How often do you go back to visit UK relatives?
#31
Re: How often do you go back to visit UK relatives?
I think us BE'rs should all chip in and buy a few holiday cottages dotted around the UK - then we could tell all our in-laws, out-laws and friends that we can't stay with them as we have to get our moneys worth out of our timeshares
#32
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Re: How often do you go back to visit UK relatives?
Now that they have died, we rent a cottage and have a real holiday. One year, I went over on my own and rented a cottage in Northumberland and stayed there with my sister & her partner .. we had a great time, and pretty much drunk Alnwick dry I think!!
#33
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I do agree with you -- my wife and I basically spent almost all vacations from 1973 to 2006 visiting parents/inlaws & a lot of it is sitting on the edge of the sofa in the front room, sipping interminable cups of tea. This is an inevitable function of living thousands of miles away from your parents. But, I think it is necessary to keep the relationship alive. In my parents case, they would never consider visiting America -- like a lot of English people of their generation, they hated and despised everything to do with America (that never made it easy for my long-suffering wife...!)
Now that they have died, we rent a cottage and have a real holiday. One year, I went over on my own and rented a cottage in Northumberland and stayed there with my sister & her partner .. we had a great time, and pretty much drunk Alnwick dry I think!!
Now that they have died, we rent a cottage and have a real holiday. One year, I went over on my own and rented a cottage in Northumberland and stayed there with my sister & her partner .. we had a great time, and pretty much drunk Alnwick dry I think!!
#34
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I have an aunt in the uk who said she is 'done with' me (meaning she wants nothing to do with me) because the last time I went over with my girls (then 18 months and 3 year old) I did not go visit her. Yeap I travelled 4000 miles with 2 kids and she could not bring herself 6 miles to visit me at my dads house. Family's are a funny thing!
We go back to the UK once every 2 years or so - would like to get back more ideally, but find its just not practical with stingy US vacation allowance.
#35
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Yeap....while not to that extent, I've also had some of that kind of thing happen. But I refuse to go around visiting all and sundry - they need to come to us at my parents house, IMO, and if they don't like it - too bad.
We go back to the UK once every 2 years or so - would like to get back more ideally, but find its just not practical with stingy US vacation allowance.
We go back to the UK once every 2 years or so - would like to get back more ideally, but find its just not practical with stingy US vacation allowance.
#36
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Re: How often do you go back to visit UK relatives?
only been here about 18 months, had a forced visit over Christmas, New Year and my kids 4th birthday, due to a major problem with our house in the UK where a survey said we had subsidence! (we didn't) and it was easier being on the ground, arrived in the UK with 24 hours notice and spend the next 10 weeks intending to stay on a lilo in our house, didn't spend one night there, friends and family stepped up to the plate, and took it in turns to look after me, but our real plan is to do the same as my husbands cousin, who lives in the States for the last 10 yrs and he goes home every 2 years for Christmas just as we did when in the UK, we where in Kent, hubbies family Scotland.
hubbies family are feeling the crunch, so haven't visited, best friend in 2 weeks, is visiting..I am soo excited..we are going to NY for 2 days without kids... and my brother promises early next year, but he is in the Army, so things came change and if not before April he will be in Afghanistan!
No parents for me so not that problem.
hubbies family are feeling the crunch, so haven't visited, best friend in 2 weeks, is visiting..I am soo excited..we are going to NY for 2 days without kids... and my brother promises early next year, but he is in the Army, so things came change and if not before April he will be in Afghanistan!
No parents for me so not that problem.
#37
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I've been here nearly 2 years and have managed to get back once, last February, thanks to a British Airways promotion. My wife and I would like to go again for Thanksgiving 2010, which gives us time to save up for the air fares and accrue some leave.
I'm starting a new job this week, but the paid leave is piffling, just 5 days a year. I feel awfully churlish complaining about it - being offered a job in the middle of this recession is a blessing - but it takes me 5 days to get over my jet-lag once I'm there! What's stopping American businesses offering European levels of annual leave, do they think workers will go all soft and not work harder or something?
I agree strongly with those who are frustrated by the family obligations using up their valuable UK time. If only we could afford the holiday cottage option, that would save a load of hassle. I feel awful, because we have to stay with my mother who smokes and has let the house go a bit. I would like to stay with my brother, but I just know my mother would be deeply offended and take it all personally.
My dream would be to win zillions on the lottery, buy a house in the UK and the US and spend 6 months of the year in each country. But that's never going to happen, so I'll have to settle for whistle-stop, jet-lagged trips once a year.
I'm starting a new job this week, but the paid leave is piffling, just 5 days a year. I feel awfully churlish complaining about it - being offered a job in the middle of this recession is a blessing - but it takes me 5 days to get over my jet-lag once I'm there! What's stopping American businesses offering European levels of annual leave, do they think workers will go all soft and not work harder or something?
I agree strongly with those who are frustrated by the family obligations using up their valuable UK time. If only we could afford the holiday cottage option, that would save a load of hassle. I feel awful, because we have to stay with my mother who smokes and has let the house go a bit. I would like to stay with my brother, but I just know my mother would be deeply offended and take it all personally.
My dream would be to win zillions on the lottery, buy a house in the UK and the US and spend 6 months of the year in each country. But that's never going to happen, so I'll have to settle for whistle-stop, jet-lagged trips once a year.
#38
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When we first came over, we could not afford it so it was a good 5 years before we headed back. Then averaged every 2nd to 3rd year with the kids after that. When my parents were getting to their frail years, I was back every year and then in the last year of their lives, back three times! Now it is no longer a family thing as my kids are grown but I ship hubby back to Scotland to see his Mum every year. I go sometimes, but I know from my own experience that it is comforting to know you tried to be there for them at much as possible before they pass on.
#39
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I'm starting a new job this week, but the paid leave is piffling, just 5 days a I feel awful, because we have to stay with my mother who smokes and has let the house go a bit. I would like to stay with my brother, but I just know my mother would be deeply offended and take it all personally.
#40
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Re: How often do you go back to visit UK relatives?
We've been here for a little over year, we have two small boys who are the only grandchildren on both sides. So far we've planned to go back to visit once per year. My parents are not able to come here (they are looking after elderly relatives) for the forseeable future so If I want to see them I'll have to go there.
I'm just wondering if many of you found that as the years have gone by you've been more or less inclined to make regular trips back to the UK?
I'm just wondering if many of you found that as the years have gone by you've been more or less inclined to make regular trips back to the UK?
#41
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I go back twice a year mother has to have her visits I should not complain, if nature takes its course one day I might wish I was going back to blighty.
#42
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When my children were young i always went back twice a year , the summer for about four to six weeks and then in November because the airfares were so cheap , I would only go for about a week to ten days , November was when it was all aout family ,summer we did alot of traveling in the Uk
#43
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Very true Poppy, I know I wish I still had 'that' reason to go home for visits
#45
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We've been here for a little over year, we have two small boys who are the only grandchildren on both sides. So far we've planned to go back to visit once per year. My parents are not able to come here (they are looking after elderly relatives) for the forseeable future so If I want to see them I'll have to go there.
I'm just wondering if many of you found that as the years have gone by you've been more or less inclined to make regular trips back to the UK?
I'm just wondering if many of you found that as the years have gone by you've been more or less inclined to make regular trips back to the UK?
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