Moving Back to Scotland
Dec 20th 2021, 2:00 am
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Moving Back to Scotland
Hi Everyone
After umming and ahhing for a very long time thought I'd put this out there for anyone else feeling the same and see what happens.
Been living in Perth Western Australia for 25 years, originally from Lanarkshire, I have no family here they are all. Married an Aussie and have 2 kids - daughter 17 and son 13, both kids have British and Australian passports. My kids have both been to the UK several times on longish holidays and know my family and old friends reasonably well. Since I got divorced around 6 years ago the pull of home has got so much stronger and the time is coming that I need to get on with it or shut up talking about it and stay here.
I have sole custody of my kids, daughter is going into year 12 in Feb next year and after a few tough years at high school will be doing a bridging course to allow her to get into uni here, she wants to do nursing, She has never been keen on going to live in Scotland anytime we've talked about it but did mention that she would consider going there for uni. So I called Napier uni but was told as the Nursing course is funded by the NHS you have to be a resident for 3 years to apply, this is same for that course for all of UK. She does not know what else she wants to do or really even how the bridging course would work once its finished to transfer to a UK uni. My son is 13 and no issues at all in going back there and if we went back he would have 3 - 4 years at school there so if he decided to go to a Scottish uni the fees would be covered..
My turmoil is, do I let her finish year 12 here then after she starts uni in 2023 leave her here by herself while my son and I go back to Scotland? I feel so torn by this as I've has my kids fulltime with sole custody since I got divorced, we have no family here so she would literally be by herself. She had a tough time last couple of years with some mental health issue (way better now) and had to change school at start of year 10. I feel awful thinking of leaving her here but I also feel that if I dont go in the next 12 - 18 months I may never go and I will feel resentful for the rest of my days.
My family and friends in Scotland and friends here in Oz think I'm nuts to even consider this. However, we may have a great lifestyle here but I miss my family and old friends, my parents are aging and the feeling of wanting to go home just isn't going away.
I would appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and give me their 5 cents worth.
After umming and ahhing for a very long time thought I'd put this out there for anyone else feeling the same and see what happens.
Been living in Perth Western Australia for 25 years, originally from Lanarkshire, I have no family here they are all. Married an Aussie and have 2 kids - daughter 17 and son 13, both kids have British and Australian passports. My kids have both been to the UK several times on longish holidays and know my family and old friends reasonably well. Since I got divorced around 6 years ago the pull of home has got so much stronger and the time is coming that I need to get on with it or shut up talking about it and stay here.
I have sole custody of my kids, daughter is going into year 12 in Feb next year and after a few tough years at high school will be doing a bridging course to allow her to get into uni here, she wants to do nursing, She has never been keen on going to live in Scotland anytime we've talked about it but did mention that she would consider going there for uni. So I called Napier uni but was told as the Nursing course is funded by the NHS you have to be a resident for 3 years to apply, this is same for that course for all of UK. She does not know what else she wants to do or really even how the bridging course would work once its finished to transfer to a UK uni. My son is 13 and no issues at all in going back there and if we went back he would have 3 - 4 years at school there so if he decided to go to a Scottish uni the fees would be covered..
My turmoil is, do I let her finish year 12 here then after she starts uni in 2023 leave her here by herself while my son and I go back to Scotland? I feel so torn by this as I've has my kids fulltime with sole custody since I got divorced, we have no family here so she would literally be by herself. She had a tough time last couple of years with some mental health issue (way better now) and had to change school at start of year 10. I feel awful thinking of leaving her here but I also feel that if I dont go in the next 12 - 18 months I may never go and I will feel resentful for the rest of my days.
My family and friends in Scotland and friends here in Oz think I'm nuts to even consider this. However, we may have a great lifestyle here but I miss my family and old friends, my parents are aging and the feeling of wanting to go home just isn't going away.
I would appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and give me their 5 cents worth.
Dec 21st 2021, 1:27 am
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Muskoka, Ontario
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Re: Moving Back to Scotland
I can’t offer you any advice. Similar boat with my eldest and for similar reasons feel like it’s next year or stay forever….
