided they had waited too long, others like me because of sickness decided to stay.
The sad thing is that with most of the above they have never lost that desire to go home its always in the back of their minds. Those who do best are those who forget about it and move on but some of us are stuck with that desire to still maybe get home.
You have to look at the reasons why you didnt go home and for many its children they hate to be parted from them others like me are just not sure they would get the right treatment for what ails them.
Another group and to me these are sad are those who are just to scared to make that jump, they read and hear things about the UK and it makes them afraid. Some think that when they go back its going to be as they left it and thats never going to happen no matter where you move to. But I respect those who had made the move and decided it wasnt for them and returned to the country they left.
I think about Easterndawn who had such a hard time in Scotland one of the main problems for her was money, she went without any. That is a big setback. You really need to have some savings to fall back on.
We have had so many kind people on here who had come back and let us know what they think the good and bad some post to other forums but they do return, I really dont mind when people who have returned no longer post they just dont have time, but those that do I really appreciate because they have made time and let us know what its like at home and we can learn from them. Thats what this forum has always been about. Learning from one another and giving helpful advice.
I may never get home but it will always be in the back of my mind like many other Ex-Pats. Thats why I say if you are thinking about going home do it. Dont dither make plans, make lists and decide on a year and get everything sorted so you dont panic at the end.
I have been thinking about those who dont get to go home who are not part of the 'lucky ones", over the years I have met many of them, for one reason or another they just didnt make it. Some sad stories some who just decided they had waited too long, others like me because of sickness decided to stay.
The sad thing is that with most of the above they have never lost that desire to go home its always in the back of their minds. Those who do best are those who forget about it and move on but some of us are stuck with that desire to still maybe get home.
You have to look at the reasons why you didnt go home and for many its children they hate to be parted from them others like me are just not sure they would get the right treatment for what ails them.
Another group and to me these are sad are those who are just to scared to make that jump, they read and hear things about the UK and it makes them afraid. Some think that when they go back its going to be as they left it and thats never going to happen no matter where you move to. But I respect those who had made the move and decided it wasnt for them and returned to the country they left.
I think about Easterndawn who had such a hard time in Scotland one of the main problems for her was money, she went without any. That is a big setback. You really need to have some savings to fall back on.
We have had so many kind people on here who had come back and let us know what they think the good and bad some post to other forums but they do return, I really dont mind when people who have returned no longer post they just dont have time, but those that do I really appreciate because they have made time and let us know what its like at home and we can learn from them. Thats what this forum has always been about. Learning from one another and giving helpful advice.
I may never get home but it will always be in the back of my mind like many other Ex-Pats. Thats why I say if you are thinking about going home do it. Dont dither make plans, make lists and decide on a year and get everything sorted so you dont panic at the end.
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Talking about places to visit. The have just opened Bletchley Park, I would love to see it...
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Going Home
I have been thinking about those who dont get to go home who are not part of the 'lucky ones", over the years I have met many of them, for one reason or another they just didnt make it. Some sad stories some who just decided they had waited too long, others like me because of sickness decided to stay.
The sad thing is that with most of the above they have never lost that desire to go home its always in the back of their minds. Those who do best are those who forget about it and move on but some of us are stuck with that desire to still maybe get home.
You have to look at the reasons why you didnt go home and for many its children they hate to be parted from them others like me are just not sure they would get the right treatment for what ails them.
Another group and to me these are sad are those who are just to scared to make that jump, they read and hear things about the UK and it makes them afraid. Some think that when they go back its going to be as they left it and thats never going to happen no matter where you move to. But I respect those who had made the move and decided it wasnt for them and returned to the country they left.
I think about Easterndawn who had such a hard time in Scotland one of the main problems for her was money, she went without any. That is a big setback. You really need to have some savings to fall back on.
We have had so many kind people on here who had come back and let us know what they think the good and bad some post to other forums but they do return, I really dont mind when people who have returned no longer post they just dont have time, but those that do I really appreciate because they have made time and let us know what its like at home and we can learn from them. Thats what this forum has always been about. Learning from one another and giving helpful advice.
I may never get home but it will always be in the back of my mind like many other Ex-Pats. Thats why I say if you are thinking about going home do it. Dont dither make plans, make lists and decide on a year and get everything sorted so you dont panic at the end.
I have been thinking about those who dont get to go home who are not part of the 'lucky ones", over the years I have met many of them, for one reason or another they just didnt make it. Some sad stories some who just decided they had waited too long, others like me because of sickness decided to stay.
The sad thing is that with most of the above they have never lost that desire to go home its always in the back of their minds. Those who do best are those who forget about it and move on but some of us are stuck with that desire to still maybe get home.
You have to look at the reasons why you didnt go home and for many its children they hate to be parted from them others like me are just not sure they would get the right treatment for what ails them.
Another group and to me these are sad are those who are just to scared to make that jump, they read and hear things about the UK and it makes them afraid. Some think that when they go back its going to be as they left it and thats never going to happen no matter where you move to. But I respect those who had made the move and decided it wasnt for them and returned to the country they left.
I think about Easterndawn who had such a hard time in Scotland one of the main problems for her was money, she went without any. That is a big setback. You really need to have some savings to fall back on.
We have had so many kind people on here who had come back and let us know what they think the good and bad some post to other forums but they do return, I really dont mind when people who have returned no longer post they just dont have time, but those that do I really appreciate because they have made time and let us know what its like at home and we can learn from them. Thats what this forum has always been about. Learning from one another and giving helpful advice.
I may never get home but it will always be in the back of my mind like many other Ex-Pats. Thats why I say if you are thinking about going home do it. Dont dither make plans, make lists and decide on a year and get everything sorted so you dont panic at the end.
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I sometimes give thought to what it may have been like for expats who left Uk for other countries in previous centuries and never had any hope of ever going back. There must have been the whole spectrum of homesickness, or not, amongst, for instance, the settlers in the new world of america.
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I was fascinated to see the early computers there with oil drip pans beneath them because they are essentially mechanical machines.
Tickets were good for a year of re-entry.
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Last summer I read a couple of war bride memoirs and sobbed through the whole thing. Once you came over that was pretty much it, in terms of visiting.
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Bletchley was fascinating when we visited about 5 yrs ago on a visit to UK and well worth the visit. Flew overnight from US, collected rental car and driving north anyway stopped by Bletchley. Was jet lagged but kept wide awake by our tour guide, a sprightly lady who was a WREN there during WWII and she brought the whole history alive.
I was fascinated to see the early computers there with oil drip pans beneath them because they are essentially mechanical machines.
Tickets were good for a year of re-entry.
I was fascinated to see the early computers there with oil drip pans beneath them because they are essentially mechanical machines.
Tickets were good for a year of re-entry.
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In her later years on visits to US which she really enjoyed, my Mother commented that she now wished she had been a war bride - but back in the day wasn't interested because word got back to UK that it was a one-way trip and that, at that time, many of the glamourous Yanks, once back home and out the military, turned out to be less than attractive and lived in shanty shacks.
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I read quite a few articles on War Brides, some were lied to and expected nice homes and found themselves in shacks in the middle of nowhere. They didn't even have the money to return home, very sad. Off course back home many didn't get any sympathy because they had married yanks....
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