Moving back on Tuesday! Prepare me for the reverse culture shock after 10 years in US
May 11th 2014, 4:37 pm
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May 11th 2014, 4:44 pm
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The news is full of misery, nary a piece of good news in sight.
Latest headlines from the BBC News Scotland:
Co-op supermarket robbed in Dundee
Woman held in deaths 'fraud' inquiry
Protest in Glasgow over abductions
Man traced in sex attack CCTV plea
Woman's body found after flat fall
Man, 62, dies following flat fire
RAF probe over 'dead Taliban' images
Man jailed for threats sent to police
Human remains found at fire cottage
Man in court on six charges of rape
- one piece of good news, though: Celtic receive Premiership trophy
Latest headlines from the BBC News Scotland:
Co-op supermarket robbed in Dundee
Woman held in deaths 'fraud' inquiry
Protest in Glasgow over abductions
Man traced in sex attack CCTV plea
Woman's body found after flat fall
Man, 62, dies following flat fire
RAF probe over 'dead Taliban' images
Man jailed for threats sent to police
Human remains found at fire cottage
Man in court on six charges of rape
- one piece of good news, though: Celtic receive Premiership trophy
May 12th 2014, 7:16 pm
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Possibly, though the OP was asking for our personal experiences - do you still use sarcasm?
I was gone for 23 years so not only did I have a longer time to become acculturated to other ways of thinking but I saw other ways of being funny than taking the piss out of the person you are talking to.
I was gone for 23 years so not only did I have a longer time to become acculturated to other ways of thinking but I saw other ways of being funny than taking the piss out of the person you are talking to.
I have always teased people I like. The difference now that I'm back home is that no-one takes offense
May 12th 2014, 7:19 pm
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TV shows are often only a week later now, and movies are very often at the same time. We have two automatic cars. But yes, it's grey a lot
May 12th 2014, 7:27 pm
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i was gone for 22 years and had to lose my sarcasm because I kept upsetting people, but the minute I came back, it was such a relief to be able to have a laugh with relative strangers using sarcasm and irony. Oh hallelujah! No-one gets offended and you can bond quickly over a laugh.
I have always teased people I like. The difference now that I'm back home is that no-one takes offense
I have always teased people I like. The difference now that I'm back home is that no-one takes offense
Yes, I think there is a difference between sarcasm that is friendly teasing, and "sarcasm as an excuse for mean-spirited rudeness, disguised as humour".
Maybe it's the places I have frequented - I won't name specific towns but there is one I used to visit where I saw a lot of the latter. I think that is where lgabriel and I were getting our wires crossed - we were talking about opposite ends of the sarcasm continuum, so to speak..
May 12th 2014, 9:09 pm
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After over 12 years overseas I was expecting)some of the changes that had happened since we lived in the UK, some things at first I found very different but I did not worry (I kept remembering how I first felt when we arrived in Aus) and that given time you adjust and before you know it you don't even remember what you found had changed. Good luck and try and take things as they come one step at a time.
May 12th 2014, 9:13 pm
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i was gone for 22 years and had to lose my sarcasm because I kept upsetting people, but the minute I came back, it was such a relief to be able to have a laugh with relative strangers using sarcasm and irony. Oh hallelujah! No-one gets offended and you can bond quickly over a laugh.
I have always teased people I like. The difference now that I'm back home is that no-one takes offense
I have always teased people I like. The difference now that I'm back home is that no-one takes offense
May 14th 2014, 8:59 pm
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I did get some weird looks when I came over all enthusiastic (as you do when you live in in the US). It took me a while to adapt to the more low-key, subtle, sarcastic sense of humour. People are especially "dour" up here in Glasgow, which made the contrast even greater.
And driving and parking was a nightmare at first.
And driving and parking was a nightmare at first.
).Only the other day when I was having a plesant, happy exchange with a sales assistant it dawned on me that when I first came over here, such cheerful enthusiasm really grated on me. Now I actually really like it and I'm not sure what I'll make of the more solemn attitudes that await me in Glasgow's shops haha!
May 15th 2014, 6:57 am
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You've got to be careful..........
I said to a staff member in a shop when the subject of Australia came up that I lived there for 37 years but was in a coma for 30 of them!
The young man looked horrified!
I quickly tried to explain but he was clearly struggling, so I gave up and left sharpish.
I said to a staff member in a shop when the subject of Australia came up that I lived there for 37 years but was in a coma for 30 of them!
The young man looked horrified!
I quickly tried to explain but he was clearly struggling, so I gave up and left sharpish.
May 15th 2014, 7:04 am
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I'm moving back to good old dour Glasgow after almost two years in Canada (drop in the ocean compared to most of you lot, I know ).
Only the other day when I was having a plesant, happy exchange with a sales assistant it dawned on me that when I first came over here, such cheerful enthusiasm really grated on me. Now I actually really like it and I'm not sure what I'll make of the more solemn attitudes that await me in Glasgow's shops haha!
).Only the other day when I was having a plesant, happy exchange with a sales assistant it dawned on me that when I first came over here, such cheerful enthusiasm really grated on me. Now I actually really like it and I'm not sure what I'll make of the more solemn attitudes that await me in Glasgow's shops haha!
May 15th 2014, 7:06 am
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You've got to be careful..........
I said to a staff member in a shop when the subject of Australia came up that I lived there for 37 years but was in a coma for 30 of them!
The young man looked horrified!
I quickly tried to explain but he was clearly struggling, so I gave up and left sharpish.
I said to a staff member in a shop when the subject of Australia came up that I lived there for 37 years but was in a coma for 30 of them!
The young man looked horrified!
I quickly tried to explain but he was clearly struggling, so I gave up and left sharpish.
May 15th 2014, 7:52 am
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May 15th 2014, 7:56 am
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Welcome back to the UK, hope your trip was pleasant, and you are now finding just how much of a culture shock there is, hope thngs are going well.
May 15th 2014, 8:01 am
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It has been an absolute joy getting back to people who are very happy to take the piss out of themselves and take criticism without getting all precious about it.
May 15th 2014, 5:03 pm
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I saw an interview with Matt LeBlanc (Joey from friends) he said basically the difference was in the UK it is expected that the audience will just understand whereas in America they need to be hit over the head with it.
It has been an absolute joy getting back to people who are very happy to take the piss out of themselves and take criticism without getting all precious about it.
It has been an absolute joy getting back to people who are very happy to take the piss out of themselves and take criticism without getting all precious about it.