I still haven’t decided what to do, and we do have to decide soon. I’m so worried about doing the wrong thing for them.
I still haven’t decided what to do, and we do have to decide soon. I’m so worried about doing the wrong thing for them.
Dec 21st 2021, 10:34 am
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Re: Moving Back to Scotland
Hi Everyone
After umming and ahhing for a very long time thought I'd put this out there for anyone else feeling the same and see what happens.
Been living in Perth Western Australia for 25 years, originally from Lanarkshire, I have no family here they are all. Married an Aussie and have 2 kids - daughter 17 and son 13, both kids have British and Australian passports. My kids have both been to the UK several times on longish holidays and know my family and old friends reasonably well. Since I got divorced around 6 years ago the pull of home has got so much stronger and the time is coming that I need to get on with it or shut up talking about it and stay here.
I have sole custody of my kids, daughter is going into year 12 in Feb next year and after a few tough years at high school will be doing a bridging course to allow her to get into uni here, she wants to do nursing, She has never been keen on going to live in Scotland anytime we've talked about it but did mention that she would consider going there for uni. So I called Napier uni but was told as the Nursing course is funded by the NHS you have to be a resident for 3 years to apply, this is same for that course for all of UK. She does not know what else she wants to do or really even how the bridging course would work once its finished to transfer to a UK uni. My son is 13 and no issues at all in going back there and if we went back he would have 3 - 4 years at school there so if he decided to go to a Scottish uni the fees would be covered..
My turmoil is, do I let her finish year 12 here then after she starts uni in 2023 leave her here by herself while my son and I go back to Scotland? I feel so torn by this as I've has my kids fulltime with sole custody since I got divorced, we have no family here so she would literally be by herself. She had a tough time last couple of years with some mental health issue (way better now) and had to change school at start of year 10. I feel awful thinking of leaving her here but I also feel that if I dont go in the next 12 - 18 months I may never go and I will feel resentful for the rest of my days.
My family and friends in Scotland and friends here in Oz think I'm nuts to even consider this. However, we may have a great lifestyle here but I miss my family and old friends, my parents are aging and the feeling of wanting to go home just isn't going away.
I would appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and give me their 5 cents worth.
After umming and ahhing for a very long time thought I'd put this out there for anyone else feeling the same and see what happens.
Been living in Perth Western Australia for 25 years, originally from Lanarkshire, I have no family here they are all. Married an Aussie and have 2 kids - daughter 17 and son 13, both kids have British and Australian passports. My kids have both been to the UK several times on longish holidays and know my family and old friends reasonably well. Since I got divorced around 6 years ago the pull of home has got so much stronger and the time is coming that I need to get on with it or shut up talking about it and stay here.
I have sole custody of my kids, daughter is going into year 12 in Feb next year and after a few tough years at high school will be doing a bridging course to allow her to get into uni here, she wants to do nursing, She has never been keen on going to live in Scotland anytime we've talked about it but did mention that she would consider going there for uni. So I called Napier uni but was told as the Nursing course is funded by the NHS you have to be a resident for 3 years to apply, this is same for that course for all of UK. She does not know what else she wants to do or really even how the bridging course would work once its finished to transfer to a UK uni. My son is 13 and no issues at all in going back there and if we went back he would have 3 - 4 years at school there so if he decided to go to a Scottish uni the fees would be covered..
My turmoil is, do I let her finish year 12 here then after she starts uni in 2023 leave her here by herself while my son and I go back to Scotland? I feel so torn by this as I've has my kids fulltime with sole custody since I got divorced, we have no family here so she would literally be by herself. She had a tough time last couple of years with some mental health issue (way better now) and had to change school at start of year 10. I feel awful thinking of leaving her here but I also feel that if I dont go in the next 12 - 18 months I may never go and I will feel resentful for the rest of my days.
My family and friends in Scotland and friends here in Oz think I'm nuts to even consider this. However, we may have a great lifestyle here but I miss my family and old friends, my parents are aging and the feeling of wanting to go home just isn't going away.
I would appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and give me their 5 cents worth.
